https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 03:36:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754199 Sat, 01 Jul 2017 18:00:10 +0000 mediagirl 2754199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me: Take to daycare, make meals, bathtime, end of bedtime stories and comfort. Scheduling events/playdates/activities/swimming. Everyday everything else. </p> <p>Him: Pick up from daycare, brush hair and teeth am/pm, evening duty when I'm working late/out, breakfast (80%). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754185 Sat, 01 Jul 2017 15:28:23 +0000 woodentulip 2754185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me: Drop off and pickup, finances, feeding, clothing, gifting, celebrating, laundry, activities, transportation.<br /> Him: when he is not travelling for work, bath and bedtime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754184 Sat, 01 Jul 2017 15:09:08 +0000 Littlebit7 2754184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: your shoutouts made me chuckle (and they are totally true in our house too) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754182 Sat, 01 Jul 2017 14:43:44 +0000 gingerbebe 2754182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No family nearby. We don't use sitters. We've structured our careers and work hours so we can have coverage for the kids for things like sick days (I work part time and DH works from home most of the time). Once every few months some friends will "babysit" for us while the boys are asleep in bed, but we don't leave until we tuck them in. We have a housecleaner and lawn guy who do the heavy lifting inside and outside the house. Shout out to Amazon and my UPS guy for getting all my shopping to my house every day and my CSA farmers for bringing my produce to my porch. And to Costco for making all my other food and the best baby wipes ever. And AT&amp;T for providing my kid with a steady stream of Tayo, The Wiggles, and Curious George. Love ya, mean it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754155 Sat, 01 Jul 2017 08:56:48 +0000 wrkbrk 2754155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: All wakeups. All baths. Half daycare drops and pickups. I buy/manage all of his clothes, shoes, school stuff, misc., doctors appointments, medical history, keeping track of milestones, baby book, researching activities (swim, tumbling). I schedule and take himto play dates. She is in charge of all meals and meal planning and 75% of household tasks (repairs, paying taxes, straightening, laundry, yard). We both work FT. She stays home with DS for 75% of any sick days. We split dog care equally (4 dogs). We do bedtime together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754120 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 22:44:27 +0000 farawayyama 2754120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me: Weekends/ school breaks (I am a teacher), cooking dinner + meal planning, education, getting her ready for bed, buying/planning her clothes, books, toys. Booking appointments. Finances. Appointments when school isn't on (we book as many as possible for this). Breadwinner. Laundry.</p> <p>Him: Getting her up and dressed during the week, feeding her breakfast and getting her off to daycare, taking her to appointments, sitting with her while she falls asleep. DISHES. A lot of the day to day being with her. He has just finished grad school and will be home with her full time until he finds a job. I likely will be breadwinner for the next 1-2 years then his salary is likely to overtake mine (teacher vs geologist). This will change our roles a bit.</p> <p>Both of us: The rest of the cleaning, picking her up from daycare (stopped for now, will be going to preschool when DH gets a job), general day to day parenting. Baths, teeth, hair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754101 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 20:40:49 +0000 fancyfunction 2754101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a sahm but I'd say we do split just about everything. He's a teacher so during the school year, gets up first with the kids and gets them dressed and fed. On weekends and summer we take turns. The only thing I really don't do is bath time. I cook most meals but again, during summer he'll cook here and there. We grocery shop together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754073 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 18:39:18 +0000 Beth24 2754073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This has been a sore spot for me lately. We both work full time.<br /> Me: laundry for myself/2 kids, animal duty, grocery shopping, bills, pickups/drop offs, 50% of dinners, all cleaning, garbage, getting kids ready in the morning and for bed, baths, yard work and gardens, doctors appts, swim lessons<br /> DH: his laundry, 50% of dinners, usually puts DD1 to bed<br /> Landscapers: cut the grass. This was my task until I was 9 months pregnant and couldn't handle it anymore. They're so cheap I couldn't give up that luxury :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754036 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 15:26:58 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2754036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stay home and my husband works shift. So the days he works he's gone for about 14-15 hours. Those days I do every single house and child related thing. Grocery shopping, appts, sick care, etc all fall to me. When dh is home he plays with the kids, cooks some meals, helps clean, deals with the garbage, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2754020 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 14:51:56 +0000 codeitall 2754020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I actually tend to take turns at most things. Mostly because he's at home with the baby till she's old enough to go to daycare with DS. So I do dropoff and pickup right now, but he does a lot of housework and has even started making dinner a couple times.</p> <p>On a humorous note, anything outside is me. He hates the heat, so I play with the kids outside and weed the garden.</p> <p>My brother comes over on Saturdays to play with the kids in exchange for meals, so we get the housework mostly done then.