https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 17:12:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2872182 Fri, 15 Feb 2019 08:42:06 +0000 Mama Bird 2872182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My biggest button is when DS hurts DD1. Usually I just explode. It's terrible. I know I'm reacting that way because of how I grew up - I had an abusive family member, and no one ever said or did anything about it, so I had to be bigger and meaner and faster to intimidate him. I lose my mind completely when I see someone bigger hurting someone smaller. I'm trying to listen to DS before I jump in all angry, because half the time DD is really the one who starts it. I don't always succeed :bummed: but recently I got it through to DS that you don't hit someone smaller than you, and if DD is bothering him he should tell me and I'll deal with her. Now they both come to me complaining a dozen times an hour, but I'll take that until they're both better about using their words with each other.</p> <p>@erinbaderin: ugh, DS has started doing this thing with food too. Things he ate last week are suddenly "disgusting" and the list of things he won't eat keeps getting longer. Not a big "button" for me, but it's not easy to cook a full meal with a baby in the house, and when I get this response to what I made, I feel really discouraged. I keep reminding myself that one day he'll be a teenager and he'll eat anything that's not nailed down, so hopefully he won't eat nothing but bread forever.</p> <p>@irene: multiple buttons are tough. I hate messes with a passion too. I keep reminding myself that the kids don't quite know what a clean cosy house looks like, because it's been messy since they were born :crying: So until I can set a better example, I've got to go easier on them about being messy. Also, I'm trying to get more sleep because I feel less powerless to tackle things that bug me when I'm not half asleep on my feet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2872139 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 21:47:38 +0000 irene 2872139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another trigger point for me: When MULTIPLE TRIGGERS come together.... which unfortunately happened today :-( </p> <p>I am pretty rigid on schedules, and I believe in work before play. I am not a neat person, but I can not stand big messes. Not listening is also another trigger. </p> <p>So we had a "plan" that work comes before play. This mean DS comes home, unpack his snacks (put container in dish washer), does homework, then he can play. Recently he seldom unpack, which I let it go. I said let's do homework. He started and toward the middle he asked, mommy, can I cut something first? I thought he needed his scissors for his homework I said of course! He took his scissors, walked to the living room, cut out the thread that was tied to a helium balloon that barely floated. He left the scissors and a bunch of mess on the floor in the middle of the living room, and played with the balloon. I said you gotta come back and finish what you were doing. He came back, after a while he said he was done. I didn't look at him as I was busy cooking. I said can you go upstairs and get your reading bag to finish that also (weekly homework that is due next Tuesday). He went upstairs, took the reading bag and ran into his toy room. I turned around, his homework was spread all across the kitchen counter, the scissors and mess was left on the floor, and he disappeared. I waited a while thinking he was doing his reading bag work in his toy room. I walked over, he was playing with the balloon in his toy room. I was near explosion but I attempted to ask calmly to please come out and clean up your messes. And please do your homework in the kitchen (so I can see him) not in the toy room. The whining starts and he wouldn't come out (queue not listening). I exploded. :crying: </p> <p>Reading the above sickens me... I have become that nagging annoying mom that I would hate. DS didn't do none of that to get at me, not at all, Yet I don't know how to get out of it especially when I was in the moment....</p> <p>End of confession.... How do you calm yourself down when multiple buttons were pushed together ? :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2872124 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 19:20:16 +0000 petitenoisette 2872124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 doing something to hurt DD2. Do not hurt my baby.<br /> My DH mumbling. I have to ask him to repeat himself ALL THE TIME and it drives me insane. It is honestly probably our number 1 issue bc he knows if drives me nuts but he still mumbles constantly.<br /> The baby (almost 1) being up for hours on end or waking up tons during the night and the fact that my DH cannot help. At. All. She will not have it, it’s not really his fault. And if my DH would just say “I’m sorry I can’t help you” I think I’d get less ragey but it’s always “I’m sorry the baby is being tough, etc.” I’m not mad at the baby. I’m mad that I’m on my own and I’m tired and want to go to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2872123 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 19:12:42 +0000 petitenoisette 2872123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: @Kaohinani: lol I love that weak coffee made your list. It pisses me off too! Like why bother drinking it? Why bother making it if you’re just going to butcher such a delicious beverage? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2872113 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 17:28:58 +0000 codeitall 2872113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my children are like a broken record and nothing I say gets them to stop. Can't stand that. DH very rarely does something that annoys me. I may not like whatever he did, but we usually talk through anything or he apologizes for it because he knows it is something that annoys me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871980 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 08:52:33 +0000 irene 2871980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kaohinani: Happy Valentine's day to you too! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871973 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 08:46:26 +0000 Kaohinani 2871973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Great! I hope it worked! :heart:<br /> Also, Happy Valentine's Day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871963 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 08:22:33 +0000 irene 2871963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: yikes! I am really scared now.... And I literally laughed out loud at your DH comment! hahaha</p> <p>@Mrs. Carrot: RE - asking them to do things when asked: I am talking about, "hey can you please come over?" "Your face is covered with food, can you wipe it before you head out to school?" For example, this weekend at the urgent care (he complained about an ear pain that worsened during the day), I told him to not touch everything he touched everything. I told him to at least not touch his face, he rubed allover his face immediately. I told him don't rub his eyes, he rubbed his eyes in full force saying it suddenly itches. Gahhh!!! I looked at him and I look at some other 7 year olds who just sat there. The other day I was pushing a shopping cart while holding onto a lot of junk. DS was walking faster and faster and was about to cross the road and I said you gotta come back here and wait for me, please don't cross the road by yourself, watch out for CARS! He thought he was so capable and walked out, he ALMOST got hit by a car. Another car from a different direction has to honk for my DS + that car to stop. Sigh. Yes everyone is different, but seriously? Isn't some of these things common sense by the age of 7? The thing that ticks me off is when he made bad choices (eg. gets all kinds of unknown bacteria from a clinic into his body and eventually gets sick or well, getting hit by a car), I get to suffer for the consequence (taking time off work and taking care of him). </p> <p>But yes, thank you, everything you said make sense. I do need to write it down and remind myself when I am about to lose it. I like that you get super quiet when your LO gets loud! I actually tried it yesterday :-)</p> <p> @Sams Mom: same here with other people's financial irresponsibility. I am too old to have people like that around me.</p> <p>@Ajsmommy: Thank you -- I will try to remind myself as well. </p> <p>@Kaohinani: Thanks! I remember what you said this morning when I was about to be ticked off. I tried to slow down and not react immediately ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871892 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 18:53:38 +0000 catgirl 2871892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others DH is way more likely to push my buttons than DD. He forgets everything, always has. It doesn't always bother me but if he says something didn't happen because I didn't remind him enough I lose it. Or getting out his phone while we are talking. There are a lot more but those are the big two. </p> <p>With DD the only things that really get to me are when she is obviously fake crying and when she hangs on me in the kitchen. That's not to say other things don't frustrate me, because they definitely do. And I am not perfect. I get mad or snap at her occasionally but it's not the norm. </p> <p>For me the thing that really helps to keep in mind is that I am not simply raising a child, I am raising her to be an adult one day. If I want her to be a good adult it takes a lot of work for a lot of years - but it will be worth it. </p> <p>And I am not afraid to tell her that I am frustrated, and why. Or that I need a break before I can talk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871889 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 18:41:39 +0000 Foodnerd81 2871889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had several occasions today to remember a big button for me- fooling around and stalling when I’m getting them into their car seats. When we are at home in the garage I can handle it better, but when they are reaching for a bunch of different toys and fooling around and not getting into their seats, while I’m standing outside in the cold, usually after having fought them to leave wherever we were, and especially if I’m parked on the street, that’s when I lose it. My older daughter’s school parking situation sucks and I have to park on Main Street on the side of the road. She never wants to come with me at the end of the school day, then they both walk soooooo slow back to the car, then fool around when we get in, and I end up yelling half the the days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871830 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 15:11:23 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2871830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: one of the things that keeps my tone and volume in check is that I don’t want to startle LO and either make him hurt himself or develop a nervous habit.</p> <p>@SweetCaroline: totally forgot that one. LO loves to stand on me while I try to help him change his clothes or he won’t immediately stand up when I pick remove him from the table. He’s 35 lbs and too freaking heavy for all of that. I love when we’re sitting together and I look down to find him completely in curled up in my lap though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871822 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 14:59:15 +0000 SweetCaroline 2871822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shabang: OMG yes! DH texted me the other day and said "DD is playing her music and I am playing mine. You would go nuts." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871820 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 14:57:20 +0000 erinbaderin 2871820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: I can't count how many times a day I say "I'm a person, not a climbing structure!" My kids think they're monkeys and I'm a tree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871811 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 14:29:13 +0000 shabang 2871811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A big one for me is hearing two different videos at once. Like if the kids are watching TV, then DH watches a video with sound on his phone at the same time, I go a little (lot) crazy. I usually ask for one or the other to be silenced or just leave the room. This is when we're hanging out as a family, so maybe the screens bug me in general? But I don't seem to have an issue at parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871809 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 14:21:15 +0000 SweetCaroline 2871809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is silly but I can't stand DD hanging me. She tries to rough house with me like k she does with DH but I'm just not into getting elbowed, torquing on my neck, etc. I'm a grinch. But really, that's my biggest patience breaker. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871797 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 13:54:11 +0000 Kaohinani 2871797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: In my years, I have learned to wait before I respond. (In my 20's, I was far more responsive and headstrong - I would react to a negative stimuli.) I am naturally fairly high strung, an overachiever and a perfectionist but I realize that many people (including DH and DD) are not the same. I have a couple techniques to aid me in not impulsively igniting an outburst in frustration or anger:<br /> 1) I "step away" before I react. It gives me time to calm down and reassess the issue that frustrated or angered me.<br /> 2.) I try and tell myself that I can't change others' reactions but I can be cognizant of my own need to react and how I do so.<br /> Lastly,<br /> 3.) I try to think of the issue from the other person's perspective... I then try to "let it go" because my upset is not worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871789 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 13:16:51 +0000 Ajsmommy 2871789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I try to put myself in their shoes. I know that might sound stupid and my DH really dislikes it bc he thinks I should think like "the parent' and not the child BUT.... for example.. DD is playing with x,y or z.. it's time for us to leave to go to school or get groceries or whatever. So we ask her to get her shoes and jacket on and get whatever she wants to take.... we are in essence interrupting her..she is doing something. Something she probably really likes doing and is having fun and we are now telling her to 1. stop that and 2. do something we want her to do. So she stalls..... SO I think to myself how would I feel if I was doing something I really liked and then someone, (granted someone with more authority) told me to do something else.. I'd be unhappy too and I'd probably drag my feet and I might even whisper under my breathe how stupid it is that I have to do xyz when I was doing just fine doing A and that I'd rather keep doing A.. anyway it kind of helps me understand the stalling.. or whatever it is... and therefore it doesnt' make me ragey. </p> <p>I just try to remember that they are people too and they have their own minds and sometimes they probably don't want to do what we need them to do...... They ultimately have to, but I can at least try to understand why they dont' want to. </p> <p>Quite frankly I think it would be really odd to have a kid who never tried to stall or argue.. bc then they'd just be like little robots not thinking for themselves or doing what they wanted to do.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871788 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 13:08:44 +0000 Sams Mom 2871788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my son: screaming and fake crying... Every. Single. Time. If he doesn't get me to agree to what he wants, screaming. 🙄</p> <p>My husband: not listening!</p> <p>not listening when I tell him about something that he needs to be there for, and I've already checked his work schedule... But he still gets pissy when I start getting ready to go and ask him why he's not getting ready. </p> <p>Life in general: financial irresponsibility! Like we have a friend that is damn near 10 years older than us, yet we have bailed him out multiple times (he pays us back eventually), but I just can't grasp how he gets in the spots. Or my boss who makes quite a bit of money, but doesn't budget well and gets loans from the company to cover his essentials when he blows his liquid funds on stupid expensive shit. </p> <p>I get ragey!</p> <p>We're not perfect financially, but we pay our bills on time, have some savings, and a little extra money... Why can't people figure that out!