https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 17:12:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872564 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:20:02 +0000 travelgirl1 1872564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks guys, this is all really helpful.</p> <p>To give a bit more perspective, DH works full time and has a very physical job where his hands get injured a lot. He feels like he isn't recovering from those injuries by Monday so needs more rest.</p> <p>I stay home but watch another toddler full time so chores like laundry (and the laundry room is nine floors down) just aren't possible during the week with both girls. We spend a lot of time out the house so the girls can have fun and play with other kids, etc. Because we don't have a car, grocery shopping usually takes us both so we can carry it home.</p> <p>Seems like he actually has a good deal with his lie ins. Maybe there is stuff I can do during the week to make our weekends more organized so it feels like chores are less of a chore and take less time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872534 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:02:52 +0000 loveisstrange 1872534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Agreed! For the first 6 months or so, I tried to be nice and let DH sleep on weekends. Nope. Eff that. Then we tried each of us getting one day to sleep in, but I never got to because he was so freakin loud which just made me even crabbier. Soo... we all get up together now and it's so much better. </p> <p>We sort of play weekends by ear depending on what we need to do, how much homework we both have, etc. Generally, at least one of us takes C to do something fun, even if it's just the park. We laze around, run errands, clean.... I mean, just depends on the to do list and how we feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872532 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:02:19 +0000 Mae 1872532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO still isn't really sleeping through the night that well so we either take turns on the overnight shift (so I can actually sleep longer overnight) or I do the overnights and he gets up at 6 with her and lets me sleep until her first nap when I need to feed her. </p> <p>In terms of chores, I try to get most of that done during the week (I sah) but I'd say we pretty much just do the bare minimum on weekends. I really hate spending family time doing chores. Although DH gets more annoyed by clutter than I do so sometimes he takes an hour to roll through the house picking up. He also does yard chores on weekends if we have any, although again we've slacked a bit since LO. </p> <p>Mostly we just hang out and try to recuperate from the week. We try to do 50/50(as much as LO will let us bc she's rocking some major mommy preference) with childcare so we each get a little time "off". And we usually try to plan things out so we can at least watch a movie or something baby free during a nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872529 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:01:44 +0000 lawbee11 1872529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Haha DH and I were just saying yesterday how sad it'll be when LO no longer naps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872524 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:00:52 +0000 yoursilverlining 1872524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our expectations are a bit of both; some extra rest and some getting errands done and things prepped for next week. The only errands/tasks we have to get done on the weekend are laundry (because we don’t do laundry doing the week), grocery shopping and some breakfast/lunch prep for the coming week. We also like to do at least one “activity” geared towards LO (children’s museum, train ride, whatever) and also like to go to lunch or brunch at least once as well.</p> <p>We each get 1 day to sleep in until whenever we want; although that’s always with the caveat that if the one that’s up with LO needs help, the sleeping partner will get up when asked without crabbiness and help out / take over. I usually sleep in Sat and get up with LO Sunday, although probably about 30% of the time, I sleep in both days.</p> <p>I make a point to take LO for a big chunk of the day (sometimes both days) to give DH time to relax/chill or do work. I take her grocery shopping with me, and usually run some errands during that time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872516 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:58:25 +0000 Anagram 1872516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We theoretically each take a day on weekends to "sleep in", but that just might mean sleeping until 7:00 or 7:30 am. DH is an early riser, so he doesn't sleep in even if I keep LO quiet, and I could sleep till 10 given the chance but I'm basically never given the chance because DH and LO's favorite morning activity is a very loud screaming and laughing session. But he gets up and feeds and changes her and makes her brekkie, so I do sleep in more than on week days.</p> <p>As for the rest of the weekend, DH and I disagree on what a good weekend is. So, some weekends we end up my MY perfect weekend--which is going somewhere Saturday fun as a family (bike rides, farmer's market, new restaurant, or short day trip somewhere) and cleaning the house/doing laundry/grocery shopping Sunday. And some weekends we end up doing DH's favorite weekend--which is lazing around the house for 2 days straight, with the TV on constantly, and leaving the house a mess.</p> <p>I don't clean unless he cleans, too (I'm too resentful otherwise), so if he doesn't get off the couch to clean, I just leave the mess. Because I know he will see the mess eventually and then announce that we need to clean (yeah, no duh). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872514 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:58:19 +0000 looch 1872514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: We used to do that as well, but now that my son's dropped his nap, it's even more difficult to get some down time, so we instituted a mandatory 30 minute "lay in bed" period.</p> <p>As far as chores, I do 3-5 loads of laundry over two days, iron shirts and pants for the following work week and prep meals for a few days. My husband does the grocery shopping and all of the yard/pool/snow maintenance, which is a lot, I didn't realize. