https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 16:59:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner/page/2#post-2309451 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 23:26:01 +0000 Keybee 2309451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The nerve of some people!<br /> We had a couple people call and cancel last minute, it happens. The caterers boxed up the left overs and my parents took them home, no big deal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner/page/2#post-2309261 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 18:14:38 +0000 simplyfelicity 2309261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly? I am absolutely over the sensationalism of everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner/page/2#post-2309249 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 17:46:29 +0000 Reese 2309249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TrailRunner: wow! That is RUDE! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner/page/2#post-2308802 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 10:47:00 +0000 .twist. 2308802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: I didn't even have my phone near me from before the ceremony until after the reception. It would have been pointless. I could maybe see a text the day after just apologizing and explaining, but the day of? meh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner/page/2#post-2308781 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 10:35:45 +0000 Maysprout 2308781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just went to a wedding and one of the no shows called us rather than bother the bride and groom before the wedding. It was a last minute issue and it bummed the groom out but by the time he found out he was happy and married and having fun. Not sure if it would have put more of a damper on things to let him know right before he got married but it seemed pointless to bum him out right before he walked down the aisle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner/page/2#post-2308686 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 09:46:12 +0000 littlebug 2308686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had one no-show, and it was a guy that Hubs and I actually argued about inviting in the first place because I had a feeling he'd flake. I should have sent his ass a bill because the guy was total doucebag. BUT. I didn't. Because I'd rather be the bigger person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2308642 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 09:14:09 +0000 TrailRunner 2308642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I could invoice one girl we used to be friends with for no showing to our wedding. She RSVP'd yes, and then told a mutual friend that she had never intended on going. Never bothered to tell us tho. I would never actually invoice her bc two wrongs don't make a right, but my passive agressive side wishes I could. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2308521 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 07:46:20 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2308521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Obviously it was not right to send the invoice but I really think the no show guests could have handled it better- just one of them go or send an apologetic card and generous gift.</p> <p>I still remember the no shows for my wedding. It's not just the money, although that was a significant amount. It's about not caring about one of the most important days of my life. My uncle and my cousin's husband just simply didn't go. The cousin's husband I had ordered a special meal for because he is vegan. I will never make an effort with those people again, I say hello and am polite but that's it. The non family members I don't care about as much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2308484 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 07:02:17 +0000 Ms. RV 2308484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really hope the couple wasn't expecting a return on investment on their friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2308470 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 06:36:06 +0000 looch 2308470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see it from both sides and I think both are in the wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2308308 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 21:48:22 +0000 jedeve 2308308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: that's what I was thinking. Why bother them on their big day? The money is spent, you won't get a refund from the venue, so does it matter that they didn't come? I think knowing for weeks you can't come and not telling is bad form. But a day of emergency? It happens! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307991 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 18:02:45 +0000 sapphire 2307991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very rude, should contact couple or venue to alert them, but the dinner has already been paid for so what's the point of sending a bill except to shame people? So tacky. That guest was better off not going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307972 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 17:52:39 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2307972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: you're in the clear- no invoice lol :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307968 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 17:51:08 +0000 Corduroy 2307968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I sent a gift a few weeks before the wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307958 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 17:45:44 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2307958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: did you send a gift or card prior to the wedding or after?</p> <p>I can only imagine the bride &amp; groom did this because their guests didn't send a gift. I typically send wedding gifts ahead of time, well ever since I realized bringing a physical gift to the wedding was burdensome on the bride &amp; groom. Getting an invoice on top of giving a gift would be absolutely crazy to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307939 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 17:14:04 +0000 MrsSCB 2307939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Exactly. As my DH said when I told him about this story, apparently the couple decided the friendship was worth less than $75, so why did they even invite them in the first place?