https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Jul 2026 08:48:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-2246465 Sun, 26 Jul 2015 20:55:35 +0000 mrbee 2246465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stargal: We really wrestled with this one, until we implemented the ideas in that post linked above! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-2246462 Sun, 26 Jul 2015 20:54:14 +0000 stargal 2246462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bumping bc im desperate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-571631 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:54:07 +0000 BSB 571631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@softcream: Oh, yeah. I do remember that post. Thanks for posting that link! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-571628 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:49:26 +0000 softcream 571628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh, @mrbee has since posted about this on the blog. i think it was how he handled cupcakes ...</p> <p>here it is! <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/06/26/the-best-parenting-book-ive-ever-read/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/06/26/the-best-parenting-book-ive-ever-read/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-571543 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 21:27:37 +0000 BSB 571543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bumping this old thread again. Very interested in hearing other people's opinions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-37395 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 19:30:17 +0000 BSB 37395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm... I'm not sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3685 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:44:46 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 3685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>definitely not looking forward to that part. i see it coming soon though. No advice to give, but I would leave without the item as well. Leave him pull a trantrum. I don't care what others think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3488 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 10:44:35 +0000 Iiamsn01 3488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have tried many things and all of them work in different days. </p> <p>- Bring snacks - works as an awesome distraction sometimes I get her favorite snack and pack it in her bag so it's like a treat when we go out.<br /> - let them have it out - I do this sometimes, when toddlers have a tantrum the parents have to realize it's normal. it's embarrassing but normal. if you give in to what they want your showing them that to get what they want all they have to do is to scream and have a fit and it will happen more often. So i let her CIO and get it over with usually once she realises I am not caving she will stop.<br /> - tell them they will leave the store. I have done this too. Once my daughter realized we were leaving she got quiet. </p> <p>After all of these episodes i always tell her to breathe and use her words. I also tell her what she did wrong. It's hard because my husband tries to give her what she wants because it is embarrassing but he's learning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3450 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 23:13:14 +0000 j0s1e267 3450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mega distraction towards anything!!!! Reasoning doesn't work in meltdown mode. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3428 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 21:52:47 +0000 Honeybee 3428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to distract DD with something else. Most of the time, I can turn her attention by talking about dogs or something else she loves, but sometimes I just have to suck it up and take her out. Especially if it's a restaurant, I'll just take her straight out without trying distraction first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3372 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 19:17:38 +0000 mrbee 3372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had already put a ton of olives and pickles into containers, and so I didn't feel right putting them back. Otherwise I would've left for sure!</p> <p>I think I'm just going to avoid crowded places until I can train Charlie a bit better... I get embarrassed too easily, and I think he senses my weakness and pounces.</p> <p>Ordinarily I am very very strict with him and I think he'd know better than to pull a stunt like that with me in ordinary circumstances. I will post some more about my parenting philosophy in a separate post, because I'm curious what people think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3371 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 19:11:09 +0000 Andrea 3371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless it's in a place where other people will be really disturbed (like a resto), I just get whatever I need to get done as quickly as possible and let the LO carry on. I think that makes less of a scene than trying to stop the tantrum as that is no easy feat. And I need to finish up whatever errand I am trying to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3353 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 18:09:20 +0000 Coastinganon 3353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Walk out without the olives. From what Bee says, he's pretty verbal, so you MAY be able to talk him off the ledge once you leave and then you can come back. If not, be prepared to take a kicking and screaming child out of the store. Or...let him tantrum on the floor while you finish paying...it isn't like you don't know where he is and the long term benefits of being consistent will far outlast the short term, yet admittedly high-voltage, public meltdown.</p> <p>Also...don't beat yourself up over 'losing' this battle...there will be PLENTY more for you both to learn from :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3347 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 17:52:39 +0000 tequiero21 3347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>you crack me up. no kids yet but i'm definitely afraid of this, so looking forward to seeing how people handle these situations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-when-your-toddler-throws-a-tantrum-in-public#post-3341 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 17:17:27 +0000 mrbee 3341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Charlie just insisted I feed him olives at the grocery store... even though we had not paid for them yet. I said no, and he went into absolute meltdown.</p> <p>Because the checkout line was a dozen people deep, I gave him some olives. Baby 1, Daddy 0.</p> <p>I need a better plan when he goes into meltdown, but am not sure what to do. What do you do when your toddler throws a tantrum in public? Any suggestions? </p>