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871787 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 13:06:48 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2871787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: The thing I try to remember is that even at 7 (mine is coming up on 6 so pretty close), they still don't have enough self control and regulation to do the things we're asking of them. Heck, many adults don't, much less kids. How many times has my 42 year old husband been asked to do X, only to do ABCD and M before ever getting to X? I try to remind myself of that when I have to repeat something for the hundredth time or when my daughter resists bedtime or doing something she hates, like taking showers. I try to remember that I am, first and foremost, her teacher. When she's losing her mind about taking a shower yet again, despite countless conversations about why it's important, I try to take a deep breath and reiterate that showers are how we take care of our body and here's what happens if we don't take them. If she raises her voice, I actually do the opposite and get as quiet as possible. I grew up with a screamer and loathe loudness, and my daughter is super extroverted and often inappropriately loud, so while it's not quite screaming, me getting quiet shows her that there are better ways to communicate. It's a work in progress, but just remembering that they are kids and none of this is designed to piss us off helps me a ton. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871786 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 12:55:44 +0000 Anagram 2871786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: ha, it might have been me. I work with middle schoolers (it's my lunch break now, and i literally just had an 8th grade class).....and even at 13-14 years old, they do not listen to me all the time, like perfect little robots. They are still impulsive, and have trouble following directions, and get distracted--all of that. Daily. Several times an hour in some cases. I give the whole class instructions, I check to verify they understand, I ask if anyone has questions, I will get dead silence in return...and then I'll say "Okay, you can start now' and suddenly I have 11 hands in the air, all asking me to re-explain what I just explained. That just part of working with kids. So I've had 15 years to hone my skills being patient with kids and seeing what kids are developmentally capable of. So I have a lot more patience with my kids.</p> <p>TBH--My 5 year old is a better listener than some of my 14 year olds. So I know behavior is not a linear progression correlated to age. In fact, the pre-teen and teen years are knows for the years when they sometimes become MORE self-centered and LESS empathetic. </p> <p>But I guess I do expect them to "arrive" at some point at adulthood. And at that point, they should be cleaning up their own messes and noticing home maintenance issues on their own, without needing a spouse to point these things out to them. (that's directed at my DH, haha). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871784 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 12:45:26 +0000 irene 2871784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: @Mrs. Carrot: Ahhhh..... where do I sign up for this gift?! I am never a patient person, and I am still not after I gave birth! It's as if my body didn't get the memo that this woman is now a mom and it needs to produce an obscene amount of patience hormones, just like it needs to produce breastmilk :silly: </p> <p>@Kaohinani: How do you react to things "slowly"? Any tips? I was just thinking I am like a super efficient / fast elevator -- you press the buttons, I am right there. </p> <p>@skinnycow: Stalling is definitely one of the main one for me too...</p> <p>Someone above (can not locate anymore) mentioned that when you know and understand that they are still young and they have limitations as to what they can and can not do, so you automatically cut them some slack. I was more able to handle that when DS was a lot younger. DS, who just turn 7, is still stalling when apparently we have 10 mins to dash out of the door, or he still cries and screams when I was upstairs and couldn't hear him, or he seemingly still doesn't understand cause and effect..... it blows me out of the park. </p> <p>I am made out of buttons and here's a few on top of my head:</p> <p>- stalling / doing things super slowly</p> <p>- not listening and doing the exact opposite of what I said, even on very simple things such as hey can you please go wash your hands before eating / after going outside, which is a pretty established rule :crying: Sometimes DS would ask me, mommy, can I do abcdefg? I said, hmm, no.... and he still go ahead and does it anyway. Gahhhh :crying: Not that I don't appreciate him asking, but then why do you even ask if you were going to do it anyway?</p> <p>- screaming / crying</p> <p>- disrespect eg. screaming at me when I didn't respond immediately</p> <p>- did I mention screaming? :meh:</p> <p>Walking away and taking deep breaths sometimes help. Sometimes... but then there were times I can not walk away and then I'd explode right there... I need tools to stop it from happening. And even with walking away, DH said it is modeling bad behavior because it will allow DS to walk away from us when he's a teenager. Hmm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871783 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 12:43:04 +0000 Ajsmommy 2871783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: samesies! I am the most impatient person ever and I have literally 0 patience for DH but somehow I was graced with an infinite amount for my babies.. thank goodness!! I can see how it could be totally different and mostly in a bad way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871782 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 12:38:06 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2871782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stealing my pillow! :silly: I didn’t really know that I had such a problem until DH called me out on it when he observed bedtime when LO was still co-sleeping. Shortly after I bought a door monkey.