https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 17:00:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159967 Wed, 16 May 2012 08:12:06 +0000 MamaMoose 159967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it interesting that so many people felt like that had to tell both sets of grandparents at the same time. I don't see a reason not to tell one set just because the other set can't be trusted to keep a secret. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159946 Wed, 16 May 2012 07:56:34 +0000 Pipers Mommy 159946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Waited until after the first MD appt to tell our parents/families /few close friends(around 9 weeks) and shared with everyone else around 14 weeks. No one was upset.<br /> So, I think we'll do the same this time around. Although I am itching to tell my sister right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159916 Wed, 16 May 2012 07:41:26 +0000 purrpletulips 159916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited (both times) until at least 12 weeks to tell anyone. My sister told my parents (both times) when she was about 6 weeks. The only reaction we got was an "Oh" from my mom when it sunk in that the due date was only 6 months away vs the 9 months my sister gave.</p> <p>I have to admit that this second time I wanted to tell my parents earlier (about 10 w) but that was more because it means a lot to me to tell them in person and we were home unexpectedly for my grandmother's funeral and I wanted to bring some joy to the visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159864 Wed, 16 May 2012 04:09:52 +0000 pastemoo 159864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited until 13 or 15 weeks (for Thanksgiving, to tell some people in person). No one mentioned being offended, but it is possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159851 Wed, 16 May 2012 00:08:03 +0000 SugarplumsMom 159851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited until after the NT Scan before we formally announced to the in-laws. DH claims it's very odd to announce early. We just got back from vacation and waited to tell them in person (our scan was the day after we arrived home).</p> <p>I ended up telling my Mom after seeing the heartbeat, I would have waited later but we were visiting her for a few weeks and wanted to get her prepped. Plus, it was nice being able to tell someone =)</p> <p>As for everyone else, my close friends knew, but we FB announced after the anatomy scan! We really waited awhile. I was very nervous. No one felt bad at all, just happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159848 Tue, 15 May 2012 23:25:05 +0000 ChelseaRose 159848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With the exception of one very close friend, we did not tell anyone until after the NT scan at 12 weeks. I will be 15 weeks tomorrow and have not told my work. Only close friends and family know; not extended family or everyone on facebook. I doubt we will ever make a facebook announcement. No one has given us a hard time at all. A few people guessed, like my mom, because I wasn't drinking, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159846 Tue, 15 May 2012 23:04:25 +0000 PitBulLover 159846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we get pregnant we are planning to wait until the end of the first trimester to tell anyone. I want to tell my mom but telling my mom would mean telling my ILs as well and unfortunately they would not be able to keep it secret. I know it will be hard but I think every couple should tell when they're ready! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159722 Tue, 15 May 2012 20:07:55 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 159722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited until our first trimester was done.<br /> They were shocked, happy and more surprised I could keep a secret that long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159721 Tue, 15 May 2012 20:06:36 +0000 heffalump 159721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our families right away. But I don't think they would have been upset if we waited.</p> <p>I miscarried during my first pregnancy, and when I told my sister that I was pregnant agaiin she actually told me she wished that I would have waited to tell so she wouldn't have to sit there and worry for months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159715 Tue, 15 May 2012 20:04:45 +0000 littlebug 159715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 5 1/2 weeks and my friend and her husband know and I told my sister. we've been talking about when to tell our families. I would really like to tell my mom after our first appointment (at 8 weeks), but I know hubs will also want to tell his mom and I don't trust her to not tell her sisters, which means the entire freaking family would know within 30 seconds. So I think what we've decided is to wait to tell everyone at our annual 4th of July party, which will be when I'm 11 weeks. I really want to tell my mom earlier, but I think hubs will be a little upset if she knows before his mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159699 Tue, 15 May 2012 19:57:21 +0000 SleepyMonkey 159699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my family right away and my mom told me she would have been really mad if i hadn't when i mentioned that one of my friends waiting a couple months before telling her mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159624 Tue, 15 May 2012 18:17:03 +0000 Meeshling 159624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was pregnant for a week (chemical pregnancy), and was planning on telling my best friend after the first ultrasound (8 wks) and our family and friends at 12 wks. However, after the pregnancy went away, I ended up telling my mom about it. When we get pregnant again, I'm planning on following that same guideline (though if I see my best friend prior to eight weeks, I may tell her, as we don't get to see each other a lot, and I'd love to be able to tell her in person).</p> <p>I am glad we decided to wait, because even if I swore my mom to secrecy, she would tell at least two other people, and it would have been really hard to have to deal with telling a lot of people that we lost the pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159613 Tue, 15 May 2012 18:03:53 +0000 Rubies 159613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our parents when I was 10 weeks and the rest of the world when I was 13 weeks. People were fine. However, when we kept LO's name a secret until she was born, people were really offended and upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159607 Tue, 15 May 2012 17:56:20 +0000 mrsjyw 159607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were going to wait til second trimester to tell anyone, but seven wks in, I felt like I needed to tell my family and close gfs. Those ppl in our life that I'd need support from if something bad were to have happened! </p> <p>Regardless, I think everyone would have understood. We just publicly announced yesterday and everyone has been super supportive and gracious I their response to the news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159603 Tue, 15 May 2012 17:52:03 +0000 Jumpingjacks 159603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks to everyone for your responses! