https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 17:14:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1351173 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 20:01:04 +0000 MrsF 1351173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. We lived together first but I knew he was more eager to get married than I was. I wouldn't have considered marrying someone that I hadn't lived with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1351169 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 20:00:24 +0000 Ra 1351169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never even crossed my mind. I mean, who wouldn't want to marry me?! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1351163 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 19:59:25 +0000 Smurfette 1351163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! We were engaged before we lived together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1351154 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 19:57:56 +0000 chopsuey 1351154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha nope! no "milk" for DH until we got married! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1351151 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 19:56:32 +0000 Ash 1351151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! Just think it took longer for him to buy the cow since he got the milk for free lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1351030 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 19:18:39 +0000 MrsTiz 1351030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No because I told him I wouldn't resign our lease without a ring on my finger haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350993 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 19:00:08 +0000 dojo 1350993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never worried about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350981 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 18:56:18 +0000 ShootingStar 1350981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I never worried about this. DH and I were friends first, and we lived together our entire relationship. We knew there was a lot on the line to make it work and that we both wanted our relationship to be it. And 7 months later he proposed :). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350969 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 18:46:07 +0000 loveisstrange 1350969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I feel the same about this as I feel about sex before marriage. You got to try it before you buy it. Life has a shitty return policy.</p> <p>I will say, if he hadn't have joint the military... we probably never would have gotten married. We probably would have just lived together and had kids and called it good. My choice too, he was the one who wanted to get married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350926 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 18:21:07 +0000 MrsTal 1350926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, we discussed marriage before moving in together. I basically said flat out I wouldn't live with anyone that wasn't going to marry me and I knew I wanted to marry him so he needed to think long and hard before we did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350899 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 18:07:25 +0000 Snowdrop 1350899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No because I told him I wouldn't have kids before marriage and he really wants kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350892 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 18:04:04 +0000 bisous 1350892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I might have gotten a little impatient, but never thought he wouldn't marry me....</p> <p>On the topic of this silly saying, I dislike it, too. I agree with @Anagram - it's someone doing all the housework, etc. to prove their wife-worthiness. I moved in with my SO before we were engaged, but never tried to prove I was good wife material. Ha! What a scam that would have been! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350875 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 17:54:59 +0000 Anagram 1350875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. But I didn't live with DH until a month before our wedding, and then only because we'd relocated several states away. We each had our own places throughout our dating relationship,</p> <p>But I don't actually think the "milk" in these situations is really living together or sex, anyway. I feel like the "milk" is a woman doing tons of stuff for her boyfriend to prove they are wife material or something. And I do have friends who live with their SOs, do their laundry, pack their lunches, cook them dinner....and freak out constantly about not having a proposal month after month after month. In that case, I do want to tell them that maybe they've made things a little TOO comfortable for their SOs to remain inert on the proposal front.</p> <p>But what do I know...I wasn't into marriage at all until I met Dh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350849 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 17:41:44 +0000 MrsSCB 1350849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never! I hate that phrase. If someone wants to get married or make a commitment, they will. I feel like it just suggests that to get someone to commit you need to hold sex or moving in together over, or whatever, over their head and that's not a positive message, nor do I think it's accurate. Not saying you have to move in together before getting married or have sex. That's a personal preference. But do it whatever way you choose because you want to, not because you're worried about "giving the milk away for free." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350823 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 17:30:31 +0000 whenoceansrise 1350823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: ditto, girl! glad we did it the way we did! our honeymoon was the most special night ever! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350740 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:59:38 +0000 Aimed 1350740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: agree! It's like women are compared to a heifer at the county fair! Men never get asked these questions :(</p> <p>That said DH and I lived together after we were engaged. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350736 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:59:03 +0000 Mae 1350736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is "milk" living together? lol. I had no fear of that having sex would slow our relationship down, but I did refuse to live with him until we were engaged. Not because I was trying to pressure him into marrying me, but just because I had lived with an ex before and it is so messy when you break up. I didn't want to live with anyone again until I was positive that we were getting married. And I wasn't going to be positive we were getting married unless there was a ring on my finger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350666 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:35:35 +0000 photojane 1350666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: same same.</p> <p>I wasn't worried, but we didn't live together or play naked until we were married. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350653 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:31:48 +0000 Bao 1350653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350604 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:15:36 +0000 Silva 1350604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: well said. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350598 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:14:24 +0000 Arden 1350598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate that phrase. It's creepy. Lol</p> <p>I don't have an answer for this question though because we didn't live together before marriage (well, technically we lived in the same house for awhile but not "together" - he lived in my grandparents basement while we were engaged.). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350565 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:02:18 +0000 Pepper 1350565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350553 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 15:58:44 +0000 luckypenny 1350553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I am definitely the kind of person who has to live with someone before I marry them. Luckily DH is a great roommate :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350538 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 15:55:45 +0000 yoursilverlining 1350538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I don't believe most men think this way; and I would NEVER marry someone without both living with them and sleeping with them (you gotta be compatible!) first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1350524 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 15:52:35 +0000 MadamBabyFever 1350524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, never an issue. We moved in together less than a month after meeting, and have been going strong in the 9 years since then :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free/page/2#post-1349718 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 12:40:20 +0000 HLK208 1349718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free#post-1349715 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 12:39:12 +0000 lovehoneybee 1349715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. But we're in kind of a unique situation where we've lived together literally since the night we met. </p> <p>And anyway, he was way more eager to get married than I was! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free#post-1349703 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 12:36:27 +0000 beachbee 1349703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free#post-1349684 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 12:32:53 +0000 IRunForFun 1349684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I wasn't, but he actually insisted we not move in together until we were engaged! He's more old-fashioned than I am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-worried-he-wouldnt-buy-the-cow-if-you-gave-him-the-milk-for-free#post-1349680 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 12:30:21 +0000 travellingbee 1349680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No but I made sure of his intentions before we moved in together. The reason being that I lived with someone A long time ago and it didn't work out. It was much messier to break up once you were living together. I was never worried that living together would make him not want to marry me though. If anything it was the opposite. </p>