https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 13:46:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn/page/2#post-1875409 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 10:11:15 +0000 Adira 1875409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: I suspect that's how it will be for us this year! I just hope someone will come and bring me some food. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn/page/2#post-1875388 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 09:58:14 +0000 rachiecakes 1875388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: J was 8 days old at Christmas, anyone who wanted to visit was welcome but we made it clear we were going anywhere. I had just been released from the hospital 3 days prior.</p> <p>My parents came, my brother and my great aunt. I was nursing every hour just about, so I'd go upstairs. Sometimes my mom kept me company. It was nice, very low key that year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn/page/2#post-1875284 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 08:33:14 +0000 MrsScallop 1875284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as I didn't want to, we drove our 2 week old to the ILs 3.5 hours away for Christmas. It turned out to not be that bad, but definitely took more than 4 hours to get there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn/page/2#post-1875240 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 08:05:30 +0000 Bubbles 1875240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was born on 20th December, and we left hospital on the 21st. We travelled about 1.5 hours by car on Christmas Eve to my parents house, and spent the next 4 days there. The journey itself was fine, he was young enough that he slept all the way (although he would go on to become a car seat hater!). Christmas day itself was incredibly overwhelming, LO was a tongue tied, colicky baby and cried ALL the time. However for me as a FTM it was kinda nice to have my mum around during this time, and she took LO for a few hours at 4am on Boxing Day just so DH and I could get some sleep.</p> <p>Next time I am intending not to have a Christmas baby, and I look forward to a more relaxing pp recovery and bonding time with baby. But if I had to make the choice again I'm not sure I'd do it any differently - I adore Christmas and would have been sad to miss out. Definitely make the decision based on what you want and not to keep others happy! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn/page/2#post-1875213 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 07:51:32 +0000 loveisstrange 1875213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C was born less than a week before Easter and I came home from the hospital at 9pm the night before.... We still went to my neighbors house as planned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875195 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 07:33:18 +0000 edelweiss 1875195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i wouldn't do it, but that's my personality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875173 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 06:53:08 +0000 Adira 1875173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: That's actually what I ended up doing. I thanked them for the invite but said we probably would be staying home and then invited them over to our house instead but said we'd have no food to serve them, haha! We'll see what they say!</p> <p>@anonysquire: Normally I wouldn't think 1.5 hours would be too bad, but with Xander, I had to feed him every 2 hours when he was less than 3 weeks, and sometimes nursing would take up to an hour, so it would really be hard to travel anywhere that far with that kind of nursing schedule. I have no idea if I'll have the same schedule with baby #2, but I'm betting for the first couple weeks, I probably will!</p> <p>@Mae: You just reminded me that some babies HATE the car/car seat. Xander was pretty chill, but I have to assume we won't get so lucky with the next baby! 1.5 hours in the car might not be any fun at that age!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875171 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 06:48:45 +0000 chopsuey 1875171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was born 12/19. We stayed home for the holidays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875126 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 05:04:09 +0000 Mae 1875126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yea I wouldn't go. Took me 12 wks to get lo to May parents house 2 hrs away to meet my family. Traveling with a baby suuuuuucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875123 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 05:00:15 +0000 creativemomma15 1875123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD was born on 12/21 and we spent the late morning/early afternoon at my parents house…. But, it was just my parents and brother &amp; SIL with us and they live 3 minutes away from us. Our DS and DD are the only kids on my side of the family too. It all went well though and was nice to be together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875091 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:29:48 +0000 anonysquire 1875091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1.5 hours isn't bad. Especially for the holidays. We didn't have to travel far but we didn't miss any family get together after birth. And hello, I wanted to show off my baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875070 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 22:22:05 +0000 78h2o 1875070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We drove two hours and stayed with my in-laws over Christmas. LO was born Dec 4th. It worked out fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875062 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 22:12:55 +0000 Maysprout 1875062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This wasn't for a holiday but DH had to travel when LO was 2weeks old to near where my IL live. So we went with him and stayed there. It wasn't bad. I wouldn't have wanted to travel that first week or two and it wasn't 100 percent ideal to travel when we were all getting adjusted. But they took good care if us and so in some ways it was easier than hosting people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875054 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 21:49:23 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1875054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We traveled 6 hours away for thanksgiving when LO was 4 and a half weeks. We didn't originally plan to, but I felt OK, LO slept and nursed the whole time, and I was