https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 23:01:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2887084 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 22:24:50 +0000 Eebolleh 2887084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you followed the feedinglittles Instagram? The basic premise is that you serve the food, they choose to eat it. You are not a short order cook. However, always try to incorporate 2-3 familiar foods and maybe 1-2 new/exploratory foods. Interacting with food (touching it, picking it up, licking it, tasting it) are all steps towards eating new foods. If you have a tiny child, you can always have the expectation that they get a boring snack before bedtime. Smoothie or peanut butter something to know they’re full. I think there is good info on that in the kids.eat.in.color Instagram </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2886277 Sat, 01 Jun 2019 11:26:16 +0000 mrsrain 2886277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always. The only exception is when one of them is sick (like, sick stomach) and then I may let them eat something different if the family meal isn’t going over well. They are 3 and 5 and they are perfectly healthy in spite of the occasional refusal to eat what is put in front of them. Last year we started requiring that they at least try everything on their plates, though, and we ask that they eat the same number of bites as their age before saying they’re done. So my 5 year old has to have 5 bites and try everything on her plate, but after that she doesn’t have to eat anymore if she doesn’t want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2886142 Fri, 31 May 2019 08:38:58 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2886142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: ah makes sense I think we have left E's steak on the medium to medium well side of temperature. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2886140 Fri, 31 May 2019 08:36:01 +0000 Ms. RV 2886140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snarkybiochemist: She would probably eat it, but we cook it rare and I don't want to give her anything that isn't well done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2886118 Thu, 30 May 2019 19:10:10 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2886118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: Its funny that your kiddo doesn't eat steak, E loves it and did a pretty good job even when she didn't have all her front teeth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2886117 Thu, 30 May 2019 19:09:13 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2886117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JJ2626: sometimes E gets kid food bc its easy and quick and I need that. I also try to have leftovers from our dinners on hand to quickly heat up so she gets different flavors and stuff that isn't kid food. I also try some nights to have food in our crockpot so that I can eat with her and eat exactly the same thing. We have also worked to push back dinner time until closer to 6 so that it makes my life a little easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2886116 Thu, 30 May 2019 19:02:25 +0000 JJ2626 2886116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So one problem we have is that LO doesn’t eat dinner with us during the week since she eats at 5:30 which is when I get home from work. So it’s easy for me (or our nanny) to just give her something we know she likes. Even weekends we sometimes just fake eat with her and then eat our real dinner after bedtime. But, I know this makes it hard to expand her palate. How do you all eat with your toddlers? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2886115 Thu, 30 May 2019 18:52:01 +0000 MsMini 2886115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um ... 6 months 😂 we did BLW and you can pretty much make anything BLW friendly so I never offered alternative food. We also stopped “bedtime snacks” because my oldest would skip dinner to save room for his snack. If they don’t eat what I serve they can be hungry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2886018 Thu, 30 May 2019 04:48:22 +0000 Ms. RV 2886018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started this as soon as DD ate only table food (so like 11 months?). She eats whatever we eat unless it is steak. If she doesn't want to eat it, she doesn't eat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885997 Wed, 29 May 2019 18:41:25 +0000 SweetiePie 2885997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: I’ve also heard that dinner tends to be the worst meal because they eat all day so they are less hungry and more tired! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885992 Wed, 29 May 2019 18:03:35 +0000 wrkbrk 2885992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh and PS my pediatrician recently said kids often eat their big meal at daycare aka lunch so it’s not at all surprising if ds refuses dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885991 Wed, 29 May 2019 18:01:51 +0000 wrkbrk 2885991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: We don’t do this at hole bc I am too lazy but they do it at daycare. They started as soon as the babies could eat solids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885982 Wed, 29 May 2019 15:44:10 +0000 SweetiePie 2885982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: My 1yo weirdo ONLY likes stuff like that! He likes Mexican carnitas and Indian saag paneer / lentils / chickpeas and black bean soup. And I think it’s largely because I didn’t worry as much about what he tried from a young age. At 6 months he was eating some pretty spicy and boldly flavored foods. Did you try from an early age?