https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 05:28:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2158668 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 14:41:56 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2158668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: Never heard of that here in Texas. Everyone I know gives both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2158258 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 11:06:06 +0000 travellingbee 2158258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I would have thought it was a big no-no too but my MIL said that is how it is done here. I don't know if it is a Texas thing or a southern thing. I just know that is how it is here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2158146 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 10:09:34 +0000 Bea 2158146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I guess I shouldn't say south then? Maybe more regional as I live near TX. Or maybe not related to region at all. I grew up in a very rural area so maybe that plays a part? Who knows! But I'm very intrigued. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2158133 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 09:59:52 +0000 Keybee 2158133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually give a little shower gift and a little wedding gift. My mom however give really good big shower gifts and then does not bring anything to the wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2158125 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 09:55:18 +0000 Smurfette 2158125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: @Bea: I am in Atlanta and this would be a huge no no. I haven't heard that this was a thing in the south to just give a gift to one or the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2158116 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 09:51:30 +0000 Bea 2158116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find this thread very interesting. I grew up in the south and like @travellingbee: mentioned people usually only buy for one or the other. Family are the only ones I can remember that may have done both shower and wedding money for us. I had no idea it was any different elsewhere. Love when HB opens my eyes to something I've never heard of! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2158070 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 09:30:12 +0000 looch 2158070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just go along with whatever the couple is doing, I don't put too much effort/thought into what is considered appropriate etiquette these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2157992 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 08:54:16 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2157992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This type of shower is new to me as well. What I found online is stock the bar for the couple's home not quite help purchase alcohol for the wedding. The latter is basically an admission fee for a wedding. Nonetheless you give a gift for the shower and another for the wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2157966 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 08:43:35 +0000 snowjewelz 2157966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting, I have never heard of this! But either way I'd give the gift and give money... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2157887 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 08:03:39 +0000 travellingbee 2157887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it depends on where you live. In NY, we always got a shower gift and gave money for the wedding. Here in Texas, many people only do a shower OR wedding gift and giving money is not as common...I was surprised at our wedding! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2157880 Mon, 27 Apr 2015 07:59:39 +0000 Umbreon 2157880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would only go to the shower if I were close with the bride. It would feel weird to help stock the bar for their wedding. If it were a close friend though, I'd do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156936 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 16:46:41 +0000 turquoisemama 2156936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's kind of strange that she's registering for the wedding beverages for her shower...but yeah if you're getting gifts, do both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156926 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 16:23:27 +0000 wonderstruck 2156926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, that's pretty much how it works - give a gift at the shower and money at the wedding. Never heard it described as a cultural thing, I live in the US and every wedding &amp; shower I've been to have been like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156906 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 15:23:39 +0000 WinterBee 2156906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stiletto_mom: Yup. It's a stock the bar shower.<br /> If you're close to the couple and plan on attending both, bring some wine to the shower and money at the wedding. Or skip the shower if you don't want to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156904 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 15:18:00 +0000 mrschickpea 2156904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: Agreed. I'd be skipping this shindig. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156903 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 15:16:48 +0000 Truth Bombs 2156903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wait. The guests are expected to pay for the alcohol they will then be served at the wedding? That's a shower I would skip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156902 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 15:11:39 +0000 stiletto_mom 2156902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156900 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 15:07:17 +0000 AprilFool 2156900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stiletto_mom: Yep </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156899 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 15:04:37 +0000 stiletto_mom 2156899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh wait. I just got clarification. </p> <p>It's a shower registry, but the alcohol on the registry will be used for the wedding. </p> <p>Do I still get the wine and give cash? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156897 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 14:52:32 +0000 Smurfette 2156897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. You give a gift at each event. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156896 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 14:52:10 +0000 regberadaisy 2156896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I do gift for shower and money for wedding. Even when it's not cultural! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156894 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 14:47:43 +0000 AprilFool 2156894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I always give a shower gift and a wedding gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156891 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 14:34:04 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2156891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I always buy a gift for the shower and give money at the wedding </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-etiquette-question#post-2156890 Sat, 25 Apr 2015 14:32:09 +0000 stiletto_mom 2156890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Was invited to a bridal shower. There is a shower registry link for basically all alcohol (nothing else). There is no other registry (bride is hoping for money for her wedding - Cultural wedding, it's customary to give money).</p> <p>Should I buy something for the shower AND gift money for her wedding? </p>