https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 18:47:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761630 Wed, 16 Jul 2014 08:45:00 +0000 mrsjyw 1761630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761626 Wed, 16 Jul 2014 08:44:00 +0000 LulaBee 1761626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for sharing. I lost my LO at 9 weeks and what really shocked me after my loss was how many other women had gone through the same thing... my friends, the woman giving me a massage, my own grandmother. Luckily, everyone that knew allowed me to grieve and validated my experience. My heart hurts for all of you mamas who have experienced this. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761488 Wed, 16 Jul 2014 08:06:00 +0000 Alivoo01 1761488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>&lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761362 Wed, 16 Jul 2014 06:28:50 +0000 imbali 1761362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thank you for sharing this. when we lots our LO at 20 weeks, nobody mentioned it and basically seemed to pretend that we had never been pregnant. so invalidating and isolating. I'll definitely fb share it too :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761359 Wed, 16 Jul 2014 06:23:45 +0000 Adira 1761359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>&lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761357 Wed, 16 Jul 2014 06:16:02 +0000 ValentineMommy 1761357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for sharing &lt;3 I am really struggling and this gave me a teeny tiny sense of peace. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761117 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 21:17:18 +0000 Ash 1761117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761082 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 21:04:17 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1761082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for sharing. It was very well-written. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761081 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 21:03:29 +0000 travelgirl1 1761081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: I'm sorry, that must have hurt. I agree, people just don't know what to say. I am struggling with DH's family at the moment, I know they all know but half of them have not said anything to us at all about it. That hurts. I think people assume that after two weeks have past that it's okay, it's not something you talk about anymore but for me that's when I started wanting to talk about it. It takes more than a few weeks to get over losing a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1761001 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 20:25:24 +0000 dolphin 1761001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow thank you for sharing. This really tugged at my heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760990 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 20:19:34 +0000 Tidybee 1760990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I just went to see a good friend who had a baby 2 days before I miscarried. She knew about the miscarriage (her sister who is one of my best friends told her) and when I even brought it up didn't even say "I'm sorry" "how are you?" ANYthing. I know it's because she didn't know what to say as she held her healthy perfect second child. People who don't talk about it or avoid it think they are being sensitive to your needs whereas it is totally the opposite (at least for me). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760958 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 20:02:40 +0000 LovelyPlum 1760958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for this. I thin I'm going to post it, too. :heart: to you all </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760952 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 19:59:19 +0000 swedishfish 1760952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was healing to read. I too felt guilt at grieving for my lost LOs because the losses were early (7 weeks and 9 weeks). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760943 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 19:49:43 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1760943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw this shared a few times today. Its beautifully written. I'm so, so sorry to all of you who have lost babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760841 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 18:50:21 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1760841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: thank you so much for sharing this. </p> <p>I, too, have gone through the guilt of feeling sad about losing my baby at 6wks, and that just makes me feel worse! I know I am moving on, and even that it could've been so much worse if we'd been further along or a hundred other "what ifs". But because of the drama around it, especially when I hadn't yet told many people, I have felt weird about reaching out to busy friends who will, of course, console me &amp; support me, but I just can't find the right time or forum, so then time slips away. This makes it less urgent news, but not any less important to me. Thank goodness for HB, since we don't need to worry about getting the niceties out of the way before dropping a bomb like " hey, so I miscarried...what have you been doing? " :bummed:<br /> :heart: &amp; :goodluck: to all of us! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760808 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 18:17:42 +0000 MrsH 1760808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never publicly (on Facebook or with most people) discussed my m/c so this was quite the step for me. It really resonated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760807 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 18:16:52 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1760807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>These two parts explain exactly how I felt. I lost my baby so early that I sometimes feel guilty for being sad.</p> <p>"Through the entire process, I knew that there were women who had suffered so much more than I had. Women who had lost babies at 20 weeks, 30 weeks and even worse, labored to deliver stillborn children. I couldn't help but cry for them too. And if I am being honest, I felt guilt along with my sadness. Losing a baby at just nine weeks -- did I really deserve to grieve?"</p> <p>"I couldn't wrap my head around the fact that I had this precious little being, no longer alive, inside me. It felt wholly unnatural. I had no sense of how my body would physically process the loss of the pregnancy. I wanted to hide away in bed until it had all passed, but I had to go on."</p> <p>I think I'm going to share this as well. I think that like infertility miscarriages should be something that people aren't ashamed to talk about it they want to or need to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760805 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 18:14:55 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1760805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: yes...this exactly &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760799 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 18:12:30 +0000 travelgirl1 1760799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So true. I found the "don't talk about it" attitude so very difficult to deal with, it made me feel like my baby had never existed. It meant a lot to me when people said they had said a prayer for the baby, or were thinking about the baby. It was an important part of my healing and remains so. I wish it was a more socially acceptable topic, I always feel bad bringing my miscarriage up but really, it was less than six weeks ago, I NEED to talk about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760795 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 18:08:18 +0000 Tidybee 1760795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much. I'm still struggling with who to tell, how much to share, etc....and putting on a smiley face on a daily basis while shedding a tear in private. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760790 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 18:06:35 +0000 lilteacherbee 1760790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very true :heart: I may post this as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760781 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 18:03:18 +0000 Smurfette 1760781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760773 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 17:57:38 +0000 Reese 1760773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So true.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-written-loss-article#post-1760736 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 17:21:14 +0000 MrsH 1760736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4957652" rel="nofollow">http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4957652</a> apparently I'm all about news posts today. I posted this to my Facebook. "In the weeks after our loss, I couldn't help but wonder why and how our society has set up a situation where so many women are suffering through these experiences alone. We are encouraged not to tell people we are pregnant until 12 weeks, but then 80% of miscarriages happen before 12 weeks. So we face this incredibly life-altering experience in solitude. We wander around our "everyday" lives with a broken heart that no one else is aware of." </p>