https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 13 Jun 2026 05:22:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1269528 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 13:54:07 +0000 MamaMagpie 1269528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: yah, you're probably right -- it would come out of one end or the other! I hope you got some sleep! Honestly, though, I'm such a small amount of time out from where you are now and his sleep has gotten a lot better and it feels like a lifetime ago that I was pulling my hair out about it! You'll get there, too &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268440 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 23:26:59 +0000 singingbee 1268440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMagpie: that's what I've wondered, but whenever I try to burp her, nothing comes out. Sometimes she will toot, but again, nothing is happening. If it was gas, wouldn't it have to come out one way or the other?</p> <p>@Foodnerd81: we had shots on Wednesday and that's when this started. We had a road trip from hell to our other place. I wonder if moving from place to place in such a short affected her? Who knows! She has done a bit better, but just when I thought she was down, she woke back up and has been up since. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268397 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 22:12:58 +0000 MamaMagpie 1268397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennimac: you've gotten some excellent advice here and I, too, can commiserate completely! H isn't a great sleeper, either, but has gotten so much better just four weeks after where you are now. </p> <p>One thing about the crying in her sleep and/or waking herself by shaking her head -- could she be gassy? I know if I let H fall asleep on the boob and don't burp him well enough (I'm afraid he'll wake up!) he does that and wakes himself up and when I pick him up, let's out a huge burp or toot. And then I feel like the worst mom ever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268318 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 21:04:27 +0000 Foodnerd81 1268318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: I went through the same thing. Just as soon as I thought we were on top of things, her sleep went to hell as I was beside myself. I'd read the books and feel like I must be doing something wrong, but I just had a baby who isn't a naturally good sleeper. 2.5 - 3.5 months were really hard, kind if starting after her shots and it lasted a month. We eventually did have to CIO at almost 4 months and she is like a different baby. </p> <p>Things will get better and you will almost forget how hard this phase is. You aren't doing anything wrong, babies are all different. Take the extra sleep whenever and wherever you can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268082 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 16:50:41 +0000 illumina 1268082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: you're not doing anything wrong. S was really hard to settle around that time and whilst she's still fighting sleep in the day she's more settled in general at 12wks... I'd as from 10wks she got much better. Hang in there, I'm sure she will get better really soon :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268079 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 16:48:20 +0000 singingbee 1268079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: thanks for making me smile! Babies and their babbling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268065 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 16:22:20 +0000 Silva 1268065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: Last week Our LO decided 11 pm was the perfect time to practice her babbling. Two nights in a row, we laid in the dark just listening to her and kind of wanting to die. I'm mean, soooo cute, but also I want to stab my eyeballs out because I'm so tired. Oh, babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268059 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 16:14:12 +0000 singingbee 1268059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: that's totally true! Just when I feel like I have a handle on it, I'm thrown a monkey wrench. :) totally worth it, though. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268056 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 16:10:36 +0000 Silva 1268056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: try to keep in mind that just like all the good phases pass quickly, so too do the rough ones. I still feel like just when I get in a groove, something changes and throws it out of whack. Nothing lasts with babies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268054 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 16:06:22 +0000 singingbee 1268054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies! I don't feel like such a failure now. It's good to hear that this is normal. Her daddy took her this morning at 6:50 and let me sleep some, which was wonderful. When I came out, I asked him if she had been trouble and he said that she had fallen asleep after about 10 minutes. So, she had been asleep for over an 1 hr and a half. She woke up around 10:30 three hours after she went to sleep. We nursed, played, talked about things, and then started to go down for a nap about an hour after she had gotten up because she was yawning. It took about 40 minutes and then she went down while I was wearing the boba. She slept for about an hour because she started this awful crying in her sleep thing. Sounded like someone was hurting her. I don't know what that is?! She nursed and fell asleep at 2:30 after screaming and then I gave her a bottle of pumped milk after she wouldn't latch because she was crying. She passed out and has been asleep for almost 40 minutes. I felt awful because I thought she was crying because she was so tired and now I think she was hungry and tired. This sleep seems to be different, more like a deeper sleep, so that's good. I'm holding her because I really want her to rest. </p> <p>I felt like I really had a handle on this mom thing. She was doing well, made it through shots, and now this. I'm glad that the consensus is it is normal and will hopefully pass soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1268000 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 14:49:50 +0000 Smurfette 1268000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly it sounds normal to me. R would take over an hour every night to get asleep. She wouldn't nap unless on us. We out her down and she woke up. She learned to nap on her own when she started day care. And then we sleep trained to get her asleep on her own. