https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 22:30:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261981 Fri, 17 Aug 2012 03:47:30 +0000 erwoo 261981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone said a racist thing to me once and because of her tone I responded back with same tone and then gave her a piece of my mind and then some. Granted, this was before we had kids I would probably do the same now but leave out the and then some. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261938 Fri, 17 Aug 2012 01:40:38 +0000 cyndistar3 261938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandma is so incredibly racist, she believes all black people practice voodoo magic and blames them for how my mom is. Not long ago she was going on and on about it so I went off on her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261934 Fri, 17 Aug 2012 01:17:24 +0000 808love 261934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really admire how you handled things, Mr. bee. Bravo! I just taught an anti bullying lesson and told the kids to say "that's mean" if that is their friend because they may not even realize it. If it is a known bully, they can just ignore them and report them if they are harassing anyone. In my personal life, I usually ignore them but I really want to say something because it kills me. Once I spoke up against my future MIL's off color joke but she went off on me and it took awhile for all of us to get past it. I guess I didn't know how to correct her the right way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261900 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 23:41:38 +0000 Rosie Girl 261900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always tell them my thoughts about it. Sometimes I might be a little rude in the way I handle it, but I can't handle racism. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261839 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 22:26:26 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 261839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH best friend is racist and it drives me bananas. He's racist, homophobic all of that. I just want to slap him in the face sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261835 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 22:23:48 +0000 daniellemybelle 261835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually don't have enough guts to stand up and say something, unfortunately. Sometimes my family makes off-color jokes that bother me, but I know they don't mean to be offensive. Most of the time I just completely ignore them and don't say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261621 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 20:44:01 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 261621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll take the high road and correct them unless it's super rude and blatant...then I'll rudely respond. Where I live I honestly haven't heard anything...it's a pretty diverse and educated area in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261613 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 20:41:34 +0000 PrincessBaby 261613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm embarassed to admit that my parents, who live in a very small town in Southern Louisiana, say racist things all the time and it INFURIATES me. When I say anything to them, it turns into a heated debate, so I just wince and no longer say anything.</p> <p>I am ASHAMED when they say those things in front of my husband, as he commented on it early on to me. They just sound so....ignorant. I love them, but I HATE that they are that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261600 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 20:35:42 +0000 mrsjyw 261600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I correct them to at least be more open minded and cue them in on the racist/sexist comment they made. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261447 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 19:41:19 +0000 Arden 261447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't usually go off on them, because I don't think people learn that way, they just get defensive.<br /> I'll usually say something along the lines of "You know, that could be perceived as a very racist/sexist comment. I'm sure you didn't mean it that way though." It just lets them know that I don't approve or agree.</p> <p>If it was really blatant though, I might yell at them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261429 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 19:29:52 +0000 BananaPancakes 261429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live in central FL. I hear racist and sexist things practically every day. I rarely say anything other than something quick and sarcastic to let them know I don't agree with them. I don't need death threats so I just leave it alone most of the time and relish in the fact that they're slowly dying off and that at least my child won't be taught to hate that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261419 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 19:24:59 +0000 Rubies 261419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was a blatant remark that was racist or sexist, I would totally go off on them. If it was a stupid and ignorant comment, I probably would have done what you did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-someone-says-something-racist-or-sexist#post-261417 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 19:22:53 +0000 mrbee 261417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was talking to someone the other day and they said something anti-Semitic. Well basically, they generalized about Jewish entrepreneurs in a way that was unflattering (and untrue).</p> <p>I laughed at them and said that they must not know many Jews, because that hasn't my experience at all. And that I would introduce them to my friends so that they could have some positive experiences. I was surprised, because the person readily agreed.</p> <p>It got me thinking though: should I have gone off on the person about how ignorant their comment was, and chastised them more thoroughly? Part of me wanted to, but if I had then I think the person would not have agreed to open their mind to the possibility of change.</p> <p>I think if I had thought the person wasn't open to change, I would have yelled at them. But because I felt that they were, I took another path. It definitely made me think a lot though, and I'm still not totally comfortable with the path I chose.</p> <p>What do you do when someone says something racist or sexist? </p>