https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 09:49:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566841 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 14:10:20 +0000 Weagle 566841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really mind this question. I just tell the truth. "Whenever The Lord sees fit to give us another." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566795 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 13:48:03 +0000 chopsuey 566795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566780 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 13:42:06 +0000 duckduckkristen 566780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before I got pregnant again we just said oh we don't want to wait too long (we started TTC when LO was 5 months but didn't want to tell anyone we were trying). Now that I'm pregnant I just say "September" and then they look confused for a minute until they realize oh duh, I'm pregnant! Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566710 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 13:20:23 +0000 Boogs 566710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every day that LO gets older we get asked this more and more, I'm personally soooo sick of it! My FIL recently told me that I need to hurry up and finish having kids so I can hurry and go back to work already...</p> <p>For our immediate family, honestly nothing shuts them up. For others what has worked is when I say, "My delivery was so complicated that if I have another baby anytime soon there's a strong chance I'll die." (Totally lying, but my doctor did strongly auggest that I give my body 2 years to heal really well.) People look like I slapped them and shut it after that. We have a couple of cousins around our age who have also asked us this, and I tell them, I've already had one, so maybe you should be next. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566693 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 13:09:13 +0000 everbee 566693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz haha..if a single friend asks me when i'm having kids (i don't have any), i just say, "when are you getting married?" and they back off. i'm so over trying to think of nice ways of responding to people like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566686 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 13:05:56 +0000 Maysprout 566686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just usually say we'll see. We do want more so it depends how they ask the question, if they ask if we want more I answer honestly, if they're asking for a timeline I just say we'll see. For some closer friends recently I explained that LO is still nursing so it's not possible right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566663 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 12:55:19 +0000 Minnie_Girl 566663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate that question too...not because I find it super rude, but because it reminds me of DD's arrival and how awful it was. Laughing and saying "not for a long time" doesn't even begin to cover what I'd REALLY like to say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566644 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 12:43:33 +0000 sea_bass 566644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsaudi: I am still pregnant and people still ask me this... I just say we are going to wait and see. I am scared to say anything else as we might take longer and I would hate to think of people analysing.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566629 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 12:39:29 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 566629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say "ohhhhhhhhh we'll see......" in a coy voice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566582 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 12:19:05 +0000 mrsmenow 566582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always say that we are so happy and enjoying our time that it isn't even a thought right now.</p> <p>We are pretty sure we are done (99%) but don't really want to have to talk about it if we change our minds so I usually say' our family feels complete as it is, but who knows if that will change". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566568 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 12:14:14 +0000 mamabolt 566568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually brush it off with something like "well, we can't afford two in daycare any time soon, so it will be a while" if it's someone I work with. With close friends and family, I tell them the truth, which is "we are thinking sometime in 2015." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566543 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 12:03:57 +0000 Thenetexan 566543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister's labor nurse asked her this DURING her unmedicated labor! I would think a labor nurse would know better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566532 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:57:35 +0000 LuLu Mom 566532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HAHA I just got this today from a coworker, my LO is 4 1/2 months! I'm like well I'm going to take time to enjoy this one and then we will see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566519 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:52:43 +0000 autumnlove 566519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just tell them yes! I am pregnant right now and I get this question a lot about Baby 3. The question is always...will you try for a boy? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566513 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:50:27 +0000 blackbird 566513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally ask my friends this! (just my close friends). But I'm more curious about how they are spacing their kids out and what works for them considering how young their first child is. And it's always been in the context of us talking about their kid and me being pregnant and it just sort of comes up organically. Nobody seems put off by the question and they've all been very open about when they think they want another and why that would be a good time. I think they know that I'm coming from a place of wondering about when we'll want a second one, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566496 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:44:37 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 566496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a rude question to ask, regardless of the person asking.</p> <p>- how do they know if you even want more children?<br /> - what if you're already pregnant, but aren't ready to tell others?<br /> - what if you struggle with infertility, and its a sensitive subject?</p> <p>We are asked this question ALL THE TIME and we fall into the infertility category. We don't make our struggle public (I talk about it on HB, obviously, but not on Facebook or amongst our family outside of DH and my mom/sister) so.. It's a question I absolutely dread and find incredibly offensive.</p> <p>I'm a pretty sarcastic person so I say something along the lines of "why are you so interested in my sex life?" Or "the next time I ovulate, you'll be te first person I call!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566493 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:44:26 +0000 mamimami 566493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This question didn't bother me! I was honest after our first was born and said we didn't want to wait toooo long. Now we have two and people ask more IF than WHEN. And I tell them if we win the lottery, we're definitely going for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566420 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:22:19 +0000 mrsjazz 566420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: It's a good line. Your way is definitely nicer :) It's just funny when my single friends who don't have kids ask me about the next baby and I turn the question on them and they look at me like I'm a unicorn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566406 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:19:59 +0000 Dandelion 566406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This LO isn't even born yet and I've had questions about when the NEXT one will be. As it stands, this is the last one, and I'm more than happy to share that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566397 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:16:14 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 566397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: that's my line ;). Usually I just say "we're not sure, how about you?". So it doesn't sound too offensive :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566393 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:15:58 +0000 Bao 566393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't been asked this a lot, but if it were someone not too close to me, I would say "sometime after LO is one" (this is really when we will start thinking about it), but it's such a broad answer that there is no pressure on us...and really, it is no ones business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566392 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:15:51 +0000 regberadaisy 566392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually haven't had anyone ask me this yet. I'll probably just say not sure yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566391 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:15:49 +0000 sera_87 566391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I flat out laugh. (This also works if they say, time to have another!) And if DH is with me I say "only if he carries it!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566390 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:15:23 +0000 mrsjazz 566390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For close friends and family I tell them that I can't even think about another one for 1.5 years as per doctor's orders, so they can talk to me again in October! </p> <p>For all others I say, "When are you going to try for a baby (or another)?" That is usually met with silence and a change of subject. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-say-when-people-ask-so-when-are-you-going-to-try-for-another#post-566373 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:11:39 +0000 Springtime 566373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate this question. I think it is rude and forward especially coming from strangers or people you are not that close to. It's none of their business. How do you answer this? </p> <p>I feel like if I give a direct answer, they will hold me to a timeline or if it does happen earlier they will think ohh thats an accident baby. </p>