https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 06:56:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2536551 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 00:03:27 +0000 jill_a55 2536551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, I am a terrible topic starter. :bummed: </p> <p>thank you all for your advice, I ended up leaving him with my mom. I'm in Arizona and the ceremony was outside with the sun directly on me so that part would have been pretty miserable for him in the wrap. I checked in with my mom all night to make sure he was okay, or if I needed to leave/have her bring him to me-she was close by and would have been able to do so pretty easily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2527960 Mon, 18 Apr 2016 14:24:06 +0000 skipra 2527960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What is the wedding location like? My sister's baby was 3 months at our wedding but still EBF and not local to them. There was a whole area where we had our wedding where one of BIL's family members stayed with my nephew and my sister was able to nurse, hang out with him as she wished. Best case scenario, I'd see if there was somewhere at the site that your mom could babysit comfortably. If not, maybe you could either go for the ceremony or part of the reception only. Talk to your friend and see what she suggests! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2527920 Mon, 18 Apr 2016 13:57:38 +0000 JoJoGirl 2527920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two questions: 1) Do you WANT to go? At 5 weeks pp, you couldn't have paid me to go to a wedding 2) Is he invited? We had a strict no babies policy (there would've been 25 infants at our wedding otherwise). However if they invited babies and you want to go, then yes bring him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2527502 Mon, 18 Apr 2016 08:34:55 +0000 snowjewelz 2527502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If skipping is not an option, and you don't really want to pump and have to build up a stash and also figure out how you can pump during, I'd totally take a newborn. Looking back, I had a lot of FTM fears and but honestly newborn stage is very easy to go out with! All you'd have to do is nurse him a few times, and maybe try to wear him for naps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2527071 Sun, 17 Apr 2016 12:55:50 +0000 Finfan 2527071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would skip myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2527006 Sun, 17 Apr 2016 10:06:42 +0000 lilteacherbee 2527006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I brought my then 6 week old to a wedding and he was fine. I wore him in a k'tan the entire time and took him back to the car to nurse. My 22 month old was wayyyy harder to handle! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526986 Sun, 17 Apr 2016 08:25:44 +0000 ineebee 2526986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was MOH for an out-of-town wedding when LO was 9w, EBF. If it weren't for the MOH responsibilities, it would've been pretty simple. But even with being in the wedding party, we made it work. They're so portable at that age! (If your baby is on the easier side)</p> <p>Some advice: Bring a bit of frozen stuff or formula just in case. This is probably obvious, but expect not to be a part of all the festivities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526978 Sun, 17 Apr 2016 08:07:51 +0000 catomd00 2526978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's no way I'd be comfortable leaving my 5 week old for longer than an hour. If bring her with me (mine was an easy baby though) or not go. I wouldn't enjoy myself if she was<br /> Home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526957 Sun, 17 Apr 2016 06:29:15 +0000 Alba4 2526957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If baby is invited, go with baby. If baby isn't invited, I wouldn't go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526955 Sun, 17 Apr 2016 06:28:05 +0000 pachamama 2526955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I give you all props! I would just say no to going to the wedding. I was so overwhelmed and exhausted the first few weeks of having a newborn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526947 Sun, 17 Apr 2016 05:38:39 +0000 Peasinapod 2526947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I brought my 4 week old to my best friends wedding. She slept in her car seat right through the ceremony and was pretty chill all through reception. We left after the first dance around 9pm. I'm really comfortable with breastfeeding in public though so that's what I did when she got fussy during speeches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526938 Sun, 17 Apr 2016 02:37:52 +0000 misolee 2526938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually had two weddings (morning one and evening one) when LO was about a month old. She was EBF (and ended up only being EBF bc she hated the bottle) We took her and she stayed in the stroller and slept great. For the first wedding, when she got fussy, my husband took her to the hallway and walked her and she was fine. The hardest thing was trying to feed her with a long dress on :silly:</p> <p>Also, when LO was about 7 weeks old, I had an important local conference to attend that was about four hours. I pumped and supplied everything and left her with my mom. She refused refused to take the bottle and cried until I had to cut the conference short and come. Just a thought in case yours doesn't take a bottle too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526921 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 23:14:40 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2526921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My niece was 8 weeks old at my wedding. She was no problem, but I did have a day wedding. I think my SIL and BIL had more difficulty with my 2 year old nephew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526911 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 22:20:52 +0000 autumnlove 2526911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't skip the wedding if my baby was invited but I would prob skip if it was a child free event. I wouldn't want to bother with a sitter at that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526908 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 22:00:23 +0000 Alexandra603 2526908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would def take your baby. I wouldn't have been willing to leave my baby at that age. I took my daughter to a wedding when we was 6 weeks and wore her most of the time. It was fine. I ended up missing some of the ceremony because she was a little fussy (sit near the back and aisle so you can make a quick exit). