https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 04 Aug 2026 21:30:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go/page/2#post-1251073 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 10:47:16 +0000 .twist. 1251073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: yup. I agree. I've let all those things go depending on the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go/page/2#post-1251069 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 10:41:44 +0000 Greentea 1251069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh and I have never been very domestic so the house was just let go. We work very hard to make sure our communication is good! We have worked out a lot of kinks I didn't even realize had been there prior to her being born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go/page/2#post-1251054 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 10:25:07 +0000 runsyellowlites 1251054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let the house go... P obtained &amp; still claims the nickname "little joey". I was couch bound with her for many many months during the day.</p> <p>DH let our relationship go &amp; it took quite awhile for us to get reconnected again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1251053 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 10:22:53 +0000 Aimed 1251053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say everything and nothing! I would let all of the above slide a little here and there but not too far that it becomes a problem. I would second the other posters who said to make your relationship with your SO a priority. I really kept that and my mental health a priority cos I think with both of those in the holster, everything else will fall into place! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1251047 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 10:15:48 +0000 MamaMoose 1251047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted house... But we hired a cleaning lady so it still gets done... Just not by me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1251029 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 10:07:21 +0000 Anagram 1251029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I've been letting go of all of it, a little. But I prefer to think if it in a positive light and feel like I'm still keeping all the plates spinning, maybe just not as fast as before.</p> <p>I still love my husband, even if we don't have a lot of alone time. I still talk to my friends (if not as often) and have made loads of new mom friends to boot. I still clean my house on a regular basis but it does get more messy in between, etc. I just started back at work and I think I'll be able to out in 90% of the effort I used to put in. </p> <p>I feel like this is normal for new parents? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1250968 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 09:11:58 +0000 Boheme 1250968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Cooking, housework, friendships for sure. My marriage took a huge hit at first, and we still have ups and downs. I get after DH a LOT when he does things differently than I do, and I need to knock it off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1250925 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 07:50:31 +0000 knittylady 1250925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Cooking! I put down other, but i suppose this could count as house. We've only started eating home cooked meals now at 5.5 months! Before that was takeout, sandwiches, or skipping food to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1250909 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 06:55:37 +0000 chrispygal 1250909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: LMAO at this comment! :)</p> <p>I wish I could have let the house go but Hubby is a neat freak. He is so easy going except for the house. It's really the one thing we fight about. I can honestly say not much had to be sacrificed while I was on maternity leave but after I went back to work, it was definitely our relationship that took the toll. There's only so much time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1250900 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 06:13:27 +0000 mjane 1250900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kept things tidy but we had to get a biweekly cleaner to keep things actually... sanitary. </p> <p>For me it was answering email! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247957 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:50:01 +0000 Kimberlybee 1247957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let my house go for sure. I hated having visitors the first few months because I always had to tidy up the place. I would just shove everything in the spare bedroom then pull it back out when our guests left. It is still in disarray but I am happy and my little family is happy so it's not an urgent matter at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247956 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:49:50 +0000 Purpledaisy 1247956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The house is still a mess almost 9 months later... Sometimes taking a nap is just more important :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247952 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:48:05 +0000 Kimberlybee 1247952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: LOL you silly goose! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247949 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:46:13 +0000 autumnlove 1247949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>House and frumpiness! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247922 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:26:28 +0000 loveisstrange 1247922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my relationship with DH, specifically our intimate relationship, and my physical self tie. They definitely go hand in hand. Our relationship improved as my relationship with myself improved again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247920 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:25:36 +0000 illumina 1247920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: THIS! The lack of time alone is offset by how much stronger we have become working through the newborn period as a team. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247915 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:24:17 +0000 mrsjazz 1247915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: And now no one is going to choose that option! Guess I'm the only loser :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247908 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:19:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 1247908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: ah ok. THEn yes, it took a hit for sure (same thing over here- 2+ hours putting her to bed, no family nearby. So we haven't been on a date in four months, but I do think our teamwork during this difficult time has made us stronger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247903 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:16:27 +0000 birdofafeather 1247903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>definitely the house. i had to have a long chat with DH about how i refused to let chores pull us down and would rather spend time with LO, get work done or be with friends. we had a maid that comes once a month, but it was/is a disaster in between. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247887 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:07:49 +0000 MoonMoon 1247887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coacheswife123: ^_^ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247883 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:05:14 +0000 regberadaisy 1247883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: my daughter was/is a really bad sleeper. When she was younger it took me almost 2+ hours to put her to bed. And we had no family nearby. So there really was not much alone couple time in the early days.<br /> But honestly our communication level just went down. We went from a 9 in our relationship down to like a 7-8 so nothing dramatic like we needed therapy. </p> <p>I honestly do believe all relationships takes a little hit at the beginning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247881 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:04:42 +0000 pl0508 1247881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: not trying to thread jack but I just DIED at your UN ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247876 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:02:50 +0000 MoonMoon 1247876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted physical self. I was never that great to start with, but oh my god, I've sunk to a new low! I need some maintenance, stat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247864 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:00:29 +0000 immabeetoo 1247864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our house for SURE. I used to be a neat freak and now there are dust bunnies receiving mail they've been residents so long. I honestly feel a little freer just not caring! I evaluated what I love and what energizes me and am working to adjust my time spent accordingly. Cleaning doesn't make the cut. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247859 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:59:03 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1247859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said other, because I let all those things slide more than the others depending on the day. I might have not called a friend back for several days because I was focusing on the housework or maybe I accepted visitors but didn't wash my hair for a week. Nothing feel completely off the map (although I took 3 months maternity leave so work never even crossed my mind).</p> <p>One thing I "let go" off hugely was trying to please others. I was really able to start saying "no" and feeling okay about it and that has been great for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247853 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:55:24 +0000 Foodnerd81 1247853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I quitmy job to be a sahm, but that was planned so I'm not counting it. Definitely our home- not like I was ever a neat freak, but now I'm not spending my precious few hours to myself cleaning the bathroom, and I'm not leaving Lo in a bouncy chair to do it (nothing wrong with putting her in the bouncy, I just reserve that for when I do it for something I enjoy like cooking. </p> <p>@locavore_mama: I don't think putting your child first means letting your relationship fall by the wayside. We just make a conscious effort not to take each other for granted while taking care of her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247851 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:55:08 +0000 MrsStar 1247851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted relationship with SO. The early days was such a hard adjustment period - I was so happy to be with my baby 24/7 but I felt like SO wasn't being supportive because he never helped with the night wake-ups, I pumped sometimes so he could help feed lo but he only did once, and I think he went through a rebellious stage where he wanted to go out and socialise and drink every week (which meant he stayed at a friends because he was too drunk to come home) Eventually we talked it out though but it did take a while to feel like we were a partnership again but we came very close to breaking up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247842 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:48:04 +0000 mrsjazz 1247842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: Definitely a two-way street. Some of our friends were super understanding and considerate and reached out while a lot of my friends stopped inviting me to stuff or reaching out. It doesn't mean we're not still friends but it's definitely different...and I used to be the one that always reached out to them and still tried to. Oh well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247841 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:47:55 +0000 MrsTiz 1247841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I added "everything"! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-let-go#post-1247837 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:46:58 +0000 looch 1247837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: I agree, and you know what, I was the issue, not the friends. I was cancelling plans left and right and just could drag myself out of the house. Eventually, people back away from this, you know? </p>