<br /> FWIW I never gave this kind of stuff to my first until much later and it took him a while but he’s at least willing to try stuff like Indian food now, and sometimes he likes it sometimes he doesn’t. </p> <p>I guess my point is I only offered early from a young age with one so I have no idea if it would have worked the same for my first. But he’s eventually trying and liking these things anyway so it’s not that bad. </p> <p>Also, I don’t think it’s bad to offer kids a different kid-friendly option. I think the main tenet of “you get what you get” is that the first thing they are offered is the only option. Whether that’s Moroccan lentils or chicken nuggets is up to you. But if they refuse the chicken nuggets they still don’t get another option, ie “short order chef”. If you do decide to do the lentils and that’s your choice, you stick to your guns and don’t give another option AFTER they refuse. You can offer something they like WITH the lentils but not after. Does that make sense? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885980 Wed, 29 May 2019 15:23:36 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2885980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I serve my kids everything we eat and always have. I make sure some of the items they like (often add fruit and raw veg as a side on their plate). At picky stages I would offer a filling sure fire option like yogurt at the same time as the rest of the meal so they don’t see it as their prize for not eating their dinner. We don’t offer anything else after. UNLESS it’s a meal I know they don’t like. My one son really hates eggs so I don’t serve him eggs and expect he will eat them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885978 Wed, 29 May 2019 14:51:45 +0000 pachamama 2885978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's my question, what if you make things like lentil chili and Moroccan tofu and fish and spicy chicken? I have the bad combination of making weird food and having a very picky toddler. It breaks my heart and I've tried everything!<br /> I make stuff with a lot of weird flavors and textures and my kid would never eat it. I guess I really can't expect a one year old to eat that. So here we are at age 3 and 1/2 years old and only like once a week does he try some of my funky stuff. Thoughts? ☹️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885959 Wed, 29 May 2019 11:45:55 +0000 erinbaderin 2885959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends what we’re having. If it’s something new or something mixed up, the rule is you have to try it (taste it for the 3 year old, 3 bites for the 5 year old) and then you can have toast with some kind of protein on it. If it’s something I know they like and they’re just being difficult than they’re out of luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885957 Wed, 29 May 2019 11:38:02 +0000 KT326 2885957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Around 2 is when we started. But now my 7 year old is being a pain about dinner. So if he doesn't eat much he can have a healthy snack before bed, usually a piece of fruit. We have instituted a "X" number of bites of each item though. He is not allowed to totally refuse dinner. But there is no way we could have done that when he was just a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885955 Wed, 29 May 2019 11:22:55 +0000 peaches1038 2885955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We’ve pretty much always done it, starting with BLW. DS is 3.5 and has never once woken up hungry over night, even if he barely eats dinner. He usually eats a big lunch and dinner is hit or miss. He is an adventurous eater for the most part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885943 Wed, 29 May 2019 10:05:18 +0000 graceandjoy 2885943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eating wise, always. We did BLW with both kids and so obviously we always made food that they could eat safely. After 1, we always try to include something we know they'll eat more or less. But if they, for whatever reason, don't want dinner, they know they only get fruit and/or milk post dinner. </p> <p>Our ped always said as long as they have 1 decent meal in a day, that's pretty much enough for them and I always remember that so I don't stress over them being picky at times! FWIW, I have an avg picky 4.5 year old and a not too picky 2.5 year old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885940 Wed, 29 May 2019 09:49:27 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2885940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JJ2626: E has totally had nights where she plays with dinner more then eats it, maybe takes a bite or two, and still generally sleeps fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885938 Wed, 29 May 2019 09:46:49 +0000 SweetiePie 2885938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JJ2626: I was worried about the eating-sleeping thing for my first. I specifically asked my Pediatrician about it. She said and I nearly quote “he won’t wake up from hunger if he doesn’t eat dinner at this age. And if he does it will be a lesson to eat dinner before bed”.