https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 11:29:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-498244 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:29:48 +0000 loveisstrange 498244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another Mirena user here. I also got mine inserted at 6 weeks pp. It was a quick pinch followed by a little cramping and that was it. I LOVE it. No fuss, no worrying and NO PERIOD! I still havent had one at 9 months pp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-498199 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:17:55 +0000 Honeybee 498199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I haven't had a twinge of baby fever since DS was first born... I'm still adjusting to two! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-498122 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:00:14 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 498122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: I agree, it has been a very reliable method for me.<br /> And I wish I had your kind of time to think about a third... and at this point I can't really imagine going through the first four months again. Seems too soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-498121 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 12:59:36 +0000 Crisark 498121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The IUD insertion wasn't terrible in my opinion. Being that you will have been through birth twice I think you'd handle that fine. I had some hip/lower abdomen pain for a day or so after and I spotted off and on for a couple months. Then it was glorious. No periods, no pain, no worries.<br /> We decided that we wanted to start trying shortly after we got married so after 2 years with the IUD in I had it removed. I had no idea it was done when she said "ok got it". No pain to remove it at all.<br /> Now, for me, my cycles took roughly 6 months to stabilize enough for us to get pregnant. That was the frustrating part.<br /> Aside from that it was great. I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with my third and will probably be getting another IUD after birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-498089 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 12:46:18 +0000 Honeybee 498089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NaturallyCathy: ye ah it is a little tough to do with babies. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-498076 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 12:42:32 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 498076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: My periods were mostly regulated while on the pill. I don't really remember what my periods were like before the pill because I started the pill about the time I started high school. I had an ovarian cyst and to try and prevent having anymore, they put me on the pill. </p> <p>The summer before be found out we were pregnant with LO #1 (not the summer I didn't know I was pregnant with LO), my period went away for a few months while on the pill. Needless to say, it gave us a bit of a pregnancy scare. Turns out, the stress from my job had made me lose it - I had a summer job at a community college. When I lost my period a second time the very next summer, we didn't think anything of it. Especially since not only was I working two jobs at my university but I was also taking classes - very stressful!</p> <p>So I'm afraid even if I could be reliable about tracking it - which I'm almost positive I wouldn't be, life has a way of getting in the way of such things - I'm not sure how regular my periods would truly be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-498057 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 12:34:51 +0000 Honeybee 498057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NaturallyCathy: I also have two close together and am fairly young, which is why we're not as certain about #3 as we used to be, lol. We still have plenty of time to have another in a few years!</p> <p>I don't know if you've ever tried tracking your cycles, but using a fertility awareness method has been great for me. It's what we're using right now while we figure out our next plans, and we used it for a year before we started trying for our first. The great thing is that it might be very easy for you if you're pretty regular without any fertility issues. And while it requires a little work, it can be super reliable, if you're consistent about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497787 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:26:04 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 497787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yeah, when my husband found out we were pregnant again, he kinda gave me his goofy half smile and shook his head. I asked, "What." He tries to keep a straight face and says, "My, we're fertile," before chuckling a little and giving me a hug. I, at the time, was a little less than amused at the whole situation but looking back it is funny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497758 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:18:39 +0000 Foodnerd81 497758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NaturallyCathy: Sheesh, mom! Sort of a big thing to "forget" to tell you about! Though come to think of it, my older brother and sister are like 17 months apart. But I know they just didn't use/believe in birth control. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497746 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:16:42 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 497746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmenow: My mom actually got her IUD about six years ago and after a few months had to have it removed. I remember when she went in to have it done and then had to go back in to have it out. Like I said, hers wasn't to keep her from having children, hers was to help with the heavy periods and everything she was having. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497735 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:14:06 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 497735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: I think the shot was offered to me the first time around but I have this thing about needles. I mean, if you take a blood sample or I donate blood I'm fine but it's almost immediate panic for me whenever someone comes near me with a needle.</p> <p>But maybe I just need a refresher on the shot. It was like once a month, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497731 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:12:01 +0000 mrsmenow 497731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>IUDs have changed A LOT since your mom had. Not to say that they are without complications, but they are much different then they use to be.</p> <p>I had a copper IUD (paraguard) for a year and half or two years. It was great at first, but I had a lot of cramping and my periods gradually got worse.