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267969 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 14:07:12 +0000 immabeetoo 1267969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong!! Some babies aren't great sleepers, period. Don't beat yourself up for letting her sleep on you, with LO#2 in the future I plan to do that more often. Do whatever works, and if it's not working for naps, take a break. It's so hard when you're tense and frustrated and know baby is tired!! Taking a walk or leaving the house helped us. Hang in there, and know that it gets better. Around 5 months we started no cry sleep solution for falling asleep on his own (night first, then naps) and it went really well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267948 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 13:43:51 +0000 Dagny 1267948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry! My LO has always had a rough time sleeping and it can be brutal. The only suggestion I wanted to make is bouncing to sleep on an exercise ball. This saved me for the first few months. Plus, you get some exercise! I also just wanted to mention that if you can find a safe way to co-sleep - one that you are comfortable with, don't feel bad about that! I co-slept with my LO for the first few months - I wouldn't have survived otherwise. That being said, it totally depends on how comfortable you are with doing that. Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267940 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 13:32:23 +0000 Kemma 1267940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately what you're going through is normal and sounds like a combo of growth spurt and wonder week maybe?</p> <p>No advice other than just keep swimming and this too, shall pass! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267851 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 12:21:17 +0000 ladybee 1267851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@evansjamie: We do bath every night (at 8pm). He loves the warm water, he farts a ton which makes him happy, and the activity wears him out for bed. Night time sleep is our best sleep, naps he takes in his swing because I need a break during the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267847 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 12:18:34 +0000 lawbee11 1267847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@evansjamie: Yes! M was noticeably less fussy on nights we gave her a bath so we decided to just do one every night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267830 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 12:07:42 +0000 avivoca 1267830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am right there in the trenches with you. The only reason I am getting decent night sleep is because we are co-sleeping, but it is a slippery slope. We've been doing naps in the swing with the vibration going, and they have been so much better. I'm basically doing whatever works until we start daycare, and also trying to start a nap/nighttime routine. </p> <p>@lawbee11: I might start doing a bath every night because she really enjoys playing and kicking the water. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267770 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 10:28:11 +0000 .twist. 1267770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: I agree with this. Even with my really crappy sleeper, he always went down for the night easily because we have done a routine, the same almost every night, since about 3 or 4 weeks! I feel like it made a huuuuge difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267755 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 10:11:37 +0000 Silva 1267755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You aren't doing anything wrong! Some babies are just...difficult when it comes to sleep. Are you open to co bedding? My LO has never stayed asleep for a transfer, no matter how long I wait to move her, so we cobed. It's the only way I get rest.<br /> I think around that age, maybe a little later, I started doing a nap every 90 min to 2 hours, no matter what. So I would wear her and bounce on the yoga ball, or go for a drive, or a walk, no matter what it took to get her to sleep. Being less tired might help with nighttime sleep? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267749 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 10:07:30 +0000 Revel 1267749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you're doing anything wrong. We had a period of bad sleep from 7 to 10 ish weeks and then she got much better until like 5.5 months. I'd second the swaddle, swing, and setting up at least a regular bedtime attempt. And cut yourself some slack, baby sleep is challenging and always changing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267707 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 09:10:18 +0000 DillonLion 1267707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tight swaddling, the swing, and a bedtime routine helped us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267702 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 09:08:58 +0000 LittleFox 1267702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This chart was also helpful to me in formulating my own loose schedules: <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/11GHo4keUb2TVJUlSL1kD6HQcEgaNFBmzoQoOzcpcyas/mobilebasic?authkey=CPXE1bsO&#038;pli=1&#038;hl=en#" rel="nofollow">https://docs.google.com/document/d/11GHo4keUb2TVJUlSL1kD6HQcEgaNFBmzoQoOzcpcyas/mobilebasic?authkey=CPXE1bsO&#038;pli=1&#038;hl=en#</a></p> <p>This was also a helpful read each month. At 2 months, she notes that it's normal for naps to be disorganized and that helping baby sleep like you are is a good thing. <a href="http://www.thealphaparent.com/2013/01/timeline-of-baby-and-toddler-sleep.html?m=1" rel="nofollow">http://www.thealphaparent.com/2013/01/timeline-of-baby-and-toddler-sleep.html?m=1</a></p> <p>You might also look into No Cry Sleep Solution going forward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267697 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 