https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 02:07:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2188750 Mon, 25 May 2015 19:27:53 +0000 birdofafeather 2188750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Revel: @daniellemybelle: yes, I forgot about the hand down my shirt for months after. I can't remember when she stopped doing it, but just hanging onto them was part of comforting her, I think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2188714 Mon, 25 May 2015 18:47:52 +0000 Lilbear 2188714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in exactly the same boat as you, so I don't have any great advice, but wanted to give you my support! My DD is 25 months old and I have been doing the "don't offer &amp; don't refuse" approach for about 8 months now. For the last 6 months she usually only nurses once a day, but I am starting to feel really done with nursing. I have just started saying "no" and distracting her with other things. We recently went 4 days straight without nursing, but I caved for about 3 days in a row. Now I'm back on the horse and we have gone almost 2 full days without nursing again. I hope to stick with it this time. I always hoped she would self-wean, but apparently she has other ideas in mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2188563 Mon, 25 May 2015 14:20:19 +0000 daniellemybelle 2188563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Revel: My LO has been weaned for a few weeks and still talks about nursing and asks occasionally. She is 19 months. When we first weaned, she actually had tantrums to nurse but got over it after two days. But she would still ask and I would just say, "We don't nurse anymore! Blanket? Drink?" We have replaced nursing with snuggling under a blanket and having a drink of milk.</p> <p>Now, she still will put her hand in my shirt or rub my boobs over my shirt, and she will ask to nurse, but she is a lot more easily distracted and I don't think she even really knows what she would do if I did let her nurse! More and more often she will ask for "banket" before she asks to nurse. I know it's hard! You'll get there. You've done great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2188123 Sun, 24 May 2015 12:34:32 +0000 Revel 2188123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: thanks. Yeah, that has been the approach, and I know it will work, it's just harder with the nursing because I feel so emotional about it. I guess I was naive to think she would just forget while I was away, given her love of nursing and intense personality! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2188122 Sun, 24 May 2015 12:31:48 +0000 birdofafeather 2188122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Revel: i think you just have to say it's all gone and distract with books, other milk, whatever. i had to do that a handful of times, but she would have probably asked more if she were older. she still remembers mama's milk, but she knows it's all gone and not for her. she would joking try to nurse for a couple months afterward, but then say, mama's milk all gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2188113 Sun, 24 May 2015 12:20:12 +0000 Revel 2188113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wanted to follow up on this post and see if anyone has any experience. I came back from the ten day trip and LO didn't ask to nurse for almost a full day, but since she has asked multiple times and a few times has been pretty upset about me saying it's all gone.</p> <p>Anyone have any thoughts on how long this might last for this age? It is really heartwrenching. and while I think the timing is right given she went without for over 9 days, I'm having a hard time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2110991 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 23:15:21 +0000 birdofafeather 2110991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Revel: yeah, the trying to pump was just because i thought i'd be uncomfortable. i had been gone for 24 hours before and been fine, but wasn't sure about 48. turns out, nothing to worry about there! we kept the same 2x a day after that first short trip, but i used the longer trip to wean. i slowly cut down to once a day, then once every other and she was totally fine. our magical last nursing session was 1 minute and she asked for books afterward. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2110918 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:51:43 +0000 danda 2110918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took a week long trip at a year, a five day trip at 17 months, and a five day trip at 19 months. My daughter was always fine with not nursing while I was away and always wanted it at our normal times when I came back. For the trip at a year I was still pumping/nursing a lot and pumped while gone (but used it as an opportunity to start decreasing supply), at 17 months I brought a hand pump with me and pumped an ounce or two the first few nights to ensure comfort (could've skipped) and at 19 months I didn't do anything. We weaned pretty soon after the trip at 19 months but that was me pushing weaning and trying to distract my daughter from it - if it were 100% up to her she'd still nurse a little 1-2x per day and before weekend naps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2110879 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:07:42 +0000 Revel 2110879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chanada: @birdofafeather: These are good answers! I had definitely not planned on pumping, haven't in almost a year, but was more wondering how LO and I would feel. I'm mostly feeling ready to wean but I'd like to just be able to relax and enjoy these last weeks of nursing and not have to battle her on weaning if she doesn't drop the feeds. I so far haven't had trouble with plugged ducts or anything so that's probably good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2110741 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 16:52:32 +0000 birdofafeather 2110741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was gone for 2 nights when DD was about 17 months and nursing 2x a day and tried to pump once and barely got an ounce. I pretty much gave up on pumping completely. We weaned at 18.5 months when I went on another 3 night trip and she was totally fine (so was I!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2110703 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 16:18:31 +0000 chanada 2110703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went on a four day trip when my son was almost 17 months and we were either feeding one or twice a day. The trip did the weaning. When I came back, he didn't ask for it and I didn't offer. Because I wasn't feeding very much, I did not experience discomfort through this process.</p> <p>If you are not feeding for long periods and you don't think you have much milk left, you will probably be ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-a-two-year-old#post-2110658 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:31:49 +0000 Revel 2110658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll be taking a trip in about two months with my husband away from our daughter, for 8 days. She will be just about two. We still nurse 2x a day on work days and sometimes once more on weekends. I keep hoping she will wean on her own before the trip, but isn't showing signs yet.</p> <p>My question is that she is 100% fine without nursing when I'm not around, so would it be such a bad idea to just let the trip do the weaning? I can't imagine I have much milk anymore, so anyone who has BTDT, would I be very uncomfortable? Would this make the separation for the trip harder on LO, such that we should wean sooner? Anyone have a similar experience or suggestions? </p>