https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 18:14:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204618 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 20:46:47 +0000 ShootingStar 2204618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything ended up working out fine. DH's work problems resolved and he left on time. We'll have to figure out how to handle it in the future though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204605 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 20:39:23 +0000 BSB 2204605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Is there any chance you could work from home, like call into the meeting? If you can, you could leave early so you can pick your LO? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204576 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 20:15:05 +0000 sunny 2204576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We also both have demanding careers and daycare closes promptly at 6pm, no exceptions. In cases like this, we just have to work out between us who has the more urgent need to work later and the other will do daycare pickup. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204235 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 14:36:28 +0000 bunnylove08 2204235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow thats a tough situation. I think like most bees said, I would ask if they could stay the extra hour so you can get there to pick up LO. </p> <p>I really hope it works out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204226 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 14:31:01 +0000 Adira 2204226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Totally not your fault! If you guys didn't know what to expect, there's no way for you to know what would happen. Good luck to you. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204222 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 14:27:57 +0000 plantains 2204222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: call daycare and explain the situation, they might be able to keep him an extra 30 mins. Might also be worth striking up a relationship with one of his teachers so that they can sit for you when things like this pop up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204221 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 14:26:06 +0000 avivoca 2204221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are definitely in between a rock and a hard place. I definitely get it though. I hope things work out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204216 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 14:21:00 +0000 looch 2204216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar:gosh, this situation is def. rock meet hard place! </p> <p>I would see if I could do the meeting from the car, over the phone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204189 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 14:03:15 +0000 ShootingStar 2204189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: Yeah, the traffic has been INSANE. Took me an hour and 20 minutes to get in this morning, and it should take about 30 :bummed: . And yeah, I feel like the gender stuff is lose/lose - I don't want to play the mom card and say I need to leave when I really shouldn't, and DH's work thinks "well, he's the dad he can't possibly be on the hook for anything tonight."</p> <p>@Adira: I maybe should have predicted it better and will next time. I work somewhere where we do monthly releases and they're not really a big deal. He works at a company where they release rarely (like every 1-2 years) so we're not used to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204186 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:59:30 +0000 Adira 2204186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Oh, I see, sorry, I thought this was a planned thing where he knew he was working late in advance. Whenever my husband has a release, he always plans to work late the day of to make sure things go smoothly. Sorry this popped up on you!! Hopefully your husband can leave to get to the daycare on time and then just go back to work if he has to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204185 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:59:10 +0000 Shutterbug 2204185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I obviously have no practical advice for the daycare situation, but I just wanted to commiserate on the situation with your husband's work feeling like you can pick up the slack because you're the wife. My husband's work does this too, so I'm always the one dealing with working from home or leaving early for emergencies/contractors/etc. I'm lucky that my boss is understanding and flexible, but I don't like that double standard in the workplace. My job is important, too!</p> <p>(and UGH! to the traffic around here! My company is moving south an exit this fall and I'm relieved to be getting the heck away from this office park, though my colleagues that live up your way are not happy about it) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204182 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:57:37 +0000 ShootingStar 2204182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: They were supposed to release today, which should have meant no working late. But there are unforeseen bugs in the software. So I had no idea until about 15 minutes ago that he might have to work late. And my boss let me know a few hours ago that she needed to schedule something with me today. I was in a customer visit all day and this meeting needs to happen today before our offshore team starts work in the morning. So I don't really have a choice.</p> <p>@Mamaof2: It's not about paying fees, they just aren't open late enough. And I just wouldn't be comfortable having someone take him home. We've only been going there a month.</p> <p>@Anagram: He did say he may be able to do some of it at home. I'll to try to get him to leave in time to do the pick up and then if there are still fires to be put out he can work from home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204179 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:56:50 +0000 Anagram 2204179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: That's what we do. I say no to last minute meetings/events, but planned events where I work late, DH arranges in advance to WFH that day or leave way early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204177 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:53:08 +0000 ShootingStar 2204177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I just checked the daycare hours, and they're only open until 6. We've only been there a few weeks, I forgot they aren't open as late as our old daycare was. I'm not sure if I can even make it by 6, so I think DH is just going to have to leave in time to get him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204176 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:52:45 +0000 Adira 2204176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I knew my husband was working late, which rarely happens, and I needed to do pick-up, I wouldn't agree to a meeting that would make me late... But if your daycare is going to remain open, then just call them and let them know you are running late and beg them to give him a snack (assuming they have food they can provide him).</p> <p>I'm usually the one that does daycare pick up, so I almost never agree to stay later at work, but if I needed to, I'd arrange that in advance with Hubs and he would just have to bow out of work earlier than normal to pick up the kids to accommodate me. It's a give-and-take. Since I normally do pick-up, he can work late without worrying about anything. But on the rare occurrences when I need to work late, he makes arrangements to do pick-up to help out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204175 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:52:28 +0000 Mamaof2 2204175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the previous posters - I would </p> <p>a) suck it up and pay the late fees to DCP to have him stay until I get there</p> <p>b) have one of the DCP take him home for me (this is what I would do since our babysitter is one of the DCP) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204173 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:52:21 +0000 Anagram 2204173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell DH he will have to leave work by 5:15 to pick up by 6 at the latest---Then he can take LO home and go back to work when you get home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204172 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:51:17 +0000 LuLu Mom 2204172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If daycare is still open I would leave him &amp; ask to feed him a snack, one time won't hurt him to be one of the last ones there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204171 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:50:56 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2204171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah if the daycare is open, just leave him and see if they can give him a snack. It's not like you do it everyday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204169 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:47:27 +0000 Chillybear 2204169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I were in your shoes, i would call the daycare and explain the situation and just tell them this rarely happens would you mind staying open later (and pay for the overage), feed him a snack and you'll be there as soon as you can. </p> <p>If they can't keep him, is there a teacher at the daycare that you could release him too? When I worked at an after school care program I had 3-4 kids I baby sat outside of the program and if their parents were late i was allowed to sign them out and take them back to my parents house until they could get there.</p> <p>Don't you just wish teleportation was a reality? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204167 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:46:51 +0000 Dandelion 2204167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If your daycare is still open, I'd just let him stay there. Mayve call him and see if they can give him a snack? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-both-parents-may-have-to-work-late#post-2204161 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 13:43:17 +0000 ShootingStar 2204161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Normally DH does pickup, but his company is releasing brand new software today and he's one of the people involved at the end of that process. It's not going well and he may have to leave late. Normally he leaves around 4:30-4:45 and picks up DS by 5:30. Last night due to all the issues at work he worked until about 6:30 (not super late, but still an 11 hour day for him).</p> <p>I generally work until 4:30, so if DH can't do pickup, I do it. But my boss pulled me into a meeting for a project I manage until 5. Traffic around here is a disaster thanks to some construction going on the entire way home. So my usually 45 minute commute will likely turn into 1-1:30 hours. </p> <p>I can't make DS wait until 6 or 6:30 to get picked up. Daycare will be practically empty then, and he'll be starving. But I don't know that either of us will get there any earlier. Ugh. We have no family in the area and we have no friends that could logistically pick him up. </p> <p>I try to support DH when he needs to work late because our careers are important (and necessary) to each of us. But I feel like because he's male, they just expect he can work as late as they tell him to and that his wife will just pick up the slack. Well, I have an important job too and I'm up for a promotion this year, so I can't just put his job before mine. </p>