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872511 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:55:57 +0000 illumina 1872511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We expect to do 50/50 of the childcare on weekends, although usually DH does more than his share because he feels like he should since I SAH during the week and could use the break! When he's with her I usually try and get chores done. We tend to have one weekend day going out somewhere fun and the other getting things done around the house. We have own time during her nap and in the evenings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872509 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:54:13 +0000 Smurfette 1872509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We take turns sleeping in. Some weekends we get up together and all eat breakfast together and I really like it. It honestly depends on how early she wakes up and how late we were up the night before. We have a cleaning lady, so we just have light stuff to do on the weekends. I try and get laundry done during the week since I am home solo, so we have more family time on the weekend. DH does yard work while I usually take R grocery shopping. But if either of us need a break, the other steps up and takes R out or plays at home, while the other goes out. Nap time, we usually watch TV on the couch, and end up napping ourselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872500 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:48:08 +0000 Adira 1872500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: That's a good point. I also expect Hubs to help out more with Xander so I can get stuff done!</p> <p>@travelgirl1: Grocery shopping is the one main chore that we wait for the weekend to do. I usually go alone and Hubs has quality Xander time. It's also my time "out" and I get a coffee and maybe stop at the mall, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872499 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:47:33 +0000 Smurfette 1872499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I make R wake up DH on his morning at 830-900 (the latest). I don't sleep later then 8 normally, so I won't let him sleep till 10 like he would like too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872497 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:46:53 +0000 lawbee11 1872497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Agreed. No one sleeps in in our house! We all get up at the same time and have breakfast together. I actually enjoy it because it's not something we get to do during the week. We normally rest/relax while LO is napping. We used to spend LO's nap time cleaning on one of the weekend days, but hiring a cleaning service has been awesome so that we don't have to do any deep cleans on the weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872492 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:45:12 +0000 travelgirl1 1872492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I hear you on the mood. By the time DH decides to stir I am like a dragon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872490 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:44:29 +0000 travelgirl1 1872490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Grocery shopping and laundry (which I do with LO on Sunday morning while he sleeps)</p> <p>@Adira: I love that you take turns to lie in. We have thought about doing chores during the week but since we don't drive here grocery shopping takes a while and we couldn't do it after work and get tea in time for LO.</p> <p>@looch: Yes, this would be my ideal, if we all all got up together and got going! Currently DH sleeps in on weekends until 9 earliest. If he's not up by 10 I get him up. He complains that isn't a proper lie in because it's interrupted sleep, such as me coming in occasionally to get clothes etc. I keep saying if it's not proper sleep let me have it instead, lol. I would take what I could get :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872488 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:42:16 +0000 hilsy85 1872488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: YES. It would improve my mood on the weekends TREMENDOUSLY if DH woke up when I did. As it is, he sleeps in til 830 or so, which I can deal with. But if he sleeps past 9/930, forget it--I am super crabby about it. </p> <p>As for other stuff, I don't expect him to help out too much with chores--I more expect him to help with LO so I can get stuff done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872478 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:37:18 +0000 looch 1872478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, we found that it helps when we all wake up together. Yes, it's annoying and no one gets to sleep in, but you know what, I am a jealous biatch when my husband is sleeping and I am not! Plus, my son won't let me sleep in anyway, he'll barge in and insist on waking me up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872472 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:33:48 +0000 Adira 1872472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't really expect much from each other on the weekends. Hubs likes to relax on weekends, so we don't usually plan a lot of chores for then and we try to do them during the week.</p> <p>Basically I get up with Xander on Saturdays and will spend most of the day caring for him, though Hubs helps out here and there. And then on Sundays, Hubs gets up with Xander and spends most of the day caring for him and I go grocery shopping.</p> <p>Our biggest expectations are that we each get one day to sleep in and I get the grocery shopping done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872471 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:33:08 +0000 mrbee 1872471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: That sounds reasonable to me! How many chores do you aim to get done on the weekend? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-and-dh-expect-from-each-other-at-weekends#post-1872469 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 07:29:23 +0000 travelgirl1 1872469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I seem to be having lots of discussions about this lately. My priorities are getting our chores done do we can spend most of the weekend having fun family time. His priority is resting and recuperating. I'm not sure either of us is getting what we want and wonder if I'm expecting too much of him.</p> <p>What do you expect/priorities on a weekend? If you could include how much of the parenting duties you both assume, that would be helpful. </p>