</p> <p>After my second child I did the mini pill to see how my body would react to the hormones and then planned to get the Mirena, as the hormones and dosages are close. I held off on the IUD since we wanted one more kids relatively soon. When I go in for my 6 week check in a couple of weeks, I will likely just go with the mirena. since we are done now:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497727 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:11:22 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 497727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Believe it or not, the getting pregnant too easy is apparently genetic. My mother, after telling her we were pregnant with our second child, told me she had forgotten to warn me about that. My older brother was born in September of 1983, my older sister was born in January of 1985. Apparently she was in the same boat but I never stopped to think about it (considering I was born in April of 1990)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497675 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:49:17 +0000 Foodnerd81 497675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've heard the old IUDs had a lot of problems (like your mother had) but that the new ones really are great. The only complaints I've heard are about it hurting when they are placed but like @Honeybee: said, it should be easier post partum. Sounds like a good option for you, since it would appear you have a pretty easy time of getting pregnant (TOO easy! :) </p> <p>I've never had one personally, because I didn't want to get one before having babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497672 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:48:20 +0000 T.H.O.U. 497672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would seriously consider an IUD even with issues some people have. </p> <p>Also, what about looking into the shot? If you know you won't want #3 for a bit of time, that could be a good option. After #2 this is probably be what we look at. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497671 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:47:33 +0000 mamabolt 497671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got a Mirena at 9 weeks pp and I love it. I had no pain or issues with insertion. I had some spotting on and off but by a few months in nothing. I'll get it taken out when we want to try for number 2 and get another one placed post partum. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497669 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:47:06 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 497669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Sounds like that's two for the Mirena. I wouldn't mind not having periods, mine have always tended on the heavy side whenever I did have them. Never had cramping or bloating or anything, just lots of heavy pads. But even if all it did would be to lighten my periods, that would be a blessing too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497664 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:45:11 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 497664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Foolproof sounds great right about now. I know it's 'easier' to have kids when you're younger (I'll be 23 in April) and 'better' for the kids growing up together close in age but I'm ready for a break! I had just started loving my body again, getting used to the new curves, when we found out that we were pregnant a second time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497655 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:43:14 +0000 yoursilverlining 497655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a Mirena before having LO and it hurt A LOT (a lot, a lot!) to have put in; but I had also never had children before and the pain only lasted for about a minute. After that I had no period for years, which was awesome. Its rate of effectiveness is actually as good as sterilization; so yeah, you get peace of mind. Getting it removed didn't hurt at all - in fact I kept waiting for my OB to start (expecting it would hurt) only to have her tell me "okay, all done!". I would recommend it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497644 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:39:05 +0000 Honeybee 497644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the Mirena placed at my 6 week postpartum check with my first and then removed about 9 months later when we decided to try for #2. Honestly, it was heaven. After we make up our minds for sure about having #3, I'll go back on it. If you get it inserted soon enough after childbirth, your cervix will still be soft enough and still a little open, so the insertion shouldn't hurt much, if at all. My removal also didn't hurt, and I was able to get pregnant our first month trying. I never had any discomfort with the Mirena and the best part is that my periods disappeared after a couple months! All in all, I really liked it and would definitely recommend it, if you're looking for something foolproof. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-not-sure-about-baby-3#post-497605 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:28:34 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 497605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Currently, I am about eight months pregnant (I think it's 33 weeks) and I already have a son who is about to turn one. I became pregnant with my first LO while still on birth control, the pill. After he was born, at my first doctor's appointment afterwards, they went through the options - I could either stay on the pill, hope it worked this time; I could try doing the patch or something, but I wouldn't be able to breast feed; or I could consider an IUD. </p> <p>Even though I didn't want to try and keep up with the enormity of taking care of the baby and trying to remember to take a pill once a day, I really wanted to try and breastfeed. (Side note: breastfeeding was difficult for me because I had breast reduction surgery two years prior but I wanted to try and give LO as much as I could). So I went with the pill because my mother had problems with an IUD that was meant to help her heavy periods. </p> <p>The pill and I still had some issues. We found out I was pregnant with LO #2 about a year and a month to the day of finding out we were pregnant with LO #1. I started noticing the signs and symptoms I didn't catch the first time around and went 'Uh oh.' </p> <p>Now with the due date approaching, March 4th-ish, DH and I have been discussing future family plans. DH is the eldest of two. His parents planned on two, only wanted two, had a boy and a girl and were done. My parents had three kids - my two older siblings and then six/seven years later, me. While we're committed to having two (obviously), we're still not sure about a third one. DH thinks that he wants three, I'm not opposed to the idea so long as the next one is in a year or two and not all nestled together.</p> <p>So it looks like tube tying is out until we know for sure whether we want just the two or we'd like to try for a third. That means heading back into the murky water of birth control. Obviously the pill and I are through. I don't want to consider that option anymore just because it and I both seem to be very unreliable. I would still like to try and breastfeed this next child (we're not sure whether it's a boy or a girl) for as long as my limited milk supply will allow. So that means I can't have the patch or similar products. Which leaves me with the IUD. </p> <p>My mother, obviously bias from her experience, doesn't think that I should get it. What were/are your experiences with an IUD? Does it hurt? Does it ever give you discomfort? Have you gotten one, then decided not to have children? Or gotten one and then decided that you did? Was it difficult to remove?</p> <p>Any help would be most welcome. </p>