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159514 Tue, 15 May 2012 16:27:43 +0000 Minnie_Girl 159514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone until 11 weeks and people weren't upset at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159503 Tue, 15 May 2012 16:21:09 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 159503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my mom but told her she wasn't allowed to tell anyone else until we announced it at 12 weeks. She got mad because she thought I was trying to take the fun out of it for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159491 Tue, 15 May 2012 16:11:53 +0000 Mrs. Train 159491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first pregnancy we told our parents right away. Two weeks later the doctor did an ulta sound and told me it was twins. I was in shock So I told my mother within 20 minutes my cousins second cousin was calling me on the phone. Talk about blabber mouths. It was so overwhelming. I told my mom if I miscarried she would have to call every one </p> <p>The second time around we told our parents and sister with the explicit directions that no one else was to be notified until we said so. There was some family drama going on and I didn't want to mess with it. At 14 weeks we told the test of the family. I had one cousin who fussed a bit but I explained my reasoning and apologized if it hurt her feelings but it was what we thought was best. She eventually was fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159446 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:26:04 +0000 Jumpingjacks 159446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sprite: I know exactly where you`re coming from. A friend of mine miscarried at seven weeks and had to send an email to everyone she knew to tell them the news because there was no way she could call so many people. It was awful for her to have to do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159442 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:23:20 +0000 Jumpingjacks 159442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarbear: Yes, see like you suggest, I think my bro and SIL have set precedent for telling early. I don't really care how extended family/friends react to being told late -- mainly concerned about our parents and my brother since I don't think they would choose to wait. (well, bro didn't!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159434 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:17:44 +0000 Andrea 159434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Funny thing is that the people at WORK were the most offended. I told my boss at 13 weeks and he asked why I didn't tell him earlier. And then I didn't go around personally telling everyone in my company, even though it is a small company, but I heard that someone was offended that I did not. Whatever -- not a fan of that company! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159433 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:17:23 +0000 GrapeCrush 159433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our immediate families at about 6 weeks. I wanted to wait longer however DH wanted to wait. I waited until my first appointment before we told our extended families and close friends. Some of them were mad that we waited till 8 weeks to tell which upset me because I could have waited for 12 weeks! I think they are just used to how the other ladies in the families told right away </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159428 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:14:59 +0000 chopsuey 159428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sprite: this is so random, but you make me wanna change my username to RainbowBrite. </p> <p>We announced right away both times..! I'm sure people will understand if you wait though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159422 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:13:05 +0000 Sprite 159422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in the pre-TTC stage right now, but have already discussed waiting until 12+ weeks to tell anyone, even parents. I just wouldn't want the pressure of having to deal with telling them bad news if something were to happen the first trimester. I think a lot of people these days keep it a secret for much longer, so hopefully our family would be understanding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159421 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:12:36 +0000 MsLipGloss 159421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not that I know of. . . we didn't tell anyone we were trying (except my best friend who does not communicate regularly with our families), and didn't tell anyone we were expecting until 8 weeks (after an ultrasound and confirmed heartbeat),and even then it was just our parents. We didn't tell anyone else, including our brothers and their families, that we were expecting until 12 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159420 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:12:19 +0000 T.H.O.U. 159420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did a rolled out approach to sharing. We told our families around 8-10 weeks, close friends around 11 weeks, other friends around 12 weeks. After that we shared with more of the general public. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159416 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:10:52 +0000 DillonLion 159416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: This is what happened to us. We told both sets of parents, and by the end of the week our entire families all knew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159415 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:10:07 +0000 mediagirl 159415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone in my family until 12 weeks. Our reasons were my Mom has a big mouth and the whole family would know in 10 minutes if we told her right off. I'm 34 and was worried about what could happen in that first trimester. We are glad we waited and my family never complained about not knowing right away. I say, do what's right for YOU, not for other people. If you feel more comfortable keeping it a secret, do so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159413 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:09:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 159413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely told our parents right away, a week after we found out. I'm really close to my family though so I guess I would understand waiting if you're not.</p> <p>But I did have several others who were sooo offended I waited. I waited til 20 weeks to tell most people and some extended family were really mad about it. But whatever, my baby, my decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-people-upset-if-you-didnt-announce-pg-right-away#post-159409 Tue, 15 May 2012 15:08:31 +0000 MamaMoose 159409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told my parents right away. I had had a prior miscarriage and was having some of the same symptoms and I needed support from my mommy.</p> <p>We waited until after my first ultrasound (at 8 weeks) to tell my inlaws and siblings.</p> <p>The rest of the family will find out tomorrow after our NT scan (12 weeks 3 days) assuming all goes well.</p> <p>I don't expect anyone to give us a hard time. But I do think our parents probably would have been hurt if we didn't tell them earlier than we told to rest of the family. They never would have said anything about it, but I do think it would probably upset them a little. </p>