https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 11:09:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1135114 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 06:31:21 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1135114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thanks everybody. i wasn't sure about playground etiquette! sounds like i wasn't too far off the mark though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1135090 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 05:39:43 +0000 yellowbird 1135090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Id probably do the same thing you did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1135080 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 03:58:37 +0000 lamariniere 1135080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have and do say something, especially when kids are visibly older. Problem here is that I don't speak the local language, so kids aren't always going to understand me. But I still say something. I think it draws attention to the fact that they know and I know they are being naughty, even if they don't understand what I say. In my experience, the kids have always stopped whatever it is they were doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134697 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 17:42:02 +0000 rawrasaur 1134697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would use my teacher voice and say something about being nice if their parent was not around/acting on the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134689 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 17:35:12 +0000 Cole 1134689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will usually say something in a kind voice about being gentle, if it happens again and there still isn't a parent I will either use a stern tone and guide the child I am watching away or I will find the parent. Thankfully, it is rare that there isn't a parent around at the park we go to most frequently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134675 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 17:21:32 +0000 sarac 1134675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell them that they are not allowed to hurt my child, ever. And then I look around to make sure that they have a parent coming to tell them the same thing. If not, I find their parents and tell them what happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134665 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 17:04:09 +0000 HLK208 1134665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always say, "please be gentle" even if they are close in age...to and older toddler like a 3 year-old, I would tell them it wasn't nice and to play carefully with babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134645 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 16:27:22 +0000 littlek 1134645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they were the same age I wouldn't say anything. Usually at LOs school they say "please use gentle hands with your friends." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134635 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 16:18:42 +0000 pinkcupcake 1134635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SleepyMonkey: I would've done the same thing. That's a big age difference. If they had been the same age, I would be less inclined to intervene. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134625 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 16:06:53 +0000 Maysprout 1134625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Id say something to her about it not being nice and having to be careful with kids smaller then her. I used to feel awkward about it but now I don't care. I don't think little kids are bullies but they have a lot of learning to do especially about controlling impulses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134618 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 16:00:08 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1134618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 and 11 months is a big age difference! I don't know what I'd do if that was DD. But in my eyes, that was outright bullying (because of the age difference). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134608 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 15:37:54 +0000 looch 1134608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SleepyMonkey: Well, in that case, I would have likely said "we keep our hands to ourselves." It's more meaningful to toddlers and has the action that we want them to observe, you know what i mean? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134605 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 15:35:07 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1134605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: yeah, i don't think i would've said anything if they were closer in age, but the girl knew what she did was wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134604 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 15:33:04 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1134604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: she was probably 3? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134584 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 15:20:47 +0000 looch 1134584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, it depends on whether the children are close in age...if they are, I leave them to work it out on their own. If it is clearly a case of an older child bullying or rough-housing, then I step in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134581 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 15:15:34 +0000 Lindsay05 1134581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really haven't had to deal with this too much yet but I think if it's really uncalled for or violent I would approach the kid. Those kids need to know that just because their parents aren't around, doesn't mean they can do whatever they want. If it's just a little pushing, I want my kid to be able to stand up for herself and not rely on her parents to step in all the time. It does depend on the age though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134571 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 15:05:31 +0000 .twist. 1134571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally put little kids in their place if their parents aren't around and they do something naughty. </p> <p>I probably shouldn't, but whatevs. Lol</p> <p>Eta: it also depends on the age though... I deal with a lot of older kids because of our older boys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134567 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 15:04:21 +0000 littlek 1134567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How old was the little girl? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-another-child-hurts-yours#post-1134559 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 14:59:19 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1134559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Today we were on the playground and LO (11 months) was sitting there and an older girl came up to her and pushed her over for no reason. I ran over and said "that's not very nice!" and the girl frowned. her dad came over and told her to say she was sorry, and she did. but i felt so awkward. </p> <p>what do you usually do in that situation? </p>