https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Jul 2026 21:26:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299770 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 12:07:44 +0000 Bookish 299770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hahahaha.. no. Once I started showing any hint of independence my Mom cracked down HARD and was very disrespectful of my thoughts and opinions. She still doesn't treat me like an adult! </p> <p>I will definitely respect my children as their own people and listen to them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299711 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 11:36:07 +0000 LuLu Mom 299711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and No, it got better as I got older. I was always a very independent child and my parents recognized that so they caught on if my opinions were acknowledged life was easier for all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299634 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 11:00:59 +0000 Modern Daisy 299634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, the question made me lol! Of course not!! </p> <p>When I got older I got more of a say in the clothes my Mom purchased for me, but that's about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299501 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:08:42 +0000 Maysprout 299501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. It was really weird. </p> <p>My dad was in the military and had some expectations that we'd respond like one of his soldiers and my mom, I'm not really sure what it was with her but she invented her own version of who we were and got upset if we didn't mesh with that reality. I remember her talking to me when I was eleven about how it was time I know the truth about Santa Claus, I had no idea where she'd been for the last four or five years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299399 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 09:05:18 +0000 Alivoo01 299399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Accounting and MIS (Management Information Systems). I wanted to be a pediatrician, but they shunned the thought of any Dr program because schooling would be for a long time and I wouldn't marry young (or ever).</p> <p>@Andrea: I thought about it, but once I got into corporate world and the hubby and I owned our own business, it fell to the way side. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299389 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 08:56:38 +0000 autumnlove 299389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This definitely did not happen at my house! Even now my mom tries to tell me what to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299387 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 08:53:25 +0000 Andrea 299387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: my best friend's dad was the same way! Ultimately, she went back to grad school to study what she wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299382 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 08:46:01 +0000 mrbee 299382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: wow! What did he pick as your major? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299371 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 08:35:24 +0000 Alivoo01 299371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! my parents thought they always made the best parenting decision for me. My dad picked all my classes in HS, my major in college, and even some of my classes the first year of college. It was really sad. Some of their decisions turned out great for me, some, not so much. I had zero social life growing up because it was all about academics! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299356 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 08:12:49 +0000 blackbird 299356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>as a child? hahahaha no.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299352 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 08:05:26 +0000 Andrea 299352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't remember ever being asked my opinion. </p> <p>I want to find a balance with my kids. I don't think I need to ask their opinion on everything but they should have a voice. </p> <p>For example, DD is only 2 but I'll let her have an opinion on little things, like picking her own outfits. My mom was telling me that I give her too much freedom because I let her do this. I think that is ridiculous. I buy what I like at the store and then let her pick from within MY selection. The choice is still ultimately controlled by me, but it makes DD happy and lets her practice a life skill. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299343 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 07:57:06 +0000 spaniellove 299343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and no...if it was about something in my own life they had final say, I guess because they felt like they knew best when it came to parenting. But when it came to things like buying a home or a car, they let me decide (yikes), maybe because they thought I understood taste and American culture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-opinions-listened-to-and-respected-growing-up#post-299264 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 00:44:01 +0000 mrbee 299264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of the big themes in parenting these days is to really listen to your kids. I don't really think this was a theme for my generation!</p> <p>Were your opinions listened to and respected growing up? Did things change (or not) when you reached adulthood? </p>