https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 06:41:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-question-2#post-2916802 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 10:28:16 +0000 mdf106 2916802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably wait until you are not engorged with the once a day feeding. I had good luck with sudafed. I had the most engorgement when I weaned during the day, and was not that engorged when I finally weaned. I would avoid pumping if possible, that will tell your body to keep making milk. I am not prone to clogged ducts, though.</p> <p>FWIW I felt very sad about weaning while weaning, but felt better about it after I had weaned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-question-2#post-2916789 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 22:00:36 +0000 Umbreon 2916789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: thank you :heart: I never thought I'd find it hard but I know I'm going to be an emotional wreck when it's the last time.</p> <p>But we want another baby and I need to focus on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-question-2#post-2916788 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 21:39:11 +0000 bhbee 2916788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: I think anytime is fine, and you will probably have some milk for a while even after it mostly calms down. It’s just a personal decision what works for you. If it were me I might pick a day in a few days to be the last day, and try to enjoy the last few times. But don’t make it hard and fast and if you decide you’re not ready, it’s ok. I thought I was going to be done nursing my third one night (she was 16m and had started to be too distracted to really do it) but I was still super sad about it even though we were both kind of ready. Two nights later or so she asked again and I let her nurse one more time and it was the last time, but somehow that one extra time really made me feel better. Just go with what feels right to you because it is a special and emotional thing :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-question-2#post-2916782 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 19:36:26 +0000 Umbreon 2916782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: thank you so much. He doesn't really ask, which has made it a lot easier on me. It seems like it's been way harder on me than him, which is great.</p> <p>A lot of the time I feed him and then DH puts him to bed, unless he falls asleep nursing which is rare these days. So I think that will help because we can just skip the nursing and DH can put him down when the time comes.</p> <p>I had quite a few clogged ducts in the beginning so I'll watch out for that.</p> <p>That is great advice, thank you. When should I drop this last feed? More so for me than him? I went from once before bed and 2-3 times during the night to just before bed, and have been for 4 days now. Should I wait another week before dropping the last one? Or any time?</p> <p>I need to have two periods after weaning completely before they let me do an IUI so I'm hoping to stop before my next period which I figure will be in 2.5 weeks or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-question-2#post-2916776 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 18:04:30 +0000 bhbee 2916776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned my son at 14 months old and never offered him milk at bedtime, I think that’s up to you at that age. They don’t need anything then if they had a good dinner. </p> <p>For yourself - I would try to only hand express. You can do pretty well taking the pressure off without doing too much. Emptying tells your body to keep making milk. You can also try things like sudafed (works for some but not everyone, but generally dries your body up) and cabbage leaves in your bra. Watch out for any lumps and try to massage them out (in a shower helps) to avoid mastitis. </p> <p>Will he ask if you don’t offer? Sometimes that’s a way to ease into it. Even if he doesn’t feed at all the first night he might ask in a day or so, and you can decide as you go. </p> <p>And just big hugs. My son weaned all the sudden during sleep training and I wasn’t ready and it broke my heart for a bit. But he’s 5 now and still the world’s biggest cuddle bug and I promise it will get better :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weaning-question-2#post-2916765 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 16:25:53 +0000 Umbreon 2916765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone is so helpful, thought I'd ask this too!</p> <p>I'm working in weaning LO so we can resume fertility treatments. He is doing so well, although its breaking my heart a bit.</p> <p>We are down to one feed now, right before bed. Have been for the last 4 night. I'm still pretty engorged by feeding time, although it's getting better. </p> <p>When will I know it's time to cut out this last feed? When I'm no longer as engorged at that time?<br /> Once I stop the last feed do I pump every couple days? Basically how do I tell my breasts, "I'm done"?</p> <p>And and what about LO? Does he need a snack or cup of milk before bed or anything? </p>