https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 08:00:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305759 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 18:00:51 +0000 AmeliaBedelia 305759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are okay. </p> <p>DH's parents are divorced, so it's a bit more complicated. I'm sure he thinks the same thing - my parents are divorced and remarried too. haha. </p> <p>DH's Dad is in the "he means well" camp. We have had to work to keep our relationship stable. He's not my biggest fan and I'm not his, but we tolerate each other and try not to step on each other's toes too often. He doesn't like admitting that DH is a grownup, which is a big point of contention when DH is in his mid-20s (25 soon), not in his teens. Lol.</p> <p>DH's Mom is pretty absent from the picture, but she isn't difficult as a person. She has some added "drama" from her life that I'm not a fan of, but so does everyone I guess.</p> <p>I'm sure DH thinks my parents are crazy but mean well too. So it's just whatever. I have a lot more siblings than he does (he has 1, I have 4) and I'm sure that makes it even MORE fun for him. ;)</p> <p>ETA: Oh, I like my BIL. I think he could use a kick in the pants sometimes as far as motivation goes, but I overall really like him and am happy he'll be one of our child's uncles one day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305743 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 17:11:57 +0000 Mrs. Blue 305743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I seriously won the in-law jackpot. They are super wonderful and from the first time they met me, I was just one of their kids! They are also really thoughtful. For example, I was gone last weekend and they were visiting my SIL, who just started college in our city. When I got back, MIL had bought me a black maternity cardigan just because she wanted to do something for me and DH told me they asked what kind of diapers and other supplies we wanted because they would start buying some every time they went to the store so we wouldn't have to buy so many at one time. </p> <p>Love! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305613 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 15:42:23 +0000 LuLu Mom 305613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am very blessed with my in-laws, they are very accepting and loving and have always treated me like one of the family from the first time DH brought me home. MIL loves having girls in the family since she had all boys, so I try to include her in as much as possible that she misses out on with only boys. </p> <p>that being said, I get very stressed out when over at their house for an extended period of time, FIL is a great guy and hillarous, but I sometimes dislike the way he talks to MIL. They love each other, but he just says things or makes comments that make me feel uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305579 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 15:22:28 +0000 ShootingStar 305579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My FIL and BIL I like a lot, as well as DH's extended family. My SIL - we're just different people. She's about 10 years younger than me, kind of directionless, not always very considerate, and the baby of the family. </p> <p>My MIL...*sigh*. MIL drives me nutty a lot of the time. She was a single mom for a long time and depended on DH to do a lot around her house and wasn't super thrilled when he moved in with me. Up until right before the wedding she used to ask DH all the time if he was sure about marrying me :-S. She can also cause a lot of drama. </p> <p>For example, the day before our wedding we had our rehearsal dinner which was very small, just wedding party and their SO's plus close family. As is traditional, at the RH dinner we gave our wedding party gifts as well as all the parents. Well, when I wasn't around she flipped out on DH and told him I was completely inappropriate for giving out gifts when I didn't give them to everyone. </p> <p>The only people who didn't get gifts were my aunt (who was a late addition, plus we're close and she got into town early), and SIL and her BF. SIL would have gotten gifts if she hadn't dropped out of the wedding 2 weeks ahead of time. I had a whole bunch of stuff I couldn't even give her :-S. And we kept asking if she was really bring her BF because they were on the edge of breakup, and actually broke up that night and she still brought him to the wedding! </p> <p>I was really pissed that she made DH feel bad and the day before the wedding and almost ruined the night for us. </p> <p>Most of the time she's very nice in person. I just don't think I'll ever be close to her. She's even told DH she doesn't care if she has grandkids or not, so I doubt things will change after we have kids. Meanwhile, my mom would like die from happiness if I were to tell her I was pregnant. And she treats my brother's GF like she's her own daughter. I get kind of sad when I see it, because I know I'll never have a relationship like that with my MIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305564 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 15:13:00 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 305564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: LOL! Funniest description!</p> <p>I really love mine, they have even become best friends with my mom and step dad. Sometimes my MIL drives me a tad mental with making us spend time with them (we live far, so when we visit for a weekend she tries to make 294 plans for us to hang out with them, when we have my parents to see and friends to see.. and then if we do hang out they end up just watching TV with us! uhmm hello!)<br /> For the most part they are great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305552 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 15:04:49 +0000 lolabee 305552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I lucked out with great in-laws, they are wonderful people who are very caring. That being said after the wedding, I am finding it especially hard to connect with my MIL. We're just very different people in many ways, so I'm not really ever sure what to talk about. I feel fortunate to have them in my life but wish there was a better way for us to relate and build a stronger relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305528 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 14:50:01 +0000 PawPrints 305528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are the best ever. I love spending time with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305516 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 14:43:47 +0000 MaisyMay 305516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really like my in-laws. My MIL is super-hostess-woman and this leads to a little discomfort since I am diabetic and have to watch what I eat. It's always "do you want this" "can I get you that" but now we have "when do you need to eat" and "which restaurant do you want to go do/can you eat at" but I know she means well. FIL is pretty quiet but has some great stories.