https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 01:15:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-156102 Fri, 11 May 2012 15:18:36 +0000 heffalump 156102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>$100 for anyone. We don't have a lot of money so we give what we can afford. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155837 Fri, 11 May 2012 12:19:48 +0000 daniellemybelle 155837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Some members of our wedding party didn't give us gifts either. But we got married right out of college, and our friends spend money on attire/parties/travel/etc., so we completely understood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155835 Fri, 11 May 2012 12:17:58 +0000 daniellemybelle 155835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: @Mrs. Bee: I wish you had been invited to my wedding! :) </p> <p>I said $50 - 100 for regular wedding gifts, but it's really just $50. If we are close friends / in the wedding party, we'll give $100. </p> <p>Having said that, this is because we are on a tight budget! Assuming we "do well" later in life, we'd love to give larger gifts, especially to family.</p> <p>Edited to add: Now I feel pretty crappy about the $50 cash sitting in a card ready to send to a couple that just got married.... :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155678 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:45:13 +0000 cvbee 155678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Confession: I will take money out to spend on drinks if it's not a cash bar. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155633 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:16:22 +0000 Boogs 155633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always refer to what they gave us at our wedding. ;) Most people get $100 or above, but there were a couple of people who gave less, so we don't give them as much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155626 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:13:15 +0000 Shutterbug 155626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: @highwire: Same here, too. Our wedding party was all our younger siblings though, so I don't think they quite 'got' wedding etiquette yet (college aged, or just out of college) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155617 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:09:12 +0000 Andrea 155617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually no less than $300 cash. If I am not that close to them and will not be attending the wedding, then I will do a gift for about $150 value. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155604 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:05:10 +0000 DillonLion 155604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Pretty much the same story for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155600 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:04:25 +0000 mrs. bird 155600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! I wish my guests had the same stats as you guys! We didn't get a wedding gift from anyone in our wedding party, not that I cared about the gifts themselves, just seemed odd to me =\ </p> <p>We usually give $100-200, depending on the couple, if we had to travel, how much we think our plates cost </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155516 Fri, 11 May 2012 09:34:33 +0000 Mrs. Bee 155516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>exactly the same as chopsuey! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155513 Fri, 11 May 2012 09:31:10 +0000 plantains 155513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always give $200 as a starting point and then go up from there. When my sister got married we gave her $2k. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155507 Fri, 11 May 2012 09:27:16 +0000 Modern Daisy 155507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to give $150 to close friends or family until our wedding when we realized most people actually give MORE than that (we got $250+ from most of our friends/family) so we upped it to $200 being the standard amount and more if we were given more by them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155498 Fri, 11 May 2012 09:23:40 +0000 DillonLion 155498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually give $50-$100. Neither of us have ever been in a wedding party, nor have any of our immediate families gotten married recently.</p> <p>We had very generous guests that came to our wedding, and I'm thankful for all of the thoughtful gifts that we received, but our circles generally spend less on gifts than we tend to give (usually in the $25-$50 range or no gift at all) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155497 Fri, 11 May 2012 09:22:23 +0000 Alivoo01 155497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family: $400<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family: $200<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom: $100 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155494 Fri, 11 May 2012 09:19:17 +0000 hilsy85 155494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Out of the 5 weddings that we've been to together, DH has been in 3 of them and I've been in one of them...we've given $300 to each couple, because we're close with all of them. $300 seems to be standard in our circle. For people that we aren't as close with, we would probably do $200...same with extended family that we're not close with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155485 Fri, 11 May 2012 09:15:18 +0000 betsyboop 155485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family: $300+<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family: $250<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom: $250 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155468 Fri, 11 May 2012 09:12:34 +0000 emahlee 155468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. If you're MOH or best man: $200+<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family: $200<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom: $200</p> <p>For my SIL's wedding, we gave $500. When my own siblings are to get married, it'll be $500+.</p> <p>My base is also $200. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155419 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:59:53 +0000 chopsuey 155419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. it's immediate family: if my sister got married we'd give her at least 1k<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family: $300-500<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom: $300 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155402 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:53:05 +0000 mrs. wagon 155402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Crap. I'm thinking I'm gonna need to up the ante with my wedding gift for this weekend...!!! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155394 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:50:26 +0000 MamaMoose 155394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: I'm from Boston but I live in Nashville now and we have definitely noticed a HUGE difference in the typical gift amount between the two locations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155390 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:48:42 +0000 LuLu Mom 155390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, in my location we are no where near that level. </p> <p>If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family: $75-100<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family: $50 wedding party/extended family $25-30<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom: $30-40</p> <p>And we are actually at the high end compared to what we received from friends/family. This doesn't include shower gifts and what not! I feel cheap now haha but our cost of living is a lot less here too compared to the bigger cities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155386 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:47:33 +0000 MamaMoose 155386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family - $400+</p> <p>2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family - $300+</p> <p>3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom - $200+</p> <p>In some circumstances we have given less than $200 if it's someone who gave us less at our wedding. That's such a hard thing because it's not like I'm giving them less to "get back at them" it's because I think it makes us look like we are being rude and flashy if we up the amount that they gave it us. But outside of a situation like that we always give at least $200. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155383 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:46:19 +0000 looch 155383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do a standard $150 per person attending for anyone that is not family.</p> <p>For family, it depends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155381 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:45:46 +0000 mediagirl 155381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I added/modified a few. :)</p> <p>1. If you're MOH or best man - $200<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party - $100<br /> 3. It's extended family - $50 (or $100, depending on the person)<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom - $200<br /> 4. If you are both (you and SO) close friends with bride and groom - $300. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155378 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:44:45 +0000 Rubies 155378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family: $200++<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family: $150+<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom: $150+</p> <p>With everyone wedding we go to, the hubs and I have a base of $200 from the both of us. The only time I never covered $100 for myself was when I was invited a mere two weeks before the date and wasn't given a meal (couple had a lunch buffet but the facility didn't reserve enough seats and it ended up being a first-come-first-served thing. UGH!).</p> <p>If the couple is a very close friend or relative, our cash gift goes up. But $200 is our base. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155377 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:43:37 +0000 autumnlove 155377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family $400<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family $300<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom $200-$300 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155369 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:40:03 +0000 sorrycharlie 155369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>eek, I didn't know what to vote. my MOH got married this past march and we gave her the amount she gave us - $100. </p> <p>a friend of mine is getting married in may and attended ours - they aren't super close to us, and gave us $40. we'll probably give them the same or a gift.</p> <p>I totally think it depends on the person, how close you are, etc.!</p> <p>ETA - holy cow you guys are generous!!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155368 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:39:21 +0000 mrsjyw 155368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family ($200+)</p> <p>2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family ($100+)</p> <p>3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom ($100) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155366 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:39:00 +0000 mrs. wagon 155366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family: $200<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family: $150<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom: $150 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-amount#post-155364 Fri, 11 May 2012 08:38:22 +0000 mrs. wagon 155364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How much do you typically spend on a wedding gift? I usually like to give cash, especially if it's close friends, because I know that's what I needed most around the time of my wedding. ;) I'll put a poll in, and let's assume the gift is from two of you (you and SO or you and date), and the bride or groom is a relatively close friend of yours. </p> <p>Please add in comments about how much you spend NON-typically:</p> <p>1. If you're MOH or best man AND/OR it's immediate family<br /> 2. If you're in the wedding party AND/OR it's extended family<br /> 3. If you are close friends with the bride AND groom </p>