https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 01:16:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekend-away-mom-guilt#post-2858549 Tue, 27 Nov 2018 11:22:28 +0000 Lindsay05 2858549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much everyone. The weekend came and went. I left Friday morning and spent the day shopping, mostly for myself. Overall the weekend was a good social outing that I did desperately need. However I couldn’t sleep at night so I came home very tired. My husband was a rockstar and even had the house tidied up when I came home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekend-away-mom-guilt#post-2858533 Tue, 27 Nov 2018 10:09:59 +0000 snowjewelz 2858533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, this is so great! I've never done something like this, but I think it's probably unrealistic to say that you can "get rid of" the mom guilt. I think it's really just finding a balance of acknowledging the guilt and addressing thy why's - You miss your kids, you feel bad your husband has to solo them, you feel like you should not be away from your 6 month old, etc.... Or just plain I feel guilty for doing something for myself! But then also within all that guilt, LIVE in the moment and ENJOY it knowing your girls and your husband would want you to maximize this time for yourself so that it's worthwhile! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekend-away-mom-guilt#post-2858070 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 08:24:33 +0000 looch 2858070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find that in these situations, the more someone tells me not to feel guilty, the stronger the feelings become...so what I tend to do is focus on why I feel the guilt and address those things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekend-away-mom-guilt#post-2858063 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 06:23:23 +0000 pachamama 2858063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: ackkkk I have been there. It is so hard not to feel guilty! But you have to make a decision- go and not feel guilty or stay home and be with your kids. I say go and don't feel bad. sometimes you need a reset.<br /> I follow this guy/cartoonist on Insta and he just took a long trip with his toddler to Hong Kong which was REALLY hard for him alone... but it was so good and eye-opening, he said, because it opened him up to the "mental load" we wives and mothers carry. Like someone said, it might be really good for your DH to see how much you do behind the scenes even if its only 3 days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekend-away-mom-guilt#post-2858055 Thu, 22 Nov 2018 22:19:12 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2858055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would actually encourage you to think about the ways that this is GOOD for your kids and husband, not just yourself. Occasional solo parenting can be a good thing for any of our parenting, I think. If he's not usually the one to do certain tasks, it can give a fresh perspective on what is working and not, and if he doesn't spend much time solo, it can be a good experience for him. For my kids I think they have benefit from seeing both of us do all the tasks, not just mommy mommy mommy (although admittedly it's been a lot of that!) I think splitting stuff like this has a good effect on my marriage, personally. PLUS it's not like you're only going for fun. Go, definitely, and although I can't make you feel less guilty, really you have nothing to feel guilty about! I think it's good for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekend-away-mom-guilt#post-2858054 Thu, 22 Nov 2018 21:55:42 +0000 Lindsay05 2858054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: thanks so much! I know it will be a good little break. I hope it gives them a chance to miss me a bit as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekend-away-mom-guilt#post-2858050 Thu, 22 Nov 2018 19:16:16 +0000 lamariniere 2858050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try to enjoy it! A few months ago I traveled completely alone for the first time since I was pregnant with LO1 (who is almost 8!!). I was gone for one week for my grad school orientation and while I had a lot anxiety about leaving my LOs and DH for that long it was such a good trip! It was very productive and I thoroughly enjoyed myself. I wanted to FaceTime with them, but because of the time difference (I was in Europe and they were in Asia), I was only able to talk to my LOs once and caught my DH maybe twice when it was late night for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekend-away-mom-guilt#post-2858048 Thu, 22 Nov 2018 17:47:51 +0000 Lindsay05 2858048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tomorrow I’m going away for two nights. I’m currently on maternity leave but my work asked me if I wanted to attend a course out of town over the weekend. It’s completely paid for so I’m heading there a day early to do some shopping and just enjoy some time to myself. </p> <p>As much as I need a getaway, I’m on the verge of panic attacks with the thought of being away. I have 3 girls and the youngest just turned 6 months. I have this guilt feeling of leaving my husband solo parent for 3 days. He is fully supportive and really encouraged me to go. But this mom guilt is fierce and I haven’t even left yet. Tips/advice? </p>