<br /> And I can honestly say that both boys (nearly 5 and 15 months) have had a night where they didn’t eat dinner or much at all and they’ve never woken up that night. So I haven’t found a correlation. Hope that helps :-) </p> <p>I’m not worried about him not eating. It’s just a 180 in behavior that I just don’t remember with my first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885935 Wed, 29 May 2019 09:39:14 +0000 JJ2626 2885935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in the exact same situation! And seems like the same foods-pb and fruit she’ll eat no matter what. My LO is 15 mos and. I have been offering her something I know she likes after she refuses the other things partly because I’m worried if she doesn’t eat dinner she won’t sleep and because she just seems little. But the sleep thing is my main worry! Any thoughts on that?</p> <p>She’s becoming pickier and pickier the past few weeks though. After reading these maybe I’ll stop offering something else and just give fruit or avocado along with whatever I want her to try. We don’t eat with her during the week because she eats before we get home from work so she gets whatever she wants then anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885933 Wed, 29 May 2019 09:27:45 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2885933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think 18 months/2 years old roughly. My kid has always been a peanut so I was stressed about him not eating. But after he put on weight I stopped wanting to reinforce the habit. He would get peanut butter on toast or crackers and that’s it. Now at almost 5 I pretty much never give in to him asking for cereal instead, though we do tend to cave if he’s sick or whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885932 Wed, 29 May 2019 09:26:37 +0000 ALV91711 2885932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much the same as @catgirl: for DS1. DS2 is 9 months and he gets offered what I make whether it is what we are having or something else. If he doesn’t eat it we just move on. He can eat one bite or everything but no way will Instart offering other food. </p> <p>If he’s hungry he will eat. I feel they all go through this stage of not eating much at least once. With DS1 I’ve never made a big deal about it. But if you don’t eat dinner you don’t get anything else until you eat it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885923 Wed, 29 May 2019 09:07:18 +0000 SweetiePie 2885923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: this is what I try to do too. Last night there were 2 things I was pretty sure he’d eat but then he didn’t. I think it’s partly a phase.<br /> He is pretty reliable with fruit so I’ll have something on hand at dinner vs after. That’s a good idea. I’m just so programmed to think of fruit as after dinner, I just need to change that mindset. DH did end up giving him raspberries after the meal so I’ll just put them out during instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885919 Wed, 29 May 2019 09:02:42 +0000 catgirl 2885919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably starting around a year? Maybe a little earlier? But I tried to always include one or two sides I knew she would eat in addition to the actual meal - cut up fruit or veggies, half a slice of bread, a roll, some cheese, a few pieces of pasta, a yogurt, etc. but it was never brought out after she refused to eat, it was always presented with the meal. We mostly followed Ellen Satter but I did feel better when she ate at least one small thing at each meal when she was super little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885918 Wed, 29 May 2019 09:00:35 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2885918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>more or less always E either gets exactly what we are having for dinner (or slightly modified ie deconstructed tacos or something) or an alternative meal if my husband and I got take out or are eating super late due to work schedules. Even when I make her something other then what we are having I only make one thing, so if I picked meatballs and broccoli for her thats what she gets even if she takes a bite of meatball and pokes the broccoli. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885916 Wed, 29 May 2019 08:51:23 +0000 gotkimchi 2885916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Umm always? But I don’t care at all if my kids don’t eat ala ellyn satter. So I put out what I’m putting out and that’s that. They can eat or not but I’m not cooking something else or making food later. Idk my kids seem fine lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-you-start-you-get-what-you-get-and-you-dont-get-upset#post-2885913 Wed, 29 May 2019 08:43:41 +0000 SweetiePie 2885913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ie not being a short order cook. </p> <p>I feel like we started around a year with my first but my memory is shit.<br /> Last night I made a full meal (which is rare for me) of things I thought everyone would like. Even my 1yo who is generally a good eater (see other thread I just created though).<br /> He wouldn’t eat a thing. Except tomatoes from the salad. My husband wanted to give him something different but I said no. He felt DS2 he too young for that, but I really feel like right now is when he’s going to figure out that if he refuses his dinner he’ll get PB sandwich or fruit. He’s def starting to test us and rebel a little. </p> <p>Not looking for general opinions on this “method”. Only when YOU started it if you do/did it. </p>