https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 05:56:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2360153 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 16:22:35 +0000 HLK208 2360153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Blunt...I get annoyed otherwise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2360006 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 15:27:23 +0000 mediagirl 2360006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the blunt, Hey you forgot instead of "next time can you..." that second one makes me feel like I'm being told what to do. I don't like that very much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359992 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 15:20:45 +0000 blackbird 2359992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: oh I wouldn't infer that if my DH said it. I know when I'm forgetful and I always just shrug it off! As long as I don't, you know, forget the kids at daycare :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359873 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 14:15:17 +0000 snowjewelz 2359873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: I am totally that annoying person sometimes. I keep reminding myself to not be so naggy! If I look within myself, it doesn't really come from a nice/constructive place, so I don't think you're off for feeling the way you do! It could be that maybe your DH feels like you're not listening to him and that's why you're forgetting? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359865 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 14:10:09 +0000 IRunForFun 2359865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Oh phrased that way it does sound passive-aggressive haha. I was thinking more just like "Oh you forgot to take the bags, whoops!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359860 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 14:04:56 +0000 Freckles 2359860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: It's been hard the last couple of weeks so i need some objective/rational feedback. :)</p> <p>@IRunForFun: Haha, that's funny because i find, "you forgot to take the bags, huh?" passive aggressive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359845 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 13:59:22 +0000 IRunForFun 2359845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind him just telling me I forgot as long as it's not done in an accusatory tone or something. He tells me I forgot to do xyz and I apologize and then that's it...and vice versa. If he were to carry on for a while about how I forgot and make a huge deal out of it then I'd be annoyed. I also actually find it more annoying to be told "Hey next time remember to..." because it seems passive-aggressive: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359842 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 13:57:33 +0000 Autumnmama79 2359842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Ok yes, I had a feeling thats where you were going with this :wink: That sounds super annoying and I would have to tell DH to stop! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359838 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 13:55:59 +0000 Freckles 2359838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: @Autumnmama79: @Adira: @snowjewelz: I forgot to add if this is for an occurrence that happens frequently. I normally like to be told if i forgot, but this past week DH has been telling me every day, sometimes 2x a day that i forgot something and it's making me a little edgy!!</p> <p>@Adira: Very rational thinking - you're too nice! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359711 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 12:33:01 +0000 snowjewelz 2359711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's worth pointing out we both do. Otherwise he's prob better at not mentioning it than me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359703 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 12:27:53 +0000 lovehoneybee 2359703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both like to be reminded for next time: "Hey, by the way, you did/forgot to do x,y,z" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359677 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 12:14:45 +0000 Adira 2359677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm trying to think of an example of when I think it would be helpful to be told or reminded, but I'm coming up blank. We're all adults here and people forget things sometimes - I feel like a reminder or pointing out that they forgot to do something is probably just nagging, unless it's something they forget ALL THE TIME and need some serious assistance to remember. Otherwise, what's the point? It would probably just make them feel bad.</p> <p>For example, my husband gets up with the kids in the morning to bring them to daycare and he gives Xander some hemp milk with his breakfast before they go. One day I came home and the whole carton of hemp milk was just sitting on the counter, so I knew he had just forgotten to put it away. I had to dump the whole thing out, but I didn't really see the point of pointing it out to him or trying to remind him that next time he needs to put it away - he knows! It was an accident and we all forget things sometimes. I feel like pointing it out would've just been to make him feel bad, which would be pointless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359664 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 12:09:20 +0000 blackbird 2359664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the blunt/direct way. I don't need things softened for the most part! Especially something as mild as this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359648 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 12:00:29 +0000 Autumnmama79 2359648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part I'd want him to tell me! I think its all about tone and delivery. If you're coming from a place of caring and kindness then of course I'd want to be reminded of something I forgot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-prefer-1#post-2359642 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 11:57:18 +0000 Freckles 2359642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you forgot to do something, what response do you prefer from you spouse?</p> <p>Examples would be forgetting to put leftovers in the fridge, taking reusable bags to the grocery store, etc. Small things. </p>