</p> <p>Time wasting is my biggest trigger. It’s not even about me having to repeat myself over and over although that gets old, but it’s LO not prioritizing my request or the task at hand. I have to remember that he may legitimately feel he needs to do other things first before complying. I tell him how his actions cut into the next activity, but that doesn’t always motivate him the way sternly counting does. </p> <p>As LO has gotten older and seems to understand more my patience for his antics have decreased. Seriously it’s hard sometimes for me to be patient with a 2 year old who unzipped and took off his coat all on his own because I told him no I wouldn’t pick him up because he was wet from us walking out in the rain. He knows what I’m asking of him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871779 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 12:24:01 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2871779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I cosign this fully. I was really nervous going into parenthood because I've historically not been a patient person and I really didn't want to emulate some poor role models I grew up with in that regard, and it was like the universe knew this and gave me a patience boost when I gave birth, and I've been really proud of myself and how I've handled areas that I anticipated would set me off. It also helped when I went through a fair amount of therapy that I learned to identify my trouble zones - not enough sleep, too much to do and the feeling of lacking control that leads from that - which had the potential to set me off. I admit, I get impatient with my daughter at times when she's very dramatic ("I ALWAYS have to do this," "I NEVER get to do that") but most of the time I can engage her in conversation about whether her thoughts are actually true so that hopefully she doesn't grow up with a victim mentality. </p> <p>With DH, I've gotten to be more patient there too, but honestly, my biggest trigger is a lot of the mental load stuff that we've been talking about in other threads, and any time when he asks me for things that I feel like he should just be able to figure out. He's very conflict avoidant and always worried about doing the wrong thing so he'll ask a thousand questions instead, and that does set me off, because hey, I already have a kid that ACTUALLY can't figure things out. We're not in the best place in our marriage and this is a huge part of the reason why. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871778 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 12:16:04 +0000 LCTBQE 2871778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: same, my son has gone through a couple of 2 or 3 month long phases of being *so* difficult, my 5-month-old daughter and son both are/were NOT easy babies--I almost never lose my temper or patience. but my husband and I push each other's buttons freaking constantly, like almost daily :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871770 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 11:58:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 2871770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It’s been a very crappy week so right now I feel like I am all buttons and they are all being pushed. And I snap or lose it it and yell at the kids, but usually I can walk away and calm down and apologize. But with DH it takes me a lot longer. I’m realizing it’s kind of like how kids hold it together all day at school then get home and behave terribly for their parents- I hold it together for everyone else the DH does something that pisses me off and instead of getting a usual amount angry, I get furious and rage and it takes me a long time to feel better. </p> <p>But it has been an unusually stressful week this week and is definitely a one time bad situation so I’m just getting through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871766 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 11:43:17 +0000 erinbaderin 2871766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Constant complaining/negativity/drama when I've tried to do something nice. Yesterday my son requested sausages and french fries for dinner, so I made that. He gets to the table and immediately has a fit because "These aren't the french fries I wanted, I wanted McDonalds french fries!" Next it was "this is the wrong kind of sausages" (it's the same kind I always make) and then "You gave me more than three bites." I finally just said "Listen. Eat what you want, don't eat what you don't want, but if you have one more complaint about the dinner I made you can get down from the table and have no dinner." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871758 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 11:06:47 +0000 Lindsay05 2871758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>-when I have to repeat myself over and over<br /> -people who don’t take responsibility for their own life<br /> -selfishness </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871745 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 10:36:14 +0000 JennyPenny 2871745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my DS knows all my buttons:<br /> - stalling<br /> - whining, fake crying<br /> - he's recently started doing this thing where when I talk to him about something he's not happy about, he'll just scream in the middle of me talking. I cannot deal. Maybe its cause of one my buttons with adults is interrupting but it drives me insane and I haven't yet found a good approach to handling it calmly. I usually just walk away which leads to more screaming/fake crying/whining. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-buttons-and-what-do-you-do-when-your-buttons-are-pushed#post-2871744 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 10:35:56 +0000 Kaohinani 2871744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I thought I was the only one that had to deal with a DH procrastinating or forgetting things! 😂 It is great to know that I am in like company and it drives other ladies just as mad 🤬. </p>