so sad at the thought of missing it and keeping my older son from his cousins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875052 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 21:46:36 +0000 ALV91711 1875052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would stay home and tell your IL's that they are welcome to come to you. And let them know that they will need to do the cooking too! </p> <p>I'd go if it was under 30 min, but 1.5 hours seems like a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1875042 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 21:33:37 +0000 meganmp 1875042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had two day old twins on Thanksgiving, but we went to my parents' house, though it's only 30 minutes away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874118 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:44:43 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 1874118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby was born on December 1 and we stayed close to our typical schedule which is visiting our parents who are local. I did make it clear before he was born that we would decide at the last minute based on how we all felt. Everyone understood. I would not have made plans to travel out of town but if I had really wanted to I probably could have. I just didn't want any pressure on top of having a newborn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874100 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:32:41 +0000 Adira 1874100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: That's a good idea. I'll offer to FIL since they already invited us and if they decline, offer to MIL. I'll have to talk to Hubs tonight and see if he likes that idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874096 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:31:34 +0000 Adira 1874096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tanjowen: That's true about having people at our house! Though I could always hide in the bedroom, haha. I kind of want to be like "We probably won't be up for travel, but people are welcome to come to our house (and please bring us food)! And be aware I may be nursing the baby every hour and hiding in the nursery..." Though I'm not sure anyone would want to do that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874093 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:30:06 +0000 Smurfette 1874093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: If you really want to stay home and think that it how you are going to feel, then just offer to FIL that they come to your house. If not then offer to MIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874091 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:29:39 +0000 Tanjowen 1874091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Yeah, I think the driving distance is key! I would only do it again I think because the idea of everyone descending on my house and not having a quiet space freaks me out even now thinking about it! ;) I would just wait and see how you feel if that's an option and explain now to them you might not make it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874090 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:29:37 +0000 lamariniere 1874090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stay home. We have an end of November and an end of December. We didn't go anywhere either year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874086 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:27:38 +0000 Adira 1874086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I was wondering if I should just make plans with MIL instead (if she's willing to drive to us, which she will be), but I wasn't sure if that would be rude since we were already invited to FIL's? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874085 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:27:24 +0000 youboots 1874085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@adria I don't think that's too much to ask. Just have a chat with her a bit out, then they would be able to see thir nephew and new baby. I do think you should wait and see where you are at when baby comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874082 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:26:40 +0000 LuLu Mom 1874082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on how old the baby was, a few weeks yes I would travel (our destinations would all be within 30 minutes of driving.) If the baby was only a few days old, I would decline or offer to host at our house (if my mother or MIL were willing to help out with food, since I would be recovering from a C-section.) Our LO2 will be about a month old at Easter next year and we are planning on taking baby to church and to family gathering with the understanding of "we may need to bail early." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874080 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:25:30 +0000 Smurfette 1874080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I would probably hold off till when the baby gets here and then decide. Right now tell them you are a maybe, but you would love it they would just come to your house. If not then you will them know once the baby gets here and you know how you are feeling. I wouldn't think they would expect you to bring food anyway.<br /> I wouldn't want to not see family at all over the holidays, but I wouldn't travel 1.5 each way with a week old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874078 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:24:39 +0000 Adira 1874078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: Oh man, that would be awesome! Unfortunately, SIL lives about 45 minutes away and she's between us and the in-laws. She'd have to go out of her way to deliver us food. That'd be so cool though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874077 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:23:54 +0000 Adira 1874077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tanjowen: I think if I only had a 20 minute drive, I MIGHT try it. But... probably not, haha. I didn't venture out of the house with Xander until he was 4 weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874072 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:22:43 +0000 youboots 1874072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@adira if they are close see if SIL will drop off leftovers for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-do-for-a-major-holiday-if-you-had-a-newborn#post-1874067 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 10:21:32 +0000 lawbee11 1874067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not travel with a days old baby. </p>