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526905 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 21:42:32 +0000 Pollywog 2526905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd check with your friend, but I'd bring him to the ceremony and then stay for dinner and then go home. Sit in the back and you'll have plenty of time to leave if he fusses </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526904 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 21:41:13 +0000 regberadaisy 2526904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree that it depends on the baby. Both my girls were screamy colicky babies. They would've ruined the ceremony and would not sleep through a noisy wedding reception.</p> <p>We had a close family wedding when DD1 was about 2 weeks? I just told them that I wouldn't know till week of. The baby was welcomed and they wanted us to bring her. but we had no desire to bring a NB to a noisy reception. My mom watched her while we were at the wedding. We left the wedding pretty early and my mom only needed to give her one bottle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526903 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 21:41:12 +0000 Bluebonnet 2526903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went to a wedding when LO was 6 weeks old (and EBF). My parents watched her and I pumped. It was so nice to have some adult time. </p> <p>The wedding was black tie optional and started late (maybe 8pm). So it seemed really inappropriate to bring a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526902 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 21:36:31 +0000 Tanjowen 2526902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If the bride is okay with baby coming then it's totally up to your comfort level ! My BFF went to a destination wedding at 6 weeks old and both did fabulous, I was a wreck until 8 weeks and no way. </p> <p>Her baby cried once during the 2 hour ceremony and she went to a side roo and fed her, she also put her in a Moby wrap and danced the night away, I was way impressed . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526887 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 21:12:58 +0000 birdofafeather 2526887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could have done it with either of my girls at 5 weeks. I wouldn't have gone if they weren't invited because I wasn't comfortable leaving them for that length of time at that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526884 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 21:01:21 +0000 ElbieKay 2526884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For a 5wo EBF baby, I would either skip the wedding or bring him/her along (with permission from the bride and groom, of course). Breastfeeding is too hard/stressful at that age for me to introduce the complication of us being apart. (My son was EBF and is now two.) I *might* have tried finding a babysitter to stay with the baby provided they could stay on the premises so I could stop by regularly during the event. And honestly, I would probably only bother with that for a BFF's wedding.</p> <p>That being said, we took our son to a wedding when he was four months old, and as soon as the music was kicked up for dancing after dinner, I basically had to leave with the baby and leave my husband to party. (My husband was the best man, so from a social perspective I was the best choice to leave early. Plus breastfeeding.) Anyway the reason was that the music was way too loud and we were nervous about damaging his hearing. I don't even know if they make ear protection for a baby that small, or how effective it is, but you should factor that into your decision / logistics. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526876 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 20:31:00 +0000 Kemma 2526876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have a wrap or carrier? My wee guy was very portable at that age and I took him all sorts of places in my stretchy wrap! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526873 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 20:23:56 +0000 kitty 2526873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If the couple don't mind I would take him and wear him. I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving my baby for more than an hour so early on, and my LO would have slept in a wrap for most of the time at that age. I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself anyway, so if bringing baby wasn't an option I would probably just pop in to the ceremony and pass on my best wishes then leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526849 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 19:31:33 +0000 Happygal 2526849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If your baby is invited, I would take him. That's still so little and I would be stressed about my baby taking a bottle and being ok without me at that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526848 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 19:30:42 +0000 Foodnerd81 2526848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on the baby. My first baby, no way could I have brought her. I probably would have skipped it altogether. She cried. A lot. My second baby, if allowed, at five weeks I could have brought her to both no problem, much more chill. </p> <p>How far would your mom be staying? What time is the wedding? I was recently at a wedding where the moh's husband brought her baby to the ceremony (walking him and leaving the second he got fussy) and he stayed with a babysitter for the reception, which was late and fancy and very loud. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526846 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 19:27:28 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2526846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My second went to a wedding when she was 16 days old. The only people I'd have felt comfortable leaving her with were at the wedding. She was quiet the whole time. I left shortly after dinner to get my then two year old home for bed. DH stayed for the rest of the reception. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526845 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 19:24:30 +0000 JCCovi 2526845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a super important wedding (on the other side of the country) when DD was 4 weeks old. My mom was willing to watch her and bring her to the site between the ceremony and reception so I could feed her. Since the wedding is local maybe you could do something like that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wedding-with-a-newborn-wwyd#post-2526842 Sat, 16 Apr 2016 19:16:09 +0000 jill_a55 2526842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend is getting married next Saturday in town and I am trying to figure out what to do... DS2 will be 5 weeks then and I'm not sure if I should take him (if allowed) or if leaving him with my mom is even an option. He is ebf and I've only pumped once so far, so I'd have to get a little stash built up by then if I went with option 2. </p> <p>WWYD in this situation? And if you have taken a newborn to a wedding, any advice? </p>