</p> <p>I think this is insane. Yes, no-showing is rude, but I don't really agree with upping the ante and responding to rudeness with more rudeness. I also think, when you host an event, you have to assume there will be a couple no-shows and get over it. We had one no-show at our wedding. She turned out to have a totally valid reason, but regardless, it didn't impact the day in the slightest. We were getting married! We had happier things on our minds :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307879 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 16:22:39 +0000 Corduroy 2307879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH just bailed on a wedding a week ago and i almost posted about it. It was a long distance wedding with no kids so only DH was going to attend. I came down with mastitis Friday night and got antibiotics right away. We were hoping I would feel better by DH's Saturday noon flight but I still had a 102F &amp; chills. I texted friends attending the wedding DH's regrets but I didn't text the couple hours before their wedding. I had three couples bail on my wedding by text hours before and it kind of put a damper on things while I got ready. I didn't want to do that to my friends. I texted them once I saw they were on FB and explained. I hope we don't have an invoice coming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307817 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 15:18:28 +0000 Mama Bird 2307817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The newlyweds should have let it go. Stuff happens, sometimes people think they can make it but something trips them up at the last minute. They should have focused on the joy of the day... now both parties involved have this incident leaving a bad taste in their mouth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307800 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 15:03:26 +0000 Modern Daisy 2307800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened to us recently andI just stayed home with DS whileDH attended the wedding. I understand you don't want to be apart but a wedding is a pretty big/expensive deal so it's nice to make every effort to at least send one in your party. Sending a bill is way more rude than a no-show though.. Crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307784 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 14:45:46 +0000 mauxie 2307784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No shows are rude but they're a given! It happens! </p> <p>But, I've never experienced anyone not showing up without any sort of last minute notice/apology (birthday, wedding, shower). They've always still gifted us and in essence paid for the meal/activity. But, even if they didn't, I'd just quietly be annoyed and that'd be the end of it. To send an actual invoice is ridiculous! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307760 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 14:15:38 +0000 Mommy Finger 2307760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunny: That was my thought. I don't understand why one couldn't go solo. I thought I read that it was for family so it would make sense that whoever was related to the couple should have gone and the other stayed with the child. </p> <p>But no, I don't agree with invoicing. We had 7 no shows and it was super annoying. In fact, I do hold a grudge for 2 people on DH's side who didn't show but I would never invoice. Not to say that I wouldn't want to. . . :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307617 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 12:27:38 +0000 Raindrop 2307617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds to me the couple is dwelling on the wrong things here. What was important is that they got married and they got to celebrate it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307558 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:49:06 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2307558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: true, the couple that was invoiced did not have to post it on Facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307557 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:47:29 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2307557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: well said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307520 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:22:02 +0000 BandDmommy 2307520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No shows are rude but it's ruder to invoice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307519 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:21:40 +0000 BandDmommy 2307519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: that's a lame excuse </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307504 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:14:49 +0000 erinbaderin 2307504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's aunt and uncle didn't show up for our wedding, and we didn't get an explanation or anything for MONTHS, until we saw them at Thanksgiving and made a semi-pointed semi-passive aggressive comment about missing them. I was annoyed, but it would have never occurred to me to charge them.</p> <p>On the other hand my boss was invited to a semi-mutual friend's wedding (I was not) and the Monday after I asked him how it was and he said "Oh, I decided not to go, I just didn't feel like doing anything on Saturday." For that, I think he should have had to pay her back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307502 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:13:02 +0000 Reese 2307502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think people should expect others to pay for their party/wedding. Don't invite that many people if you can't afford it. It should be about your marriage and celebrating with loved ones. Not how much money you're going to make or be out. I get there is an assumption that people will cover their plate but if people don't or can't afford it - would you rather them not celebrate your love with you? What does that make the day about then? Did she invoice the remainder of the cost for those that may not have gifted enough to cover their plate? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307493 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:06:21 +0000 yoursilverlining 2307493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A good rule of thumb is if you are willing to invoice a "friend" for a missed dinner, don't invite them in the first place. Yeesh. I think no-shows with no communication are rude, and yes, plenty of weddings are pricey, but dang! Invoicing a friend is pretty ballsy and rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-guest-no-show-billed-for-uneaten-dinner#post-2307450 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:35:06 +0000 alphagam84 2307450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunny: That's a good idea to have at least on of the parents go! </p>