09:05:57 +0000 LittleFox 1267697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any great advice, but just wanted to say that you might not be doing anything wrong. You said she's in the middle of a wonder week, and that plus being overtired might be throwing her off. I also wouldn't do CIO that early, so I agree with you there. Starting to work with a daily routine or loose schedule might be good, if you haven't already. Do you swaddle? That might help, too. Hang in there, though. A part of it might just be time. A lot can change in 4 weeks, too, so try not to get too worried about that. You're probably doing a great job, so don't beat yourself up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267694 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 09:04:31 +0000 MamaCate 1267694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO sounds a lot like yours at this age. I am so sorry! While sleep continues to now be our strong suit (and LO is now 2!) things got better around 11 weeks right before I went back to work. At this point she is so little that on demand sleep makes the most sense. I would maybe try to start your soothing to sleep routine earlier, like after an hour of awake time, to avoid the overtired zone. And see if there are ways to meet in the middle--i did the last nap of the day in the moby consistently at that age because I knew she would sleep well once I got her out and I could still be up and about. </p> <p>I am so sorry about your night last night! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267692 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 09:00:14 +0000 lawbee11 1267692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have a nighttime routine that you do at/around the same time every night? We started one around 4 weeks. We did bath, lotion massage, pjs, nurse, bed. I really, really think this helped. We only do soap every other night, but she loves the bath so it's a nice, relaxing transition to bedtime. My LO has gone through periods of multiple wakeups but going down for the night has always been easy for us and I think the routine really helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267675 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 08:25:51 +0000 MapleMoose 1267675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but LO is 8 weeks also and even though she usually sleeps 7-9 hours at night with a few short naps during the day (naps are always a struggle unless she's being held), the past few days gave been terrible sleep both day and night. Must be a growth or development spurt so I'm just riding it through. It's exhausting. I feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267645 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 07:41:34 +0000 matador84 1267645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 8 weeks I started my LO on a schedule. He was up by 6 nursing, and nursed again at 9, 12, 3, 6, and 9. In between we did periods of play and nap with no naps lasting more than 3 hours to ensure it didn't interfere with daytime sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267640 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 07:25:56 +0000 ladybee 1267640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice as the last 24 hours have been hell sleep wise and I've been up every 40 minutes for the last 4 hours. Just wanted to send hugs. This is not our norm (transitioning from RNP to PNP) and I hate it. I can't imagine doing this every night. I hope you get helpful answers and some sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-am-i-doing-wrong-3#post-1267629 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 06:24:30 +0000 singingbee 1267629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Help. LO is 8 weeks old and In the middle of a wonder week. I'm writing this after being up from 2:16-until now about every 15-30 minutes. This is after fighting with LO all day about naps and going to sleep. She is a stubborn one and fights sleeps. Once she falls asleep, she wakes back up very easily. Either she will pop open her eyes or she moves her head back and forth on your shoulder, quite violently it seems, and that sometimes wakes her up. </p> <p>Yesterday she got up around 7:50 am. She nursed and fell back asleep by 9:40. She slept in the swing, which was a little different for us. She slept off and on until 11:30. She woke up, nursed, and then everything went to the dogs at this point. DH said he would take her. Well, he doesn't really do anything actively to make her fall asleep or help her fall asleep. When he does, it's too late and she is too tired. Well, she fell asleep and we put her down and she woke up 10 minutes later. LO didn't go back to sleep until 4:40 and only slept until 5;40. We then tried to fall asleep from 6:40 and fell asleep around 8. We woke back up aroun 9:30, took a bath, did our 'routine' and tried to fall asleep again. This took until 10:15, but she fell asleep in my arms only to wake herself back up. We got her down around 11:30 and I fell asleep in the chair, with her in my arms, (awful I know!) until 12:53 am. DH woke us up and we came to bed. We laid her in her pnp and he woke up and started fussy a little. Since she wasn't crying, I didn't get her up. She fussed and dozed until 2:50 am. Then we put her down at 3:10 after nursing snd were up again at 3:45. Then I gave her a PACi and that worked until she would spit it out. I finally got her around 4:45, tried to nurse her, and now she is currently asleep in my arms, on my shoulder. </p> <p>How do I fix this? What can I do to help it? I'm losing my mind. She used to be an okay sleeper, she is hard to put down because she fights it. And when I nurse her the last couple of days, any time after the morning she will pull off a little bit and cry. Or she will be crying because she wants to nurse, the boob is in her mouth and she will be crying so hard because she hasn't noticed it yet. She has never had a problem with nursing since my milk came in and the engorgement was gone. </p> <p>I know she is tired, I see her cues and can tell by her cry, but he fights it so much it takes forever and she is exhausted by the time we are done, which seems to give her more energy. CIO isn't an option with us. </p> <p>I go back to work in 4 weeks. I cannot do this at night and work during the day. I solo parent at night a lot because of dh's job so I would like to have this somewhat figured out before I go back. </p>