https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 16:15:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357759 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 09:58:09 +0000 Alivoo01 357759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's really nice and thoughtful of you! I also agree with FB her to give her a heads up and see how she responds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357630 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 09:04:08 +0000 meredithNYC 357630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its nice. I can't help but feel like she might need some support since she's so far from home? I'm sure she would be touched by the gesture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357610 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 08:55:38 +0000 JerricaBenton 357610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @MrsCB - I think it's a nice gesture and most likely she'd be pleased to accept it. I'd send a message of congratulations and then list the things you have, asking her to give you her address if she wants anything. If she's not interested all she'd have to say is 'thank you so much but I won't be able to use them.' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357493 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:38:39 +0000 ShootingStar 357493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with sending a facebook message. I'd just say something along the lines of:</p> <p> "hey, congratulations on the baby! If you're interested I have a bunch of baby things we no longer use, including diapers, clothes and bf-ing stuff. If you're interested in any/all of it, let me know, I'd love for someone to be able to get some use out of it instead it just sitting in our house." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357483 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:33:51 +0000 SugarplumsMom 357483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LivsMama: Yeh, I know what you mean cause I kinda feel the same way. But the Lansinoh boxes are full to the brim, you wouldn't even know I used a few - plus they're individually wrapped. I also forgot that I have unused baby bottles. Maybe I'd just offer her the unopened/unused stuff and if she replies that she's interested, I'd offer LO's used clothes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357472 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:24:11 +0000 heffalump 357472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also don't know about the cultural differences.... but I know I always love free stuff! It couldn't hurt to send a message on facebook asking if she wants it, she could always say no. You can tell her that you'll be in out on a certain date in between apts and can drop it off to her, that way she won't feel the pressure to entertain/visit with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357471 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:24:08 +0000 LivsMama 357471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heres my take on it...I would offer these things to a close friend or family member. like "oh hey, we still have all of Livs clothes that she outgrew, let me know if you want or need any of them!" or "I still have some BF stuff I never used. Want it?" To offer it to someone you dont really know could be perceived as...I dont even know how to phrase it. Almost like "I know she didnt just buy me BF stuff, shes clearly giving me her old stuff." Thats something Im comfortable with a close friend thinking, but not someone I barely know. Thats just me though. That being said, you could reach out via FB and say something like "hey congratulations! LO has a LOT of cute stuff she's outgrown and Id love for it to get some more use. Let me know if you are interested in any of it and I can drop it off for you." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357470 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:23:27 +0000 Sammyfab 357470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also think it's a really nice gesture and I know I'd appreciate your thoughtfulness. Like others have mentioned, I'd reach out thru fb. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357466 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:21:52 +0000 mediagirl 357466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely offer them. I would send her a Facebook message instead of writing on her wall so it's more personal. Offer to bring the items by because you know how busy she probably is with the baby. She will be VERY appreciative, I'm sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357464 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:20:58 +0000 T.H.O.U. 357464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its a great gesture. I think the best thing to do would be to reach out via facebook and just let her know that you have some stuff and would be willing to drop if off if she wanted it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357462 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:20:22 +0000 boiledpnut 357462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure how Romanians would feel, but I would love it if someone offered me stuff like that, regardless of how well I knew them. If you do offer and she accepts, perhaps you can just drop it off one day while you're out? You don't have to stay....just tell her you are busy or something? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weird-or-nice#post-357458 Wed, 24 Oct 2012 07:17:52 +0000 SugarplumsMom 357458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A girl I'm friends with on FB just gave birth to her first baby. She lives in my (tiny) town and I've been thinking about giving her an unopened bag of diapers LO outgrew. She also has a girl and I'd like to offer some of LO's clothes (in good condition), and a box of Lansinoh nipple shields (they're individually wrapped) and freezer bags I never got to use.</p> <p>Thing is, we don't really know each other and haven't really spoken in person except for the occasional "hi" since over a year ago. We met in a language coarse and she was the new student, she also left the class shortly after so no one actually got to know her past sharing FB accounts. We comment on each others pictures now and then.</p> <p>Would it be weird if I offered her the stuff? The problem would be how I'd give it to her. I don't know where she lives and even if I deliver it to her, I don't want her to feel pressured about entertaining (she just had the baby). It would be just as awkward sending her the stuff cause we're in the same little town. </p> <p>So what do you think? Is it too weird if I offer her the stuff? </p> <p>BTW, another reason I'm apprehensive is the cultural difference. She's from Romania and I'm not sure how things like this would be perceived in her culture. </p>