https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 17:03:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2907056 Fri, 27 Dec 2019 11:12:12 +0000 Corduroy 2907056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyPenny: I've been watching your poll because DH and I are in a similar position. We've been invited to a wedding in Europe the same week as the first day of school. My first reaction was that my DD is going into 2nd grade and will be totally fine. Then it hit me that DS is starting Kindergarten. We still need to work out the exact logistics - I'm really really hoping we don't need to miss the 1st day- but DH and I have decided we'll go and have a set of grandparents handle the 1st week of school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906947 Tue, 24 Dec 2019 21:57:31 +0000 ALV91711 2906947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave the big kids with the grandparents. Not only cheaper and less stress to travel but you will also have more fun at the wedding. I would avoid missing the first day of school but don’t see a reason why the grandparents can’t handle that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906909 Tue, 24 Dec 2019 09:14:43 +0000 graceandjoy 2906909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While none of the options sound good I'd pick 2 if I have to. To me, orientation/first day(s) of school is important! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906906 Tue, 24 Dec 2019 09:11:27 +0000 JennyPenny 2906906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The groom is a close friend of mine as well so I don't think I could stay home. My preference is definitely option 2 but DH feels strongly about option 1. I think we'll all have more fun at the wedding without the kids anyway. I'm glad to see most moms agree with me that option 1 just isn't viable. Hopefully I can get DH to see it my way... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906905 Tue, 24 Dec 2019 09:10:52 +0000 gotkimchi 2906905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go just dh me and baby. Big kid will be fine, I don’t think kids really need to be at weddings and I wouldn’t pay the extra for that. I’d have a nice little adult vacay and let grandma handle the school </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906904 Tue, 24 Dec 2019 09:04:22 +0000 skiierchck99 2906904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree that I would send dh solo. I wouldn’t have ds miss school and I wouldn’t send him without me. The other option sounds exhausting unless I was going out for longer ahead of the wedding and it wasn’t just the weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906903 Tue, 24 Dec 2019 08:41:52 +0000 DesertDreams88 2906903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would honestly just send DH and that's it. Most people don't *truly* want kids at weddings (sadly), and I think staying home &amp; doing the first days of school is better for the child than rather than a quick cross country trip.</p> <p>Full disclosure, I didn't attend many of my relatives' weddings growing up and I missed 3 cross country cousin weddings in the past 5 years due to have a newborn/young infant / start of the school year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906898 Tue, 24 Dec 2019 07:06:29 +0000 Pollywog 2906898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When does the groom need an answer? Can you watch prices for a few months to see if they go down. Can you not get a seat for the 4 month old? I feel strongly about having your daughter attend the first day of school and that you are there for it. So my vote is everyone goes to the wedding </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906895 Tue, 24 Dec 2019 06:33:40 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2906895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think 1 should even be an option because: 1) stress 2) inconvenience 3) expensive. I also don't think it's reasonable for a grown up to expect a child to miss his first day of school, nor have his parents shell that much of money and stress just to make it happen, but maybe that's just me. There's other issues like jet-lag, possibility of delayed flights, lost luggage. It's too much, IMO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906879 Mon, 23 Dec 2019 19:52:40 +0000 Ms. RV 2906879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it an option for just DH and DS1 to go so they could come back on Sunday but it wouldn't cost an arm and a leg? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906842 Mon, 23 Dec 2019 15:23:31 +0000 lady baltimore 2906842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My answer depends on the groom's answer when you ask how important it is for DS1 to be there. Unless they want him to be in the wedding, I would go with option 2 - missing the first day of school is not that big a deal, but I think it makes a difference that it's first grade, and that is a big price hike to bring the boys along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-travel-wwyd#post-2906840 Mon, 23 Dec 2019 15:11:47 +0000 JennyPenny 2906840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's best friend (and DS1's godfather) is getting married this summer but the timing is pretty terrible. The wedding is on the opposite side of the country and the Saturday before school starts. Kids are invited and I'm sure the groom wants DS1 there since they have a special bond, though I'm not sure how strongly he wants them there (will have to ask) We can make it back on the Sun between the wedding and the first day of school, but that'll be stressful and right now that flight is super $$$. Other important info is that both sets of grandparents are local, DS1 will be going into 1st grade, and we'll also have a 4 month old. So I think our choices are:</p> <p>1) Whole family goes and comes back the day after the wedding. We have to skip orientation, but DS is there for the first day of school. Right now the flights for 4 would come to 2400.</p> <p>2) Just DH, baby and I go. DS1 and DS2 stay with grandparents who handle orientation and the first few days of school. DH and I come back on a more convenient day after school starts. Currently coming back on the Tues after school would cost ~$700 total for 2 tickets.</p> <p>3) Whole family goes and we just miss a day or two of school in addition to orientation. ~1400 for 4 tickets. </p> <p>So what would you do? Any other option I'm not seeing? </p>