https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 06:34:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73956 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 19:06:20 +0000 Andrea 73956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: it does sound scarier that way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73943 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 18:46:42 +0000 cupcakemama 73943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My folks weren't yellers and I don't plan on being one either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73941 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 18:38:47 +0000 anewme 73941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my parents yelled when they were trying to discipline or out of frustration when we were up to no good. But it was rare occasions, so I tend to think it's effectiveness didn't wear off. I'm not a yeller/screamer and neither is DH but I noticed we have started to deepen our tone with LO when she is doing something wrong and I think she's starting to get the point. I think the point is not to overuse it. Unless you are just the most mellow parents in the world, I think yelling is a pretty common thing when you are angry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73820 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 15:43:28 +0000 banana 73820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither one of my parents were yellers. They use to be super calm when they punished us, even during the times we got spanked. I think it was scarier that way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73787 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 15:04:09 +0000 mynoahbear 73787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents were not big yellers. My dad never yelled, we just knew by the tone of his voice if he was mad. My mom would raise her voice but not really yell. I don't think I would yell at LO. I would raise my voice but not yell. DH is also not a yeller really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73695 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:50:42 +0000 Rescuemom10 73695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither one of my parents were big yellers. We may raise our voice to DD but def do not yell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73667 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:15:36 +0000 lilteacherbee 73667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a yeller (and still is). I don't see myself yelling at our future kids because I hated it when my mom did. Even now, she screams at my sister and I (both adults) for small things and she thinks there is nothing wrong with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73662 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:08:22 +0000 Modern Daisy 73662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom was definitely a yeller, but I am not so I don't really think I will be as a parent. Sure if I'm exhausted and frustrated and my child is acting up I can see myself yelling. But on an everyday basis that's just not how I communicate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73658 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:03:29 +0000 CameronsMomma 73658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a big yeller, she used to have a mug that said something along the lines of "if I rant and rave, it's alright, I'm a mom". I usually tuned her out, or yelled right back. the hubs and I don't really fight, so there's virtually no yelling around here. Hopefully it'll stay that way. I've learnt from my mom that over the years yelling just does more harm than good anyways, and it's something I'd like to try to remember. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73656 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:02:47 +0000 enjollah 73656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: Same here.... sometimes hubs will say, "why are you yelling?" when really i feel like i just raised my voice. I don't think it helps that both my parents were hot headed either... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73647 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 11:52:37 +0000 BabyLove 73647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mother wasn't a big yeller. I don't plan to be one either. I tend yell at lot when I'm in heated arguments with my husband so I'm learning to communicate more effectively with him to ensure that I have the skills to avoid doing that when LO gets older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73643 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 11:45:48 +0000 Rubies 73643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents were yellers when I was in the wrong. I know that I don't WANT to be a yeller but I know I'm definitely a voice-raiser. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73634 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 11:35:57 +0000 mrsjazz 73634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was and still is a yeller. I didn't like it then and I don't like it now. It doesn't help get her point across--although she thinks it does. My siblings and I learned to tune it out. I don't want to yell at my kids. DH is not a yeller, so are planning on not using that as a discipline tool. Though I'm sure we'll get frustrated and raise our voices occasionally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73570 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 10:43:34 +0000 Mrs. Bee 73570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>only when they were really mad. i learned from supernanny never to yell/raise your voice because it often has the opposite effect you want (even negative attention is better than no attention so children act out).</p> <p>i don't plan on yelling, but i must admit that i have caught myself raising my voice a little at times when i'm really frustrated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73567 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 10:41:19 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 73567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents yelled. They didn't do it a lot but when they did I hated it. I won't yell at my future LO. I never raise my voice or yell at my husband now and he doesn't tell at me. I just feel like it is so belittling and disrespectful. I think their are better ways to communicate.</p> <p>That being said if I have a LO who is really young, isn't talking yet, and is doing something potentially dangerous I'd raise my voice to get their attention so they would stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73525 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 09:40:15 +0000 Clementine 73525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents yelled as a last resort, but they were good at nagging. I hope not to be a nagger if I can help it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73523 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 09:38:49 +0000 heffalump 73523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents didn't yell often. Which is good because I have a weird thing with yelling. I hate it, and it doesn't work at all on me because I just get so upset about the yelling, I can't think about what they're yelling about. </p> <p>I won't yell at LO, of course for something huge it might come out, but I don't feel like it's effective. Hubby and I are very good about not yelling at eachother and talking about things calmly, so hopefully that will work with LO too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-your-parents-big-yellers-dowill-you-yell-at-your-kids#post-73518 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 09:35:24 +0000 Andrea 73518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a big yeller so she thinks I should be yelling at my LO now. I tell her that the LO is only 21 months and yelling isn't an effective form of communication. I can see myself yelling if she does something really disobedient when she is older but not now. </p>