https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 22:36:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169470 Fri, 25 May 2012 16:02:31 +0000 littlebug 169470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People, and therefore friendships, ebb and flow. One friendship will never be the same thing year after year. </p> <p>And if a friend doesn't make you feel good, there's no sense in keeping them around just because it's expected. You have to do what's right for you, not what other people think you should do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169469 Fri, 25 May 2012 16:01:40 +0000 ladyfingers 169469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That it's OK to not want to be friends with somebody. I had a friend I was very, very close with for a couple of years and then I just, wasn't. There were a lot of factors -- I had grown and she had not, she had proven herself to not be the most reliable or trustworthy person, she wasn't willing to listen to anybody about her destructive and petty behavior -- so I had to step away. She tried reopening the friendship a few times and I got sage advice that it was OK for me not to want to do that. Now, we're civil and when we see each other in social situations it's no longer tense -- we can have conversations at dinners or parties without her wondering why I went away, and without me cringing hoping she won't try to get too close. But it took a while to get to that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169467 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:59:05 +0000 SleepyMonkey 169467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been a part of many girl groups and I've learned that girls just tend to talk about each other. It doesn't mean we don't love each other...kind of like how you know your family members have flaws, get annoyed by them and vent about them, but at the end of the day, you love them. That is just my observation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169462 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:53:18 +0000 Sammyfab 169462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1) quality offer quantity. I would much rather have a few really close friends for life than many acquaintances that come and go.</p> <p>2) true friends will put in the effort no matter what....and it will never seem like an effort. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169457 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:49:30 +0000 holdonforonemoreday 169457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: ditto to all. </p> <p>Biggest thing I've learned is that some people are drama queens and they are just not worth the time. And if they make it all about them, turf them to the curb. I've learned that lesson a few times over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169451 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:40:28 +0000 mediagirl 169451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>-Some friends aren't worth keeping.<br /> -Friendship is a two-way street.<br /> -A good friend is someone who you can go months without talking to and pick up like you saw each other last night for dinner.<br /> -Distance between two people does not mean a friendship will not continue.<br /> -Friends come from all sorts of different places. I never thought I could call someone I had never "met" in real life a friend before social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169449 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:37:34 +0000 Mrs. Blue 169449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just because friends drift apart doesn't mean you don't both cherish the relationship for what it meant during that phase of life.</p> <p>Some friends become family-not in a cliche way, but in a "when the foundations of your world have been shattered, their the one you trust to remind you who you are and what is truth" way.</p> <p>And last, the cliche "To have good friends, be a good friend" has a lot of truth to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169441 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:27:17 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 169441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: Plenty of hope! I don't think I had friends that I consider family until I was well into my 30's... and some of those folks turned out to be people I had already known for years, but hadn't really bonded with deeply until later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169437 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:22:51 +0000 sslm 169437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: you're so lucky to have found good friends like that :) I just haven't been quite as lucky I guess. There's still hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169434 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:17:32 +0000 sslm 169434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: oh yes, definitely immediate! Basically it's just DH, my parents, my sister. DH's parents and sister are good too. Everyone else sucks. Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169433 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:17:30 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 169433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Loyalty above all. Even if someone has a tough personality, but is loyal, they are a keeper. If someone is so amazing to be around but not loyal, it's just not worth it to try and stay really close.</p> <p>If someone lies to me about something (big or small), they don't get into my inner circle.</p> <p>Friendships go in phases, so it's never worth "breaking up" with a friend. They'll either get closer to you over time or fade away. No need to make that call in the moment.</p> <p>I try to keep drama out of my life, and I hope for friends who do the same. If you have lots of drama, we probably won't be super close until the drama dies down in your life.</p> <p>@SSLM: I've found friends who are there through thick and thin in a way that is just as strong as family. I have my blood family, my adopted family, and then my friend family. I see them all as equals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169431 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:13:56 +0000 chopsuey 169431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: Ditto! For me it's immediate family. Got burned by cousins! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169425 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:09:49 +0000 sslm 169425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sadly I have learned that there isn't reay anyone I can trust or rely on outside of family :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169417 Fri, 25 May 2012 15:06:50 +0000 chopsuey 169417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Friends come and go.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169373 Fri, 25 May 2012 14:41:06 +0000 mrsjazz 169373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: yup!</p> <p>1) don't hold anything said in a venting session against a friend's significant other (unless it's about violence) because it could lead to disliking someone a friend is going to be with for a long time...which could lead to an end of the friendship.</p> <p>2) sometimes you may value a friendship more than the friend does...and that's sad.</p> <p>3) everyone talks about each other in some way and when you have lots of mutual friends don't be upset if you find out that a friend vents about you to another friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169349 Fri, 25 May 2012 14:26:38 +0000 mrbee 169349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: Yah I used to firmly believe that too! But it turned out for this friend, he just didn't know how to do small little things... but he is fiercely loyal and has really been there for me. It was a surprise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169345 Fri, 25 May 2012 14:23:36 +0000 Alivoo01 169345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Rubies: comment on when people change, the friendship changes as well. Sometimes for the better depending on what direction in life you and the friend are heading. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169334 Fri, 25 May 2012 14:05:31 +0000 Rubies 169334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Your #2 is very interesting because I have the exact opposite opinion. I've learned that if I can't trust them with the "small things" then I for sure can't trust them with the big things.</p> <p>I've learned that people change and when people change, friendships change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169333 Fri, 25 May 2012 14:04:50 +0000 LuLu Mom 169333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1) quality of quantity is the way in mature friendships. The quality of one great friend is better than 10 unreliable friends. </p> <p>2) Apologizes go a long way, just like in any relationship if its someone you care about, don't be stubborn and admit default. I was estranged from a close friend for a couple years due to us bot being stubborn people. I finally reached out to her when she was pregnant with her first child, and we realized how stupid our fight was. We are closer than ever now. </p> <p>3) Reaching out frequently, sometimes a friend just needs a phone call. We are all busy but close friends deserve time too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169314 Fri, 25 May 2012 13:41:41 +0000 MamaMoose 169314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not worth it to get worked up over the small things that can go wrong in a friendship. Just like in a marriage, there will be some things that annoy you or cause a fight, but that doesn't mean you give up on the relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169310 Fri, 25 May 2012 13:34:24 +0000 autumnlove 169310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not all friendships can withstand time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-some-things-youve-learned-about-friendship-over-the-years#post-169306 Fri, 25 May 2012 13:30:49 +0000 mrbee 169306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll start:</p> <p>1) It's not realistic to expect one person to be a perfect friend in every part of your life. I learned the hard way not to get too worked up if a close friend drops the ball at some point. Friendship has its ups and downs, and it's ok if someone pulls back for a while.</p> <p>2) Often, the people who are bad at the "small things" are the ones who are great at the big things. My college roommate was so inconsiderate in so many small ways. After college, he was so thoughtful and considerate in so many big ways that to this day, I am staggered at what he has done for me. Oh and my friends who were thoughtful and considerate in the smaller ways? A lot of them turned out to be fair-weather friends.</p> <p>3) Make sure to value and appreciate the people who make the effort to stay in touch. They are worth their weight in gold. Well at least some of them are haha!</p> <p>What are some things you've learned about friendship over the years? </p>