https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 05:30:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2605824 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 06:36:43 +0000 Ajsmommy 2605824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find this interesting and glad it resurfaced. I agree with the original posting that I feel like now people announce earlier than in the past! I am 13w today and I have 2 friends who are the same as me and they announced weeks before we did.</p> <p>I also agree with @Mrs D: that I tell people whom I'd be ok with sharing miscarriage news with. </p> <p>With both pregnancies we told parents and a few close friends right away. Announced on FB at 12w/few days after the scan/testing results and that is when work found out too. </p> <p>I wanted to wait longer this time around but DH was too excited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2605638 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 17:51:26 +0000 Alba4 2605638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We announced to parents and siblings after the first ultrasound @ 7/8 weeks (after hearing heartbeat). We told friends @ 12 weeks. I announced on FB @ 20 weeks with #1 and @ 30 weeks with #2.</p> <p>Some very close friends knew right away since I've had miscarriages and it was good to talk about my nervous feelings pre 12 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2605565 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 15:50:27 +0000 MrsRcCar 2605565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I announced to family and close friends very quickly after finding out. We never put it out on Facebook until around 20 weeks. We never kept it a secret. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2605537 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 15:30:58 +0000 Chillybear 2605537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First Pregnancy: We didnt tell anyone until week 6 -then we told parents and siblings, week 8ish we told my grandparents, week 11 we told family and close friends, week 13 I told my work, week 19 we shared on Facebook</p> <p>Second pregnancy: I told my mom the day i tested, my dad at 5-6 weeks, hubs family at 7 weeks, family and friends as I see them in person starting at 11 weeks, work at 13 weeks, I'm 19 weeks now and we havent put anything on FB yet </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2605525 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 15:16:52 +0000 MoonMoon 2605525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My comfort level:</p> <p>Only DH and I knew for the first 12 weeks or so.</p> <p>Then announced to 4 local friends (2 couples) and one long distance friend</p> <p>Told my parents at 19 weeks (waited to see them in person)</p> <p>After that, called/texted several more friends to tell them</p> <p>In-laws around 23 weeks (were going to tell them a bit earlier at Xmas, but bil &amp; sil "scooped" us with their pregnancy so we waited a bit more)</p> <p>At work, people found out by around 28+ weeks when I was showing noticeably</p> <p>Social media: never</p> <p>DH &amp; I were in no hurry to share, loved taking our time and being in a private bubble. Cut down on unwanted advice/comments too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2605516 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 15:08:11 +0000 Mrs D 2605516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My circle of friends seem to start telling people around 8-10w; announce on FB more like 12-16w. I have several friends who have struggled with losses - they seem to wait until 20w to go FB public.</p> <p>For me personally - we told our parents, siblings and closest friends as soon as we wanted (I texted my BFF the minute I peed on a stick...). We announced with DD1 at 13w (just after NT) and DD2 around 16w. I am personally of the opinion that I am comfortable telling anyone I'm pregnant that I'd be comfortable sharing miscarriage news with. SO I gradually shared with friends starting once I had been to the Dr to confirm... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2605509 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 14:52:41 +0000 PeaceLily 2605509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is really interesting! I'm newly pregnant with my first (around 6 weeks) and we decided to tell our immediate families a couple of days after we found out I was pregnant, so I was just over 4 weeks. I didn't want to wait since we were so excited to tell our families (parents/siblings) and waiting made me feel like I was expecting something to go wrong with the pregnancy. If anything were to go wrong, we would tell our immediate families anyway. </p> <p>We are holding off on telling extended family, friends and co-workers until I'm further along. Neither of us have any social media accounts, so no posting on facebook or anything like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2599094 Thu, 04 Aug 2016 23:22:30 +0000 yellowbeach 2599094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy to find this thread - I've been giving this some thought just this week. Today I am 5w2d and still awaiting my first us. We had told a few people we were doing IVF (parents, sister, 3 best friends). They knew our transfer and beta dates, so of course they were curious about the results, and wanted to be there emotionally for me either way. That was about 10 people (including DHs brothers) who knew pretty much right after we found out.</p> <p>Shortly after, I had to tell my boss and the person at work who makes the schedule so that I could shift some things around to plan for April 2017. </p> <p>I'm sure it's because it's my first, but I am dying to tell more people. The reality is that every day at work I seem to have to tell at least one person - yesterday we had a patient with CMV, so I had to ask my co-worker to switch patients with me. My hubby and I work together, and most of our friends work with us. If we don't tell a little early, I'm afraid by the time 12 weeks rolls around everyone will have been notified in a trickle, stealing away some of the surprise, leaving no room for a big announcement. </p> <p>I've never been pregnant before, so I haven't had a MC (knock on wood), so I can't say for sure how I would feel if people knew - but... I think, maybe since I'm in health care and know how common it is, I don't think it's a shame or anything hush hush. But like I said, never been there.