<br /> Both are really excited about our LO as she'll be their first grandbaby. They have given us clothes from when Hubs and his sister were babies, and even the mobiles that they used. </p> <p>They talk about how December is the deadline for getting their house cleaned up (minor hoarders) since there will be a LO on the floor soon after. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305498 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 14:31:42 +0000 JessiBee 305498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are great. They are also a plane ride away. When they visit, they are good house guests and not particularly demanding. They have been wonderful to me...and my DH has a sister! (My DH would also answer this very differently about my parents, who are much more intense when they visit. I'm used to it...they're my parents!) </p> <p>As wonderful as they are, they are not my parents. And, from what I have seen and heard, all relationships with in laws change as soon as there is a baby, so I might have to revisit this question in a few months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws/page/2#post-305403 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 13:49:54 +0000 JennyD 305403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jholler25: I hear that. I'm very much like that with my mom and MiL. My MiL has really filled the void in my life that my Gramma left when she passed away. My MiL listens without judgment and gives advice when asked. I don't know what I'd do without her :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-305125 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 11:38:00 +0000 missifu 305125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire, you almost made me spit out my drink! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-305094 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 11:28:25 +0000 DillonLion 305094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jholler25: I relate to your situation a lot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-305088 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 11:25:32 +0000 Phillybaby2013 305088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is one topic that I found kind of surprising when I started reading forums. I was shocked at the number of people that had problems with their in laws. I dont know if I just got lucky but my in laws are literally like second parents to me. I couldn't imagine not including them on certain things especially with my pregnancy. It made me sad when I've seen people comment that they wouldn't tell their in laws that they were in labor, etc. Maybe I'm just partial bc i have great in laws and im very grateful for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304863 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 09:59:44 +0000 mamabolt 304863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL is OK. She's a nice woman and adores LO, but her personality can be a lot to deal with sometimes, she's constantly asking questions about everything and always points out the opposing point of view for every single situation which gets annoying. Oh, and she buys so much useless crap for our house, I just put it right in the goodwill pile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304829 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 09:45:50 +0000 Crisark 304829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I LOVE my inlaws. They are wonderful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304805 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 09:39:25 +0000 littlebug 304805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine mean well, but they are SO intrusive. Well, MIL is. FIL is just opinionated and negative and pessimistic. I can't stand to be around him. MIL doesn't take no for an answer. Hubs leaves their house feeling terrible every time because she forces so much food on him (I also have a beef with him being physically incapable of saying "no" to her). She's a huge gossip, too, so I don't like telling her anything because I know the whole family will know about it in like 2 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304797 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 09:34:33 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 304797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is great! I love her. I don't really know my FIL, my husband doesn't know him either, really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304780 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 09:30:19 +0000 Alivoo01 304780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FIL is laid back and is like whatever. MIL is freaking amazing. She'll cook/prepare us food when we ask her, and even helped us start off our business, then worked for us for a week so that we could have a honeymoon! She's the sweetest lady and always thinks about us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304684 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 08:55:14 +0000 Chillybear 304684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my inlaws are very nice people, generous and kind. they are just very different than my family. We dont have much in common so the conversation always seems very forced, like i have to prepare taking points before we go over for dinner. I also see a lot of favoritism between my hubs and his older brother with my MIL, mainly for BIL.</p> <p> I'm sure my hubs could say the same thing about my parents though. The parental roles in our lives were just very different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304679 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 08:52:57 +0000 yoursilverlining 304679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my in-laws; I really lucked out! My MIL treats me just like I'm her own daughter. I wish they lived closer, and am lobbying heavily to get my MIL to move close by us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304658 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 08:45:13 +0000 wheres_c 304658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The in-laws are from Peru, and have completely different boundaries than I do.