https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 20:11:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-850098 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 00:19:18 +0000 HLK208 850098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all! Every baby I ever interacted with loved me and I had no clue what to do with them. It was all instinct when I had my own though. Now, I love babies but I still feel a little odd around babies that aren't my own! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-849733 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 21:01:18 +0000 erinpye 849733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was pretty awkward with babies and could hold a happy one before LO, but wasn't great with kids until I had mine. Then I had the world's most colicky baby that wouldn't stop screaming until she was 6 months old, so now I know all the tricks and am like a crying baby whisperer! Don't worry, once you have your own, you figure it out :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-849684 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 20:45:18 +0000 Bookish 849684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kids and babies terrify me! There better be a maternal switch coming, because I'm 35 weeks! I believe the PPs and others I've heard that it's totally different with your own kid :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-849677 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 20:43:53 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 849677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope and I still dont! I swear I can't come up with any creative ways to distract DD when she has a tantrum - DH is so much better. But, I handle her crying better than DH. But when it comes to other kids... I'm still awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-849669 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 20:38:40 +0000 blackbird 849669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was never great with babies since I was never around them and even though I have my own, I'm still kind of lost with other people's kids :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-849652 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 20:35:30 +0000 bpcmarj 849652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I have always been good with babies. I am the oldest of 5, so I think that helps. But, even so, it's way different when it's your own 24/7!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-849635 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 20:32:03 +0000 MrsF 849635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had almost no baby experience before having M. I wouldn't say that it comes immediately (I would imagine everyone feels a little fumbly with their first) but it comes quickly and naturally. You become a pro at YOUR baby even if you're not a baby pro. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-849605 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 20:22:23 +0000 BSB 849605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so glad the poll is split into thirds. I feel much better now. Thanks everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848726 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 16:00:54 +0000 MrsH 848726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never really been around babies before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848715 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:58:42 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 848715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I nannied for 3 years; the kids I nannied were 4,3, and 5wks old when I started...and then the last couple of months, their mother had another child so I had a newborn until that newborn was about 6 months old. So, I had a TON of experience.<br /> But, nothing is like having your own. I feel much more comfortable and confident with my own child than I did with someone else's. I always felt that their mother knew more than me and was better than I was at connecting with her kids. ...Which was true (she was their mother after all..) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848712 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:58:06 +0000 Springtime 848712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have a lot of expereince prior to having my LO, I was never around babies and no one in the family had any babies. I remember feeling scared and worried when I was pregnant thinking "OMG I won't know what to do" but it really is instinct for a mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848702 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:55:00 +0000 Pirouette 848702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have NO idea what to do with a baby. I've never been around them, never taken care of them, and i always find reasons to avoid holding them. I'm pretty terrified about all of it, but there's no training like on-the-job training, right? I'm counting on DH to teach me everything he knows :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848616 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:35:28 +0000 Foodnerd81 848616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been OK with holding and rocking/bouncing/comforting babies, but not really entertaining or comforting a really unhappy baby. With my one nephew who I have spent a lot of time with, I've gotten way way better and now I can entertain him and everything, but it wasn't super natural at the very first. I'm pretty sure it's going to be easier with my own-- I'll let you know in 7 weeks or so! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848561 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:24:37 +0000 Cherrybee 848561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always been a "child hater" but it was all just an act to cover up for the fact that I'm absolutely terrible with babies and children! Clueless!!!! I'm hoping I will know how to be around mine!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848550 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:22:17 +0000 sslm 848550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always been awkward around babies! They make me nervous. It was different with my own though, taking care of her comes naturally to me!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848520 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:15:28 +0000 heffalump 848520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Another issue I have now is that I'm so used to my LO and her size. When my niece was a newborn my LO was a toddler, and I was used to changing toddler diapers. I was scared I was going to break my niece! Which is weird because I never felt like that with my own LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848514 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:13:42 +0000 BSB 848514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Oh, great tip. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848512 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:13:26 +0000 mrsjazz 848512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: You'll be a natural when it's your kid.</p> <p>And even the people, like myself, who has been babysitting since I was 8 and had a lot of experience with babies, still don't know everything and still second guess almost everything. You'll be great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848508 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:12:50 +0000 Adira 848508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, and my advice, before you have a baby (whether by birth, adoption, etc), take a Newborn Basics class or something. That really helped me feel a LOT more confident about being around my new baby. I was soooooooo scared before that because I've really never dealt with babies, but the class teaches you all the basics (diaper changes, swaddling, bathing, feeding, etc), so I felt a little better when I finally had my baby. It was still a lot of trial and error, but you figure it out as you go and soon enough, you feel totally comfortable and confident in your skills! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848503 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:10:44 +0000 BSB 848503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: Thanks!</p> <p>@artbee: Good point. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848502 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:10:37 +0000 Adira 848502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope!!! I'm terrible around children! Still am!!! My nephew actively avoids me because I think I make him nervous, hahaha. And I had NEVER changed a diaper before having my own baby! And I had only held a newborn maybe like TWICE and it made me soooooo nervous doing it.</p> <p>But I'm sooooo different around my own kid. I don't think it's made me more of a kid-person because I'm still weird and awkward around my SIL's children, but I definitely know what I'm doing with my own son (now, after 3 months - in the beginning I was a bit of a wreck). So don't worry - you'll figure it out with your own children! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848500 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:09:54 +0000 BSB 848500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: @rachiecakes: Aww, thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848498 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:09:30 +0000 heffalump 848498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's always different when they're your own. I'm still awkward around other people's babies. I don't know them well enough to know what they like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848492 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:07:48 +0000 mrskc 848492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could handle a happy baby and that was about it. babies made me nervous. It's so different once you have a baby! I didn't even know how to hold a newborn but I had no problems handling my son from the moment he was born. I know exactly what to do with him and what makes him laugh! I wouldn't worry about it! mommy instinct will kick in for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848458 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:00:07 +0000 MsLipGloss 848458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was mayyyyybe okay with babies before LO . . . but once you become a mama it's like a switch gets flipped that, while you are still nervous/ tentative--I mean, c'mon, we're talking about 6/7 pound noodles that are the most important thing(s) in your whole world!--but it's so so different! </p> <p>I also can't believe what a silly willy I am with my LO - making up songs and stories! Anything to make her smile. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848454 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 14:59:54 +0000 fancyfunction 848454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had never even held a baby! I had a lot of doubt as to how we were actually going to raise a baby. But something instinctive just took over almost immediately and it all somehow naturally happened. I'm sure you'll be fine. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848453 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 14:59:47 +0000 Torchwood 848453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been comfortable with babies for as long as I can remember. My mom even says when I was a toddler I'd help the bigger kids get ready to go in the afternoons, and mother them. And I'm a nanny now. It makes me feel a lot better about having kids, but the catch is that I sometimes have to be careful around new moms. They really don't want you to be better with their babies than they are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848452 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 14:59:26 +0000 lovehoneybee 848452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. I always felt a little but awkward with them, like I was never quite sure what to do. It comes easily with my own LO though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848451 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 14:58:50 +0000 Lindsay05 848451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No! I could barely hold a baby. When I had my LO, it was so natural. Its amazing really! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-good-with-babies-before-having-your-lo#post-848449 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 14:57:57 +0000 Mrs. Pen 848449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: aww I'm soo sorry they made you feel inadequate. That's unfortunate. You would pick up mothering - a lot of it is instinct! It will come to you :)</p> <p>I had a lot of experience with kids - I've been a nanny most of my working years. </p>