https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 06:14:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about/page/2#post-1336031 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:34:05 +0000 NovBaby1112 1336031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty about choosing to work an additional day per week in the office starting this week (4 days instead of 3). we need the money but still feel badly about it. Fridays were our day. </p> <p>I feel guilty that I have not put together a photo album of her first year and that all the pictures we have of her are on CDs or our phones/computers.</p> <p>I feel guilty not being a super creative mom who always has fun, new activities and ideas to try with their baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about/page/2#post-1336022 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:32:48 +0000 Ra 1336022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: @MsLipGloss: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about/page/2#post-1335997 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:27:41 +0000 MsLipGloss 1335997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty about:</p> <p>working</p> <p>not giving her a sibling</p> <p>not cooking better meals for her</p> <p>letting my anxiety about being away from her impact my ability to deal with her fussiness/mini-tantrum</p> <p>@rahlyrah: I agree with @Smurfette: . . . cut yourself some slack! It's not like you're watching Gypsy Sisters or some other equally train-wreck-ish reality show. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about/page/2#post-1335968 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:22:02 +0000 Smurfette 1335968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: I still think it is fine, 10 mins here and there is fine. I mean in this day and age I don't see how you can avoid it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about/page/2#post-1335965 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:21:03 +0000 Ra 1335965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I feel guilty because B does have interest in TV. Dude loves Spongebob. He gets all excited at the theme song. He won't sit and watch a whole episode, but it'll occupy him if I need a rest for a few minutes or I need to get something done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335760 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 13:35:11 +0000 Andrea 1335760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Then it sounds like you made a great choice in returning to work! I am still enjoying being at home so far, but you get a few days thrown in there that stink. But that's the case with working, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335435 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 12:00:40 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1335435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty about raising my voice at DD. I'm working on it and it's getting better. I also feel like I don't play with her enough, because we're always busy going and doing something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335433 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 12:00:08 +0000 plantains 1335433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Taco: I was on mat leave for 6.5 months, and as much as I love DD and loved getting to spend all that time with her, at the end I was definitely ready to come back to work. 6 months was the perfect amount of time off for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335421 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 11:57:07 +0000 Smurfette 1335421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: Don't feel guilty about that. I would too if I was a SAHM. We always have our TV on. We are lucky that R just doesn't have an interest in it. Or when she does we can usually distract her. If DH is watching a movie, I play with her, and we switch off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335413 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 11:55:34 +0000 Alivoo01 1335413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: For the first 2-3 months of DS's life, I didn't know what to say to him either! I'd just stare at him in awe all the time. Then starting around/late month 4, I started talking to him when we were out and about, when we're at home, etc. because he would react to me and actually look at me when I was talking to him.</p> <p>I have mommy guilt when I sometimes think about taking PTO then dropping off DS at daycare so I can go home and catch up on sleep. :sad: We've been sleep training this week so it's not as bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335354 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 11:37:36 +0000 oscarthegoon 1335354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty about most of the above, plus the fact that LO doesn't eat enough vegetables because sometimes I just don't have enough fight left in me to insist...I especially feel bad when I yell at him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335272 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 11:13:06 +0000 Cherrybee 1335272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty if I'm not acively interacting with her all day - but sometimes I need to pop her in her jumperoo and have a break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335243 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 11:06:28 +0000 travelgirl1 1335243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For having to wean her so we can TTC. Every time I attempt to sleep train her it kills me and I never see it through; I feel guilty that I try in the first place and guilty that it failed so it was all for nothing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335211 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 11:00:03 +0000 NurseMommy 1335211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: I'm the exact same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335182 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:55:33 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1335182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty for sometimes not allowing her to continue to comfort nurse once she's done eating and at the same time I feel like a lazy mom for allowing her to nurse when she isn't hungry just to get her to stop crying.<br /> I feel bad when we're out past bedtime &amp; when I let her fuss for a few minutes longer than I normally would just so I can get a drink or a snack or something.<br /> There's so many things to feel good about &amp; yet I usually just feel bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335181 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:55:30 +0000 looch 1335181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: this is why I went back to work. My son was frustrated, I was frustrated, my husband was frustrated. It wasn't pleasant for anyone.</p> <p>Now, we have our moments, but I am so much better able to handle the "situations" now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1335146 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:43:53 +0000 pinkcupcake 1335146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: I totally hear ya. I would NOT have survived ystdy if it weren't for PBS. I let her watch it all morning so I could cook, clean, do laundry... I'm a sahm and my daughter doesn't play alone very well so it's very hard to get done anything while she's up. You gotta do what you gotta do :T</p> <p>- I feel guilty about letting her watch tv or play on my iphone so I can get stuff done<br /> - I feel guilty about letting her have juice instead of milk bc I want to avoid a huge fight and a meltdown.<br /> - I feel guilty that I get frustrated and raise my voice at her when she's just acting like a normal toddler<br /> - I feel guilty that I don't cook her meals all the time. I feel like I shouldn't rely on Annie's Mac and cheese since I'm home with her. </p> <p>So much more but I'll stop there :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1334159 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 23:03:47 +0000 Ra 1334159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Screen time. I don't know how you SAHM's go all day without any television. LO is almost 7 months but isn't mobile yet. Frankly, I run out of stuff to do with him. He is a cat napper (30 minute naps) and it is exhausting finding ways to entertain him when we are stuck in the house.</p> <p>Mama needs to cuddle on the couch and watch some HGTV (or Spongebob for him) a couple hours a day.</p> <p>I can't believe I'm even admitting that on here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1334071 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:32:08 +0000 Andrea 1334071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty for losing patience, but the days are looooooooooooooooooong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1334023 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:22:50 +0000 rachiecakes 1334023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: only a doctor or someone familiar would've known that though - kids get so many weird spots </p> <p>I feel bad that I work all day, and have since he was 6 weeks<br /> I feel bad that this impacted breastfeeding<br /> If I want to go out and do something for myself after work I feel bad for missing time with him that I don't have to miss.<br /> I feel bad that he probably won't have a sibling </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1334015 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:19:53 +0000 Sparkler 1334015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Losing my temper and telling my toddler that he is acting like a baby for crying :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333993 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:14:08 +0000 Running Elley 1333993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: Lol things are definitely not always sunshine and rainbows around here but it's worth it :) I remember how excited I was when I got home from the hospital that DS could actually sit on my whole lap again. You're so close. And then we can fing out whether its a boy or girl! Finally!!!!</p> <p>I have mom guilt about getting frustrated at DS. He's ALL over the place all the time and the whining and tantrums almost drive me crazy some days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333990 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:13:39 +0000 Sparkler 1333990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting! Had she had any previous CBC tests as a baseline before the bruising episode? Poor thing:/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333985 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:12:01 +0000 autumnlove 1333985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sparkler: A platelet disorder! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333970 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:07:59 +0000 Ree723 1333970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: Thanks friend! I just hope I handle parenting two under two as well as you have! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333965 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:07:18 +0000 Sparkler 1333965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove that sounds scary! What caused the bruising?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333959 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:05:34 +0000 lawbee11 1333959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I don't talk to her enough, but I just don't know what to say! I sing to her a lot, but I don't know if that's good enough as far as language development goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333950 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:04:02 +0000 BoogieBea 1333950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I lose my temper and it's not good. Usually happens when they're being naughty to each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333945 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 22:02:47 +0000 Running Elley 1333945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: Hugs!! I know those feelings very very well! It'll be over soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-have-mommy-guilt-about#post-1333925 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 21:58:38 +0000 matador84 1333925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS going to daycare like 50 hours a week. Not packing great lunches. Not cooking great dinners. </p>