</p> <p>Oh and any shopping (clothes, grocery, household supplies) is me. I either do it or send him with a list for the groceries when he feels like getting out of the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753970 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 12:59:26 +0000 MrsSCB 2753970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me: Cooking for us and F (I like cooking, though); getting F's food/bottles ready for daycare; cleaning bottles and pump stuff (I'll be done with that soon! I also mostly use the dishwasher); most kid laundry, and we each do our own laundry; bedtime, still nursing right before bed; daycare dropoff/pickup three times a week</p> <p>DH: clean up after dinner, changing most diapers, trash/recycling/cat litter (not kid-related but still necessary), daycare dropoff/pickup twice a week</p> <p>We each also take turns playing with F so the other can get stuff done. We do this in the morning with showers, etc., and on the weekends when we want to get chores done. I plan meals and make grocery lists but we all shop together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753955 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 12:47:52 +0000 BabyTsMom 2753955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH: bedtime when he's home (about 6 days/week), trash, picking up dog poop from the backyard. Plays with him on the weekends but comes home too late during the week.</p> <p>Me: Everything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753946 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 12:32:10 +0000 ineebee 2753946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH: Bedtime 4x/week, an hour of solo time with DS on Saturdays, equal house chores and playing with DS on the weekends. </p> <p>Me: (SAHM) everything else </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753895 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 10:55:01 +0000 littlejoy 2753895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think there are only two things that we don't do equally:</p> <p>I do daycare pickup/dropoff, and DH does all laundry. </p> <p>Otherwise, we split all other responsibilities like cooking, cleaning, grocery, general childcare, etc. DH does more right now because I'm pregnant (like yard work, feeding the animals, catbox and more physical stuff with LO). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753893 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 10:53:35 +0000 LuLu Mom 2753893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me: meal planning/prep/grocery shopping. I pick the girls up from daycare. I make all appointments (although we try to split who takes.) I usually handle sick days unless I absolutely can't get out of work. I put DD2 to bed. </p> <p>DH: he does drop off every morning, usually puts DD1 to bed. He mostly does bath (since I cook) but I occasionally help out. </p> <p>Laundry/cleaning is split between us (although to be honest I do more than my 1/2 ha) DH does yard work and trash duty. We split who handles bills (he handles house related stuff, I handle everything else) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753889 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 10:37:37 +0000 josina 2753889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me - everything house related - dinner, cleaning, laundry; daycare drop-off and pick-up unless it's an early-close day. Baths, naps, scheduling dr appts., clothes shopping.</p> <p>We both work full time out of home, and contribute equally to finances. We both do bedtime.</p> <p>DH - everything outside related - mowing, animal chores, car repair, garbage; finances, most of the grocery shopping, takes DS to his dr. appts, dentist appts, running our oldest (step DD) to sports practices/games.</p> <p>Other than daycare not a lot of outside help. When step DD is here all year (lives with her mom for the summer) she helps with dishes, cleaning and babysitting, which is a huge help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753869 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 09:47:41 +0000 808love 2753869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH- dishes in dishwasher most nights, trash, get breakfast and lunch ready for LO, dinner more than half time, pickup LO from school one day, vacuum and straighten one day, own laundry but sometimes LOs, cars, house repair, the dog, driving us around<br /> Me- groceries, finances, pickup and drop off four days, all things related to formal/informal education of LO, shopping,vacations, split laundry, straighten, empty dishwasher almost daily and sometimes fill it<br /> No outside help except offers to babysit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753866 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 09:43:52 +0000 LemonJack 2753866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a pretty even split. DH does all of the morning stuff (breakfast, getting kids dressed, etc) and daycare dropoff. I do the daycare pickup and make dinner since I get home first. We usually grocery shop together. I take care of a lot of the logistics (scheduling doctor appointments, etc). We split sick days, although DH has taken more of that load this past year as it's easier for him to take off.</p> <p>During the summer I'm home, so I take on much more around the house. That way we can have more family time together on the weekends.</p> <p>Edited to add that outside help is huge. We have a great sitter, and my parents are also a huge help. We just had DD2 a month ago, so my parents have helped out a LOT. I take the girls over there when I can, and my mom especially is a huge help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753863 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 09:40:56 +0000 youboots 2753863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH: bedtime, most diaper changes when he's home. He also pitches in with the kitchen. When he's done working for the day he will take DD for an hour or two so I can work or tackle my to do list. He's awesome and does anything I ask but he's also the breadwinner and travels a fair amount.</p> <p>I get Hello Fresh nearly weekly, we have a teen mow our lawn, and a 1x a month house cleaner. My Mom also helps out a lot with DD when DH is out of town so I can work evenings. We have a babysitter who is 16 that this summer comes at least 1 morning a week.</p> <p>I do everything else- the remaining grocery shopping, finances, laundry, all appointments for DD and the dogs, travel arrangements, etc. DD is a physical kid but still pretty easy and so sweet. Luckily she sleeps 12 hours most of the time, but DH does night wakes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753858 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 09:32:56 +0000 looch 2753858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: @Littlebit7: No babysitters here either. I feel like I have enough of a village where a friend of mine could watch my son if needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753855 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 09:28:44 +0000 snowjewelz 2753855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH - drop off/pick up, all grocery shopping, all cooking, take out trash, anything related to front/back yard, DD1's bed time</p> <p>Me - DD2's bed time and all night wakings, everything money related, most cleaning/laundry, replenishing all household/kids/our supplies, keeper of schedule/calender, maker of all appointments... Basically everything else, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753837 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 08:56:27 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2753837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me: finances, meal planning, schedule/life management (setting appointments, travel, etc.), entertainment/outing planning<br /> Him: kid dropoff and pickup, laundry most of the time, bath time, trash<br /> Jointly: income (we both work and earn almost the same salary), grocery shopping, cooking, kid appointments, bedtime, odds and ends/dishes/cleanup (we have a cleaning service for house cleaning)</p> <p>We don't have a village here either, but we have a great partnership. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753795 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 07:20:58 +0000 Littlebit7 2753795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: yeah also good point. We have no family within an 8 hour drive. I have a sitter for during the week when I work or have appointments. We have a housekeeper come twice a month (if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't be on board with our current situation. she is the glue that binds us. Haha. Sort of joking)<br /> But really as far as a village, we don't have one. Our friends all have kids/jobs/daycare/nannies/family nearby. We don't really hire babysitters at night because DH is home so rarely that when he is home, he just likes to be home.<br /> DH earns 97% of our household income; his job enables me to stay home in our high COL area. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753793 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 07:11:58 +0000 Ajsmommy 2753793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me: clothing them, bathing them, feeding dd, nursing ds, putting them to bed, medicating them, packing lunches, brushing teeth, laundry (mine and the kids), dr's appts (scheduling and taking), hair appts (scheduling and taking), pick ups during the work week, planning fun stuff on weekends and doing fun stuff when dh works, putting dishes away, 1/3 of cooking, night time wakes up, 100% clothes buying and toy buying, straightening up </p> <p>DH: drop off during work week, getting dd dressed in clothes I lay out in morning, brushing dd's hair, paying bills, his laundry, washing dishes, 2/3 of cooking</p> <p>Both: groceries, planning, logistics</p> <p>House cleaner: cleans every 3 weeks </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753787 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 06:57:48 +0000 lamariniere 2753787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: that's a good point. We have no family help and rarely hire babysitters. We do have a cleaner who comes once a week though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753778 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 06:49:52 +0000 looch 2753778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How come no one has mentioned other people in their village? I feel like I can't be the only one that has help that's not my husband....</p> <p>My responsibilities: earning 1/2 our household income, Laundry, 1/2 grocery shopping, clothes shopping, doctors appointments, cooking approx. 1/3 the time, 1/2 physical care of my kid (bathing, brushing teeth, etc), 1/2 of drop off/pick up and dealing with the school (PTO)</p> <p>My husband's responsibilities: earning 1/2 our household income, dealing with insurance, finances, cooking, approx. 1/3 the time, 1/2 grocery shopping, transportation and outdoor maintenance (lawn and pool), home security and monitoring</p> <p>My housecleaner: deep clean of the entire house</p> <p>My parents: 1/2 physical care of my son, cooking 1/3 of the time, 1/2 of drop off/pick up of camp school</p> <p>I should also include the teachers and admin at my son's school and camp, that deal with him for 6 hours a day, at least, year round. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753775 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 06:28:30 +0000 Littlebit7 2753775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only work a few hours a week at a hospital but it pretty much splits like this:</p> <p>Dh: finances, bills, and if he's home: teeth brushing, nighttime routine, playing. Oh and when he is home in weekends, he has started to cook dinner. It's his new hobby. So that is huge. </p> <p>Me: everything else including most mornings/evenings during the work week, I stay home most days of the week. All household management except finances, all sick days and MD visits falls on me </p> <p>It's not what I would envision to be a fair division but DH travels a ton for work, including a lot of international travel, and works long days when he is at the office, so it is what it is. I take off time during the week and get a sitter so I can either have me time or get my own shit done and I don't ever feel badly about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753770 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 05:40:47 +0000 MrsBucky 2753770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was working FT:</p> <p>Me: drop off, 75% dinners, most family logistics, 75% laundry, clothes buying, 75% bill paying, meal planning/ grocery shopping.</p> <p>DH: pick up, all breakfasts, car maintenance, most night wake ups after 1 yo, most bedtimes/ baths, investments. Other 25% of dinners,laundry and bill paying. Logistical stuff I delegate to him. </p> <p>We tended to split early dismissals and doctors appointments based on who had bandwidth. It felt fairly even, burnt was stressful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753765 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 05:35:00 +0000 bushelandapeck 2753765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH: bathtime, put DS to bed, swim/skating lessons on weekends<br /> Me: everything else kid related &amp; putting DD to bed</p> <p>ETA: I didn't include other household related tasks that we split, just kid stuff. DH does all the yard maintenance, we spilt finance related tasks, he does garbage, dishes after dinner, and we each take car of the maintenance on our own cars. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-you-major-parenting-roles#post-2753762 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 04:48:15 +0000 hitchhiker 2753762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me: all pickups and drop-offs, all things medical, morning routines &amp; breakfasts 3x/week (we split the other days with him probably doing more), clothes buying. </p> <p>Him: all dinners, all kid lunches, most garbage/recycling/compost duty, most meal planning, most ordering groceries, all laundry. He WAH 2x per week and always gets home before us. </p> <p>We share neglecting the cleaning. I need to call someone to start coming in and doing it. We each do bedtime for one of the kids. </p>