https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 21 Aug 2026 03:11:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-824032 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 13:08:12 +0000 MrsClownfish 824032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In NY everyone gives cash....registry is for bridal shower gifts. I received cash (or check) from all of the 150 people that came to my wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822908 Fri, 31 May 2013 19:04:04 +0000 Pink Champagne 822908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the wine from the state they're moving to is perfect! It's thoughtful and just the right amount of personal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822840 Fri, 31 May 2013 18:29:57 +0000 BabyBruins 822840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for these great ideas everyone. I got a little more info from a bridesmaid since the groom is a family friend that I spent more time with when we were younger, but haven't seen recently. I was happy (but surprised) to be invited since I think of him as a cousin, but I haven't even met the bride. They are moving to another state in just a few weeks so they don't want a lot of "stuff".<br /> We are going the wine route and I am going to pick a bottle from the state they are moving to. Hopefully thoughtful enough, but nothing they need to worry about during the move. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822536 Fri, 31 May 2013 15:28:13 +0000 Pepper 822536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just give them cash, but that's what we always give for weddings. Even if they have a lot of money. You could also do a gift card to a nice restaurant or store. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822528 Fri, 31 May 2013 15:25:51 +0000 swedishfish 822528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually give money even if the couple has a registry. I always felt like the registry was more for the bridal shower? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822511 Fri, 31 May 2013 15:22:01 +0000 heffalump 822511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I think a charity gift card is nice.... but I do agree that if they wanted that they'd probably ask for that. My friend had a charity registry that we could donate to and she posted the info on her wedding website. I think everyone gave you lots of good ideas though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822506 Fri, 31 May 2013 15:19:40 +0000 Modern Daisy 822506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't have their invitation framed or buy them any decor lol! I am 1/2 joking because three (yes THREE) separate guests spent a lot of money having my invitation framed which was really sweet and thoughtful, but none of them are my style at all and they're unfortunately in the back of the closet still. </p> <p>I always like the idea of a nice pair of specialty drink glasses (martini, wine, highball, etc. depending on what they like to drink) paired with a top shelf liquor and any mixers needed to make a specialty drink. Those were by far our favorite off-registry gifts. Even if you already have a ton of those things they always need replacing and you can make it sentimental if you know what they enjoy drinking together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822485 Fri, 31 May 2013 15:09:37 +0000 T-Mom 822485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with something more sentimental. I was in a similar situation with a recent wedding and opted for an inscribed Bible with the couple's name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822347 Fri, 31 May 2013 14:27:27 +0000 kjpugs 822347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Something personalized would be really nice! Something you enjoyed, or something they enjoy (so if they like wine or beer, engraved wine or beer glasses, or a wine stop/opener, etc?) I agree cash is a weird gift. But if they have so much $ and don't want/need anything, they probably should have included a note saying "your prescence will be presents enough!!!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822336 Fri, 31 May 2013 14:22:57 +0000 MrsTiz 822336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not want a charity gift. I think that is a personal choice of which charity they support (if any) and i'm sure they would rather have the money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822334 Fri, 31 May 2013 14:21:41 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 822334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think wine is great...maybe with a note to drink it in a year (kind of like the wine ceremony)... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822269 Fri, 31 May 2013 14:01:02 +0000 tororojo 822269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do a check/cash or Target gift card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822268 Fri, 31 May 2013 14:00:56 +0000 SugarplumsMom 822268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't want one. I'd get them a personalized knick knack from Etsy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822242 Fri, 31 May 2013 13:50:39 +0000 autumnlove 822242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not want a charity gift. I think cash or a gift card is still a nice gift for a wealthy person! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822231 Fri, 31 May 2013 13:45:33 +0000 rattles 822231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you know their relationship story? We got a gift card to the restaurant where we had our first date and used it for the night after our wedding (since we left for our honeymoon on Monday morning). The giver had found the restaurant because we had included the story of our first date on our wedding website. I do think the charity website was a nice idea, but maybe this would be less controversial? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822093 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:49:03 +0000 BabyBruins 822093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the great ideas. I let it slide to the last minute - wedding is tomorrow! - so I'm leaning in the direction of restaurant or wine and a nice card.<br /> Thanks for the input on the charity gift card, it sounds nice in theory, but maybe not for this instance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822071 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:39:40 +0000 Foodnerd81 822071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with you on feeling funny giving cash if they clearly have a lot more of it than you. But I like the idea of a gift card for something useful, either a restaurant near them, or I like @Freckles: idea of the liquor store to grow their wine collection. I would have loved to receive something like that (though, we did not come into a lot of money so cash was also well received :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822028 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:23:36 +0000 Freckles 822028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe it's a cultural Asian thing, but i've always given cash as wedding gifts unless they've registered somewhere. I don't know if coming into money means that they don't want/expect cash. Do they have any hobbies? I received gift cards to a local wine/liquor shop to help grow our wine collection, and thought that was a nice personal touch.</p> <p>I don't know if many people would want the charity gift card. It really depends on the couple, if they are into giving and all of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822023 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:21:48 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 822023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would NOT want a charity gift card. They may not expect anything. Really. So at least bring a card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822020 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:20:52 +0000 DillonLion 822020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd use the opportunity to get something personal made. Etched wine glasses with their initials? A commissioned painting of their house? Concert tickets for their favorite band? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-822000 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:13:27 +0000 jmarionsmith 822000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i voted "other" could you make them something personal? i looove gifts like that and pinterest has some really good ideas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-gift-help#post-821986 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:08:53 +0000 BabyBruins 821986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am going to a family friend's wedding and the couple did not set up a registry. Maybe because they already live together and don't need/want anything or maybe because they have recently come into a lot of money (like so much they don't need to work). I feel kind of dumb giving them cash, so I thought about a giving them a universal charity gift card and they can donate to a charity of their choice.<br /> My sister doesn't think it's a good idea and if they wanted us to donate money they would have told us what they would like to donate to.<br /> Charity gift card - cool idea or annoying? Money for someone who is already loaded? </p>