</p> <p>But when we do tell (leaning towards ~9-10 weeks), I'll certainly post a little something on social media. It's part of my job, and I'm very active both personally and professionally. I definitely understand why so many people don't want to announce there though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing/page/2#post-2312128 Tue, 06 Oct 2015 20:22:29 +0000 ElbieKay 2312128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I txted my best friend the instant I got a BFP. We told our immediate family at 11 weeks on my dad's birthday. I told my management team at around 12 or 13 weeks. And that is when we started telling friends opportunistically.</p> <p>We waited til around 20 weeks to say anything on FB.</p> <p>I had a missed miscarriage at about 7 weeks, about six months before I got pregnant with my son. Very few people know about it now, and I told almost no one about it when it happened. Our parents still do not know. I am glad I did not share that news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2311334 Tue, 06 Oct 2015 00:22:08 +0000 daniellemybelle 2311334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to wait until after the anatomy scan to share on social media, so we weren't "public" until I was 19 weeks. But starting at around 6 weeks we began telling people, beginning with our parents and best friends. I would say by 13 weeks most folks in our lives knew. We didn't do it all at once. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2311271 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 21:48:14 +0000 Keybee 2311271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like to wait until after the first trimester, I've told people earlier and had a loss then had to tell people about the loss... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2311194 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 20:29:46 +0000 Mae 2311194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like 12 weeks is the norm and some people are a little eye-roll-y about announcing earlier, but also I feel like f those people. Miscarriage, should that happen, is nothing to hide or be ashamed of. If you'd be comfortable sharing it if it happens, announce when you pee on the stick for all I care (just don't post a pic of the stick for gods sake lol). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2311049 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 18:15:29 +0000 Nutella 2311049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told immediate families early, like 5 or 6 weeks. And then close friends around 12w. FB at 26w. Trend with our friends is not doing big announcements until later. With the MC I only told our immediate families and a few close friends, but they were a great support. Next time I'll def include close friends early on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310950 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 14:32:44 +0000 Autumnmama79 2310950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will be waiting until at least 12 weeks to tell even those closest to us. Following 2 losses it just feels better for us to keep this close to our hearts for now. So I'll continue the questionable no wine drinking at family dinners and wearing of leggings and capes and giant cardigans for a couple more weeks at least :wink: </p> <p>I think if I wasn't showing so early, I'd really like wait more like 20 weeks to tell work, buy can already tell thats going to be impossible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310948 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 14:31:08 +0000 littlebug 2310948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited until 12 weeks with the first. Announced to family and close friends first, and then social media 2 or 3 days later. With the 2nd, we announced at 9 weeks, both to family and social media, with 2 or 3 days between. We felt more confident with this pregnancy, since we had no issues with the first, and it was getting difficult to hide my belly already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310936 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 14:14:25 +0000 catlady 2310936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I lost my first pregnancy at 10 weeks, so for the last two, I haven't told anyone early unless I'd be comfortable telling them about a loss as well. So basically immediate family only in the early weeks, then my boss (in first tri but after seeing a heartbeat), then friends and co-workers after the NT scan. Seems like most people in my social circle do the same, or even wait longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310931 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 14:08:57 +0000 ineebee 2310931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did a hybrid of "announcing early" and waiting until the second tri: We told a handful of people immediately - basically those people who I would want to mourn with me if we lost the baby: brother, parents, BIL, SIL, about five close friends. After that, we started to slowly tell people as we saw them after the first tri. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310930 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 14:08:11 +0000 LuLu Mom 2310930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our parents, siblings, &amp; my best friends (I have 4) all knew pretty much as soon as I peed on the stick. Everyone else we waited until after our first ultrasound to make sure everything was okay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310923 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 13:58:12 +0000 wrkbrk 2310923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I waited right until I was "supposed to" at 12.5 weeks except for maybe 3 people. We had just found out the sex/gender bloodtest results, too, so it was fun telling everyone at once! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310915 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 13:51:54 +0000 ms.line 2310915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my dad and brother at 4 weeks (because I definitely would have told them if anything went wrong with the pregnancy), and we announced to extended family after my NT scan around 12-13 weeks, which is the same time I told work. I started telling friends at 6 weeks, but some of my out of town friends still don't know! I'm 20 weeks now and contemplating announcing on social media in the next month or two.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310873 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 12:46:43 +0000 alphagam84 2310873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited 'til I had a scan and heard the heartbeat at 11.5 weeks before we told our families. We announced on fb at 17 weeks (would have announced earlier but I was waiting 'til 15 weeks when I would see my parents in person to tell them and I wanted a bigger bump for our announcement picture-yes, I am a dork!). I wouldn't have done it any other way just in case of a miscarriage. I wouldn't want to have to and tell everyone what had happened, especially on social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310792 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 11:47:14 +0000 snowjewelz 2310792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't announce on FB till almost 20 weeks since I was just waiting for gender at that point. Some people already knew before 12 weeks b/c everyone had been asking me for a while and I wasn't going to lie! So I wasn't super strict with the 12 week rule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310727 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 10:43:46 +0000 psw27 2310727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>facebook... never!<br /> Moms and Dads -- earlier, maybe 8 or 9 weeks.<br /> Friends -- closer to 12<br /> Work -- closer to 14/when I was getting visibly chubbier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310672 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 09:56:30 +0000 simplyfelicity 2310672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told family at 9 weeks (after our first ultrasound) but didn't announce publicly until we found out the gender at 15 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310668 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 09:53:26 +0000 travellingbee 2310668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't "announce" per se until after the first trimester but I told people. Anyone close that we saw in person after my first OB appointment, we told. My parents and ILs and close family knew pretty much right away. Also my boss at work. We'd been through 2 miscarriages and fertility treatments and she had been in the loop through all of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310643 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 09:28:48 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2310643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wonder if it's something about first babies and second babies? I announced to family at 8 weeks and publicly at 12 weeks with my DD. I'm just shy of 8 weeks this time and honestly, I might have to announce at work a little early because my belly is starting to pop already! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310594 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 08:46:18 +0000 mrsjyw 2310594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly after 13 weeks or after gender scan at 20 on facebook. Friends tell me earlier, pretty much as soon as they Poas! </p> <p>We announced publicly at 13/15 weeks. We told close friends and family at around 8 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310586 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 08:37:30 +0000 blackbird 2310586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm actually seeing a trend towards later announcements (along with gender), but friends of mine usually tell me right away. Having to "pull back" an announcement is not something I want to do again, so I announce later. I had enough people say dick-ish things to me in the past, plus I HATE being treated with kid gloves just because I'm pregnant, so I just prefer to keep to myself. I think you just have to know "your people" to know how it'll go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310581 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 08:32:35 +0000 lovehoneybee 2310581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Specifically FB: I've known some people who waited to announce until 12-13 weeks, some who waited even longer, and some who announced before the stick was dry. To each their own.</p> <p>We had a loss not long before Evan, and wanted to wait until we got the results of the NT scan back, so we announced on FB at 13 weeks. We had already told our families and close friends (anyone who would be hurt/upset to find out on social media). We told our families at 7.5-8 weeks, and our close friends in the weeks following. </p> <p>This one we told our families around 7wks, and decided to wait to announce on FB until after we knew the sex and had shared it with our families. We found out the sex at 16.5w and I think we announced at 18wks? I can't remember now, but I didn't feel the overwhelming urge to share it as early as I did with Evan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-your-thoughts-on-announcing#post-2310567 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 08:23:49 +0000 Alivoo01 2310567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Publicly, 12 weeks seems to be the average.</p> <p>We announced to family as soon as we heard the heart rate at 8 weeks. </p>