https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 05:33:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ways-to-console-someone-who-lost-a-lot-of-money#post-2909824 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 11:41:48 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2909824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I've been meditating on your answer since I read it last night. Thank you for that!</p> <p>I think my plan for now is to just call her more often and check-up on her. I'm thinking about maybe getting people to visit her if it really gets bad. I hope she gets through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ways-to-console-someone-who-lost-a-lot-of-money#post-2909794 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 09:29:15 +0000 Ajsmommy 2909794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Something similar happened to some of my relatives... there was rumor that his company was going to sell and that he and the other executives or whatever were going to be "set". They went so far as to even discuss what to do with it with a financial guy/institution … there was even talks of trust funds etc... of course in the end it never happened. In their circumstances they took it in stride as if it was money that they never really had anyway and sure it was fun to "plan" what to do with it but ultimately the didn't really lose it bc it wasn't theirs to begin with.</p> <p>So all that to say maybe it's about her perspective... like @Mama Bird: focus on that it could have been a greater loss, maybe of someone close or maybe of her health or something else more important.. maybe focus on the fact that her loss isn't going to affect her current lifestyle and that she'll be able to move on and that she was fine and good without the money so she'll continue to be.....</p> <p>idk... i'm sure it's tough regardless... good luck </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ways-to-console-someone-who-lost-a-lot-of-money#post-2909792 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 08:53:08 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2909792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: Thank you or that. I'll try to remind her about what's important. Unfortunately, there's not so much I can do since we live so far away from each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ways-to-console-someone-who-lost-a-lot-of-money#post-2909791 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 08:32:26 +0000 Mama Bird 2909791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds rough, of course. But I've heard an old folk saying (Russian, I think) that goes "thank you, Lord, for only taking money" - in the sense that if life was going to hand you a challenge, good thing you only lost money, not something or someone who is more valuable to you. I don't know, when you think that maybe you would have had some trouble coming up anyway and kind of got off easy, it does seem to make it easier to stop kicking yourself for losing the money. </p> <p>I suppose there's also going to be some grieving of whatever she would have done with the money. I don't know what you can do to help there, though. Maybe go over current finances to see if there are still ways to make her dreams happen... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ways-to-console-someone-who-lost-a-lot-of-money#post-2909784 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 04:46:11 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2909784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A family member is expected to lose a lot of money. The exact sum will be revealed within the next few weeks and although we've all processed this for months now, it's going to get real very soon. </p> <p>I don't want to get into specifics, but the money lost won't exactly affect the person's lifestyle, per se. But would have changed it dramatically if she didn't lose it. The loss was essentially a consequence to going against the guidelines and not realizing the actual stakes at the time.</p> <p>This person lives alone and I'm worried for her. It's the type of thing that will keep anyone up at night. What can I say or do to help?</p> <p>Edit: There is no way she would get the money back. Therefore, I would like to focus on ways to console. Thanks! </p>