https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 21 May 2026 21:03:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant/page/2#post-66980 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:06:28 +0000 aunt pol 66980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh oh oh I just remembered the most amazing thing my SIL said last night on the phone- we were talking about the couple days in hospital afterward, and my concerns about having enough help, during the night for example, with lifting and feeding the twins - and she honestly said " Well you're not going to feed them yourself, you're not mad" . I just about stayed upright. The funny thing was, she genuinely had no idea that it was an offensive thing to say. Clearly, in her head, sane women don't even consider breast feeding twins! I mean I'm not an idiot, obviously it's harder than bf one baby, but equally obviously it can be done! Grrr... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant/page/2#post-66973 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:01:09 +0000 aunt pol 66973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eeh: Ooh I've had those. One old friend from college- I only see her about once a year, she rings occasionally and talks at me for an hour and a half- seems to go looking for these horror stories to share. Thank god I've stayed reasonably rational- terrible things happening in the 6th month are relatively rare- but I still don't need to hear them! DH was livid when I told him and wanted to ring her back to have words with her- but I felt that if he did that it would be like me saying she upset me, and that would enrage me completely. Insensitive cow! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant/page/2#post-66773 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:43:41 +0000 eeh 66773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I HATE hearing the "Just you wait..." comments. I understand that when I have a newborn I will be sleep deprived but that doesn't mean I can't comment on my sleep difficulties right now. </p> <p>I also hate hearing all the horror stories like "Oh man, when I was pregnant with my first I had a late miscarriage at ____ weeks." Or "My sister in law went through her entire pregnancy with everything being fine then the baby died at ____ months" Really people? What makes you think ANYBODY would want to hear those heartbreaking stories when they're a hormonal, emotional, nervous wreck who is already paranoid about a miscarriage? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant/page/2#post-66624 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:25:11 +0000 Clementine 66624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're so tiny or you're so big...seriously, it is so annoying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant/page/2#post-60990 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 22:16:15 +0000 SugarplumsMom 60990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually like the, "How are you feeling?" comments. What I didn't get and still don't is why anyone would repeatedly tell a pregnant woman to "enjoy your pregnancy". I was told that about 4 or 5 times by the same person. I just don't get why you'd say that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-60931 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 19:38:27 +0000 lemondrop 60931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"you are carrying so high"</p> <p>1. I'm very short, we were fighting for territory for quite some time, there isn't much room in here for either of us, he can't really go far!</p> <p>2. He dropped very low fairly early- he was murder on my bladder for well over a month..... carrying high my ass! I should have bought stock in toilet paper due to how often I had to pee. </p> <p>3. Nobody wants to hear how high their baby is in the 3rd trimester when you are soooo ready to get that little squirt out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-60923 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 18:59:37 +0000 pastemoo 60923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Goldilocks1107: LOL!<br /> @autumnlove: no way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-60499 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 12:44:16 +0000 jennylynn 60499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate "how are you feeling" too. I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Especially when it's the same person that asks you every other day. :/ Grrrr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-59541 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:31:33 +0000 singingbee 59541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anything about how hot I'll be in June, July, and August (when I"m due). DUH!!!!! I live in the south, I know it will be really hot. Also, I had a mom at school ask me today how I was feeling. When I replied that I was feeling well, she remarked, "Oh you're tired--you look REALLY tired." Well, thanks, lady, I actually thought I was looking all right today. : / </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-59435 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:11:19 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 59435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Oh, bless your heart." (Said by perfect strangers as I was out and about in my third trimester in the summer heat.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-59394 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:01:46 +0000 autumnlove 59394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: mostly from my MIL &amp; mom! Lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-59362 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:53:17 +0000 pastemoo 59362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: OMG. LOL!<br /> @autumnlove: yikes! mean people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-59128 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:21:28 +0000 autumnlove 59128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wait til your third trimester or I was never that big! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58991 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 15:18:07 +0000 lovehoneybee 58991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennylynn: We haven't gone completely public yet, but when we visited DH's grandmother she probably told me 20x how important walking was. I really commented because April 18th is my birthday :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58965 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 15:03:23 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 58965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Don't worry, it only gets worse" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58959 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 15:01:21 +0000 obxwife 58959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"What'd the doctor say?"<br /> "Wow, you're so big already!"<br /> "Picked a name yet?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58622 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 11:01:28 +0000 marley 58622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"how are you feeling?" isn't so bad. I'm sure they all mean well, and it just takes a one word answer. My coworker JUST asked me this question a second ago and I just said fine. </p> <p>I agree that comments regarding size of the belly is never cool though. We're at our most self-conscious stage right now.</p> <p>(hi everyone by the way! it's my first post) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58587 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 10:29:09 +0000 chopsuey 58587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you having twins?!<br /> Me: No, I just ate uncontrollably and gained 50 pounds. