https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 04:55:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-to-friends-you-know-are-ttc#post-106825 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 14:09:46 +0000 birdofafeather 106825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with @artbee. if you're close, just say that you're there if she wants to talk about it, but if not, you're still thinking about her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-to-friends-you-know-are-ttc#post-104756 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 08:08:18 +0000 heffalump 104756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say much. I think that if she wants to talk about it, she'll tell you. Maybe just offer your support, tell her that you're there if she wants to talk about it but understand if she doesn't want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-to-friends-you-know-are-ttc#post-104740 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 08:02:25 +0000 Adira 104740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not really sure... how close are you to this person? It sounds like you guys don't really talk about her TTC journey, so maybe you shouldn't really say much since it sounds like she doesn't want to talk about it. Maybe just say "Oh, okay, hopefully it'll happen for you soon." and then change the subject. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-to-friends-you-know-are-ttc#post-104659 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 06:28:32 +0000 cvbee 104659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think she's saying that they are TTC but it hasn't worked yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-to-friends-you-know-are-ttc#post-104611 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 01:01:01 +0000 BSB 104611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably go with "Oh, ok. Cool," then change the subject. </p> <p>Or you could say something like "oh, I understand. There's were a few things in my bucket list that I wanted to do before starting a family." Does that help?</p> <p>ETA: Wait... So I'm confused, from your title, you say that you 'know' she is TTC. Are you saying she was lying to you? Or you think she is actually not TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-to-friends-you-know-are-ttc#post-104556 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 22:15:18 +0000 katmmad 104556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend who got married in October... And we had lots of convos before about how they were going to start TTC immediately (including choosing Europe over Africa for their honeymoon b/c some of the shots required). She just emailed me asking for advice for a friend who needs an ob, and in my answer I said, congrats to your friend! And she wrote back that it really is a friend, not her, and it isn't her time yet but she's ok with that.</p> <p>And everything I can think to write back is so wrong... "hugs" too trifling, "at least we can go out and drink!" too crass, "your time will come" too false because I know for some women it just doesn't. </p> <p>So: what's the optimistic response that says, big hugs to you, no pressure from me, lalala i'll just forget all those convos we had about TTC? </p>