<br /> There's a ton of drama, they are extremely needy, expect the kids to support them all the time, and want to see the kids all the time.<br /> It's been an adjustment for me, but I know they generally mean well and have always treated me with respect so it could definitely be worse.</p> <p>I just have a really small family, who doesnt see each other that frequently. Their family is huge, and they are expected to see each other 1x week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304475 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 07:24:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 304475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL couldn't be better-- really, she is really nice, very supportive, but almost goes out of her way not to be pushy. She has 3 sons so I'm her first 'daughter' and I couldn't ask for a better MIL. But she lives across the country from us so we don't get to see her that often, which sucks but probably also makes our relationship even better since there is no chance of the getting sick of the day to day stuff. </p> <p>My FIL.... is OK (they are divorced). He doesn't seem particularly interested in us at all. I don't care if he cares about me, but it really really bothers me the way he doesn't make much of an effort with his sons. It doesn't seem to bother DH but I'm upset for him. Still he could be way worse.</p> <p>ETA: Oh and my brothers in law are great. One lives in the same city as us and it really feels like having family here, even if he is DH's family not mine. The other one lives across the country too, but when we see him it's great. No complaints there. I even like the ones girlfriend so much, I think I want them to get married more than they do :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304471 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 07:20:56 +0000 oliviaoblivia 304471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so happy that so many bees have great IL relationships. I haven't been quite as lucky but do have a FIL that I adore and seven SILs that would drop everything if we needed them. </p> <p>My MIL relationship has been well documented here on HB as difficult and I truly hope that some day she will come around. Our past two visits with her have actually been fairly pleasant and hopefully they continue to be. She has even (finally) acknowledged that I'm pregnant. Baby steps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304464 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 07:16:10 +0000 chopsuey 304464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My inlaws are the best! Love them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304450 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 06:57:01 +0000 BananaPancakes 304450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like there is good and bad with them both, but I love them both like family. That means that there are days I absolutely hate them, but I still love them. I really wish we didn't live in the same town sometimes, though. </p> <p>I really have to pray sometimes to love my FIL, who I just don't understand in a lot of ways, especially how he treats his kids sometimes, but he's still family. It doesn't help that I work for him. But as long as my husband cares enough to have a relationship with him, I'll do my best. </p> <p>And I've always had a good relationship with my MIL. She's gotten a bit harder I handle (and dramatic) since she's menopausal, but she means well. And she really would do anything for us. </p> <p>They are both suuuper different than my family, who are very much live and let live kind of folks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304416 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 06:15:23 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 304416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved them more than my own parents up until I had DD. Now it's like I don't even exist. I dread having to see them... :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304396 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 05:43:49 +0000 loveisstrange 304396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have in-laws. :( DH's parents both passed away.</p> <p>My MIL was a nice lady. She never actually got to be my MIL though. She died 6 months before our wedding. She was very, very excited we were getting married though. She really did mean well.</p> <p>My FIL died 8 months after we got married. I really liked him. We got along well. He had 3 sons, so he really did view me as the daughter he never had. He was brilliant and I'm so sad that C is not going to ever know him. He would have been an awesome g-pa. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304388 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 05:25:37 +0000 heffalump 304388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love them :) I got very lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304323 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 02:02:21 +0000 shopaholic 304323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jholler - Girl, my mom would be the same way! My MIL, meh, a little more excited and would probably show people, but definitely not as excited as my sister's MIL (she's super sweet and enthusiastic!)</p> <p>Overall, I think my in-laws a GREAT and I LOVE them! They are much more communicative and loving towards me (they call me more often than my own parents and told me they loved me more in a year or two than my parents have my whole life!)<br /> They really treat me like I am really their daughter and I know they will spoil and love our LO(s) to bits and pieces. </p> <p>That being said, I do have an Asian MIL who can sometimes be a little exhausting and makes blunt statements that can sometimes annoy or sting. She doesn't mean much by it, it's just a trademark of Asian moms. lol. But overall, I'm very thankful for them and love them enough to vacation with them (now that's a real testament!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-think-of-your-in-laws#post-304317 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 01:50:26 +0000 DigAPony 304317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my in-laws. They drive me a little nuts sometimes because of how they treat my brother-in-law (he has major mental/emotional issues that my MIL basically refuses to acknowledge or deal with in a productive way), but they are extremely generous and I genuinely love spending time with them. My FIL is very smart and has a sharp wit, and my MIL is incredibly kind and sweet and treated me like a daughter from the start. </p>