https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Jul 2026 17:45:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-556055 Fri, 08 Feb 2013 08:09:48 +0000 sera_87 556055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: we were just very careful to keep the blankets down and away. So no over the shoulder kinda thing. And LO in the middle between the two adults is safest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-556051 Fri, 08 Feb 2013 08:05:13 +0000 Foodnerd81 556051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can people elaborate on what they did about blankets for the adults? Did you just keep your room really warm so you didn't need blanket? Or do you use separate blankets so they are off the side of the bed? That's always been my biggest question. </p> <p>Also, is the middle safer, or mom in the middle with SO on one side and LO on the other (closer to the edge)? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-555879 Fri, 08 Feb 2013 00:03:26 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 555879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we brought LO home she slept on us (in bed) exclusively for the first two weeks. We did it the whole time in the hospital and no one ever said anything!</p> <p>After that we started bed sharing. Only way any of us got sleep! We successfully transferred her to her crib when she was three months old, but even now at nine months we still co-bed the second half of the night.</p> <p>We both were very aware of her. I would wake at the slightest movement or coo she made. We also wore her, which might have made co sleeping easier for us.<br /> I felt it was very safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-555820 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 23:10:25 +0000 Arden 555820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a big supporter of co-sleeping, but only if it's done correctly. </p> <p>That means no co-sleeping on the couch (only the bed), no pillows, no blankets, no memory foam, never if either parent has had any alcohol or drugs (including things like allergy medication), never if either parent smokes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-555807 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 22:56:44 +0000 Mrs. Fox 555807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: we loved the arms reach co-sleeper! It meant we could have most of the benefits to co-sleeping without any of the fears. And DS was right there beside when he woke- I could pull him onto boob or just leave me hand on his back and comfort him that way.<br /> Also, try to remember he's so young that what's happening right now, isn't going to be what is happening in a couple of weeks. It's a big adjustment at the beginning for everyone but it settles down pretty quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-555600 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 21:31:21 +0000 mrskc 555600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't cosleep all night, but when he wakes the first time I bring him to bed to nurse and we both fall back to sleep. When he was a newborn, sometimes he slept in between DH and I. Just keep blankets and pillows away. Whenever he sleeps next to me, I'm very conscious of him. When he stirs slightly, it wakes me up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-555557 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 21:18:21 +0000 birdofafeather 555557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we haven't had her sleep through the night in our bed, but in the first couple days, she definitely slept on me so i could get some sleep. every couple days, we have brought her into our bed (she's in a cosleeper next to me now) during a fussy morning session. we just make sure she's up by our chests/head, no blankets/pillows by her and she's in between us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-555349 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 20:22:25 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 555349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ah, listen to @Mrs. Jacks -- she is the voice of wisdom. Though I will say by "cosleep," I really meant "nap." We did serious sleeping in the RNP by the bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551604 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:15:49 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 551604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would caution you to only cosleep in bed, not on a couch. I won't regale you with my couch horror stories. No blankets, pillows or positioners near the baby. If either parent is a smoker, I'd rethink the idea. We safely co-bedded since birth and I felt like we were very in tune with our daughter.. </p> <p>You might also want to try baby wearing during the day. Seems like your baby really needs closeness :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551589 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:06:06 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 551589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember cosleeping on the couch a lot with him on my chest. I took off the back pillows to make it wider and set up somewhat of a pillow barrier on the other side just as a mental reminder not to shift too much in my sleep. I also recommend nursing lying down, but I don't think we were able to master that until he was a few weeks older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551586 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:03:04 +0000 T.H.O.U. 551586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: Do you have a wabbunub? I know for little babies it sometimes helps keep the paci in place. Have you practiced getting him used to a swing/crib/etc and you just stay there and hold the paci? </p> <p>I guess it sounds like you've got two issues, first, he wants to suck and wakes when the paci falls out and second, he isn't used to sleeping anywhere but your arms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551578 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:56:38 +0000 pelikila 551578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We co-bedded for the first 7 weeks. We would swaddle my son and set him in the middle of the bed closer to the top and we each moved up in the bed so pillows were not near him and we had separate blankets so our blanket couldn't get over him and we kind of curved around him. That way I could nurse and when I was too tired I could have DH hold him. The extra warmth and our heartbeats worked wonders for us. We did stop co-bedding before I went back to work because I knew we weren't sleeping as deeply as we needed to with him in our bed but it got us through those early days and that first growth spurt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551566 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:46:06 +0000 travelgirl1 551566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: aw, he will start to sleep on his own at some point, and if he gets decent sleep on you then he'll be very happy all snuggled up to his mama :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551560 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:38:42 +0000 sera_87 551560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: oh I know. I would prop my pillows up and sleep like that. Even asleep you will be hyper aware of him (whether he be on your chest or beside you in bed). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551556 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:36:28 +0000 ladyfingers 551556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bebefly: yeah he seems to like it best when he's on our chest stomach down and we're in our rocker in the living room, which has a slight recline to it. It's so cute... But when you're already sleep deprived, a warm sleeping baby on your chest isn't conducive to staying awake!