https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 18:27:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226274 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 09:30:45 +0000 JerricaBenton 1226274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was worried about sleep but that turned out fine. The toughest thing has been the constant worry for her and never getting any kind of break from that feeling. The new normal I guess? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226243 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 09:23:56 +0000 Alivoo01 1226243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep and knowing how to care for my baby as in how would I know what his cry means and will I be able to soothe/comfort him??</p> <p>I didn't think I could function on little sleep, but clearly I can. With a smile on my face when I see him smiling at me, even if I haven't slept for more than a few hours the past 72 hours!</p> <p>As for the cry, somehow, you learn to differenitiate the hungry cry from the tired cry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226178 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 09:03:57 +0000 lemondrop 1226178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep! Once I learned how to do the side-laying nursing at 10 months, my life drastically improved! I feel like much of the first year was lost to me being a zombie. After the first year I started to feel more normal again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226166 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 08:59:00 +0000 hellobeeboston 1226166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was worried about sleep - and that turned out to be fine really.</p> <p>I was a little concerned about how the baby would affect our marriage and in reality that has been the hardest part. (LO is 12.5 months old) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226163 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 08:57:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 1226163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was really worried about breastfeeding going smoothly- I felt all this (self imposed) pressure bc there us such a small window if time to get it right. It wasn't easy but not nearly as bad as I feared. </p> <p>Sleep has been the hardest part. In the beginning I still had all these hormones and adrenaline to power through and I expected the all night wake ups. Then 3 months in, when we had gotten into a nice groove, sleep sht hit the fanand I was beside myself with exhaustion and frustration. The only the I can say to that is that nothing, good or bad, lasts long with babies. </p> <p>Dh is similar with the tv on all the time. He's gotten good about keeping the volume low but now Lo turns to watch it so I'm trying to have it off entirely more. I just don't think gran theft auto is appropriate for our 3 month old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226158 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 08:56:05 +0000 littlek 1226158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought it would be sleep deprivation or strain on our marriage. I don't think either one has been bad. I actually think having a baby brough DH and I closer together. The hardest thing is been trying to balance work/career and being a good mother. I struggle with this daily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226151 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 08:52:47 +0000 MapleMoose 1226151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Prior to delivery my guess was lack of sleep. Turns out the constant barrage of guests showing up at my house and constantly wanting to take my newborn baby away from me to hold her and interrupting my pumping schedule so I'm having a hard time with supply issues is worse than the lack of sleep. I know this makes me sound ungrateful for the attention from visitors. But it's hard to care for a newborn and keep the house clean for when visitors show up. To the visitors it's just one visit but to us one set of visitors arrives, then another, then another and maybe the first set leaves, but another set starts calling/texting about when they are coming. It's very disruptive to our day. Plus we are exhausted. Last weekend we told everyone it was a no visitors weekend and had a nice relaxing fun weekend as a new family. It was such a relief! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226061 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 08:09:29 +0000 JoJoGirl 1226061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought sleep deprivation, and I was right. That and how hard it's been on my marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226049 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 08:01:03 +0000 Cherrybee 1226049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh! My husband wakes the baby every morning without fail. Whether it's his alarm going off, him blow drying his hair or slamming the front door, he always finds a way! </p> <p>I thought that the hardest part would be the relationship with my MIL. She was completely over the top when I was pregnant and I was convinced that she was going to ruin the first few months by being on my case all the time, asking to visit constantly and trying to take over. The truth is that her help and support has been the thing that has gotten me through the last 4 months. I had no idea how completely relentless having a baby would be and how much I would NEED somebody to take over and give me a break!! </p> <p>As far as sleep goes, I suspect that you will be surprised by how well you cope on little to no sleep. Something just clicks inside you and you plough on through. I'm not promising you wont turn into a bear (!) but it is amazing what the human body and mind can cope with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226047 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 07:59:59 +0000 ILoveLettie 1226047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a baby yet (due in early Feb.), but the two things I'm most worried about right now are 1) breastfeeding and 2) my emotions. My emotions have been fairly regulated during pregnancy but over the last few weeks I've definitely had days where I just couldn't stop crying and felt depressed over nothing, and I am worried about that translating into me having a baby and ending up with the baby blues or full-blown PPD. It's definitely something I plan to talk to my OB about at our next appointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-did-you-think-would-be-hardest-about-having-a-baby#post-1226018 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 07:39:22 +0000 Cole 1226018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did it turn out to actually be the hardest? What about your so?</p> <p>I am most worried about my sleep- I become a bear without enough sleep. My husband always has noise on from the time he wakes up to the time he goes to sleep, sometimes it is just talk radio and it is at a low volume but other times (like this morning) it is a super loud sports radio show complete with highlights reel before going for a run very early in the morning. I am afraid he is not going to understand that jarring noise is a bad idea and is going to wake me and a sleeping baby and I will turn into a bear and have a crying baby as he leaves for the day. </p>