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58561 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 10:02:26 +0000 Modern Daisy 58561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am definitely going to stop asking pregnant women how they're feeling! I never realized it was annoying, but now I totally understand that if you get that question all the time it would drive you bonkers!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58560 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 10:01:47 +0000 yoursilverlining 58560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, one more lol. My grandmother asked my mom if she thought my husband would ALLOW me to go back to work after having the baby. Only since it was my 90 year old grandma did I let it slide. We’re adults – the word “allow” doesn’t exist in our relationship vocabulary. My mom said she laughed and said she can’t imagine my husband not “allowing” me to do whatever I want to do.<br /> Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58552 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 09:55:51 +0000 Goldilocks1107 58552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ooh, I forgot the nonverbal "comment" of everyone I pass looking at my belly. It's like college, but with bellies instead of boobs. I just want to say "Hey buddy, my eyes are up here." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58551 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 09:55:00 +0000 Goldilocks1107 58551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm going to start answering the "how are you feeling" question with "I'm feeling pregnant" - I know people mean well, but I can only give the first 2 people a response before I start getting irritated.<br /> And "You're going to be such a cute pregnant lady" - so, if I end up ballooning out in 3 weeks, I'll have failed at that? I just say, "Here's hoping, but I've got 4 months left." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58539 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 09:45:27 +0000 yoursilverlining 58539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate being asked every single day how I’m feeling. I want to just snap and say “like crap! Just like yesterday, and probably just like tomorrow!”. </p> <p>Another annoying comment is comments on how large my bump is. The other day a co-worker asked when I was due, and when I said June, she exclaimed “but you’re so huge, do you even think you’ll go that long??” Like, yes I will go that long – that’s my due date, not some random date I picked. I should hope I will go until my due date!</p> <p>The other that’s a huge personal pet peeve of mine are comments like “Well, *I* wouldn’t take that risk” or “better safe than sorry” for activities that are not actually risky. The US in general has a pretty over anxious view on pregnancy anyway, and I know this is a new experience for each of us – but pregnancy isn’t a new experience. We all live super cushy lives compared to both history and 90% of the world, and some of these nervous nellies drive me bonkers. If people want to worry that the normal, non-risky activities that they might engage in, or might think about engaging in might do damage – then stressing themselves out (which is an actual risk factor) is their own prerogative. It just irritates me to see women stressing other women out over their choices, when those choices are non-risky. Its fine to have different personal levels of comfort – but also to realize that some levels of comfort are just completely self imposed and so its not really nice to then impose those on other women. A lot of it is very first world problems, and believing we're much more powerful and in control than we are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58489 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 06:57:42 +0000 SAHM0811 58489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>almost nothing bothered me the first time I was pregnant... Except "how are you feeling" near the end. After that, I have seriously never asked a pg woman that. I still cringe when I hear others ask a pg woman that question. Even "how's it going" is better.</p> <p>The second time around I got a lot of "when are you due? oh that's so far from now!" comments too. Annoying. Also, "you look like you're going to pop" and "any day now, huh"... ummm, NO.</p> <p>I got livid after someone (not a mom) at work told me I would be "so bored at home". Ummm... maternity leave is NOT vacation. I laughed... Literally and told her, "two kids at home? I'll be far from bored, my dear". Augh, just wait til she understands one day!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58481 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 06:20:11 +0000 mediagirl 58481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I'm already tired of my dad asking how I'm feeling. I know he cares but every single time I talk to him, it's how are you feeling? I'm also already tired of people touching my belly! Co-workers, friends, layoff! I'm not even that big yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58472 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 05:17:34 +0000 aunt pol 58472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Well I am actually having twins, and I'm getting very close to biting the next person who says "Oh my God, that's goingto be so much work!" Gee, do you honestly think that didn't occur to us? And how on earth is it helpful to point out how little sleep I'll get this summer? There's not a blessed thing I can do about it right now! Oops, maybe we shouldn't have ordered twins. People are so stupid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58449 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 02:17:45 +0000 erinpye 58449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: This! I HATE all the people warning me to do everything fun now, before baby, because my life is going to be so crazy afterward and I'll never do anything fun ever again. Surprisingly, DH and I knew our lives were going to change drastically when we decided to start TTC and therefore become parents, and couldn't be looking forward to it more, so please be happy with us! It reminds me of all the rude comments before we got married about how 'marriage ruins relationships/ makes them less fun, etc.' Some people just don't know how to be happy for other people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58288 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 22:14:18 +0000 EmmeBaby 58288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How are you feeling &amp; You can go any day now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58265 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 22:06:42 +0000 Katm558 58265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was on bed rest with both pregnancies because of preeclampsia, and family members would always say, "God doesn't give you something you can't handle" or some other spiritual "healing" type phrase. Well thank you for pointing out that He was testing me by having my life and the lives of my unborn children be in danger. I thought of that quote, and how insensitive it was, every time I got up to go to the bathroom and was worried I would have a stroke or get a placental abruption. </p> <p>I know people were just trying to put me at ease, but it was incredibly insensitive to tell someone dealing with a life-threatening issue that God thinks you can handle potentially dying. Or perhaps my hormones just made it seem worse... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-comment-have-you-hated-hearing-the-most-while-pregnant#post-58219 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 21:42:34 +0000 AvantLaLettre 58219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I HATE the "are you sure it's not twins" comments!! I have gotten that a lot and it drives me INSANE. Yes, I'm sure, and yes, you just called me fat!!!! ARGH!! </p>