</p> <p>@Thehistoryofus: yep we use a paci or our finger to calm him. He drifts off to sleep that way (unless he's just totally freaking out) and then the paci falls out or We remove the finger and 2 minutes later he's back awake.</p> <p>@travelgirl1: true! I feel terrible for him - its hard on us, but we feel bad mostly for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551548 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:26:05 +0000 blackbird 551548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have one of these to cosleep with: <a href="http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=11525629" rel="nofollow">http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=11525629</a> and it has a little incline you can slide in there for reflux. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551546 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:23:10 +0000 travelgirl1 551546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: we were exactly the same! I think it just takes some babies a while to adjust from being inside you all the time to being apart for a while. I read on a wall in the hospital where I deli vered tha your baby has never had to wait for food, been cold or lonely before and to be patient while they adjust. This made sense to me and with our next baby I would probably expect to cosleep for a bit, despite initially swearing up and down that I never would. I found I was very aware she was on me so never dropped her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551540 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:16:36 +0000 T.H.O.U. 551540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I co-slept for a little while when my daughter was older (around 20 weeks I think). It was hard and uncomfortable for us then and I don't think I could do it when she was that little.</p> <p>Honestly, 4 days old, what you are describing sounds normal but yes, you should be able to put him down for at least 20 minutes. </p> <p>Have you tried a pacifier? I know you are breastfeeding, but honestly, I personally would risk nipple confusion! It sounds like he just needs to find a comfortable spot thats not on your breast! </p> <p>For what its worth, we started co-sleeping by first getting used to nursing laying down on my side. I would practice that a bunch before you try to actually sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551535 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:11:46 +0000 sera_87 551535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Keep your bed away from the wall (or if not possible at least the baby). The safest place is between you and your<br /> DH at chest level. Be careful of blankets - if you can get away with only having a flat sheet or a comforter instead of a fluffy duvet all the better . Don't cosleep you have taken any drugs or drunk alcohol. </p> <p>Have you tried sleeping semi reclined with him on your chest? For awhile that was the only way LO would sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551530 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:07:09 +0000 ladyfingers 551530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I'm just so scared he'll fall on his head or break his neck or fall face first into something soft and suffocate. But I don't know what else to do. I know people get no sleep with newborns, but I feel like you should at least be able to put them down for an hour at a time. Not this one. He's out cold, you put him down for 2 minutes and he's screeching -- and then nothing will calm him back down. Except my boob. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551525 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:04:00 +0000 ladyfingers 551525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelingbrit: @Mrs. Yoyo: we have a rock n play and he hates it. Like I said, we wakes up wailing within 5 minutes of us pitting him down anywhere. Including swing, rock n play, bouncer</p> <p>@hilsy85: I did, we've tried everything he says and nothing is working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551518 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 07:45:58 +0000 hilsy85 551518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you watched the happiest baby on the block dvd? That really helped us! Definitely ask the ped about the reflux. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551517 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 07:45:58 +0000 travelgirl1 551517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We swore we wouldn't either, but we did for a week or two. When she was in bed with us, I kept her away from DH as I heard dads don't usually have the same inbuilt alarm about not rolling when baby is in the bed that mums do. I had her on my chest but I know people who put them in the crook of their arms too, just keep them away from pillows and duvets. If you are on the sofa, try position yourself so you can't fall, with soft things by the side to catch baby if he fell. You'll be fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551514 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 07:41:00 +0000 hellocupcake 551514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have read different things, but the general consensus is that your bed should have the same safety precautions as a crib.<br /> No memory foam.<br /> No pillows.<br /> No blankets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551503 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 07:23:55 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 551503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>^ that was what we did, too. Also, if it is reflux, the incline is good for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551490 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 06:15:16 +0000 wheres_c 551490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have a rock and play?<br /> We get better sleep when we co bed but since its not reccommended, I put LO in the rnp right next to me and it helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-can-you-tell-me-about-safelysuccessfully-coslerping#post-551486 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 05:21:23 +0000 ladyfingers 551486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I swore we'd never do this, but I'm strongly considering cosleeping. LO is only 4 days old but seems extraordinarily fussy. He will fall asleep on me after breastfeeding, and on DH once he's successful enough to calm him down (usually takes an hour+ to do so). Then before you know it it's time to nurse again. It's exhausting and we haven't even been doing it that long. Our hospital made a big deal about not falling asleep with the baby on you, so we're paranoid. Seems the only way to get even an hour of sleep is cosleeping.</p> <p>But I only ever hear that this is dangerous, and I don't know if this us too young of an age to even consider it. Does cosleeping sound like a good option? If you did/do it, how did you make it work and still keep baby safe?</p> <p>I should add we have tried swaddles - miracle blanket, Aden blankets, and swaddle me - the swing, the rock n play, white noise, shushing, and nothing works. He fusses and fusses and eventually gets do upset he starts wailing and can't be settled. So I end up just putting him on my boob. Less than ideal..</p> <p>We have a ped appointment tomorrow so we're going to mention it - he's very gassy (I can constantly hear his stomach rumble and he farts all the time) and I wonder if he has silent reflux because he does this hiccupy upchuck thing but never spits up - so we may be able to resolve things another way. </p>