https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 13:23:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-259154 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 09:40:22 +0000 PrincessBaby 259154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish he'd understand that just because I have a really good job, it shouldn't mean that I'm not entitled to take a few years off and raise my babies. I shouldn't be penalized just because I happen to do really well. We would be just fine off his salary, and he is gone a lot for his job, and I want us to be a family when he is home- not me still working my ass off when Daddy finally returns. </p> <p>I don't want him gone half the time, and me balancing a busy job and only seeing our daughter at night and on the weekends. She needs at least one parent around. He works 3-4 weeks away at at a time, and then 3-4 weeks home. We are compromising and getting a nanny, but I'm still pretty heartbroken that we are deviating from the way that I always thought it would be. He thinks that I can't walk away from my high salary/company car/bonuses. I am worried that it will be too much to fall on me with him being gone so much. He just sees the bottom line. I see our daughter not getting enough time with either parent. And then I cry my face off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-259146 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 09:28:29 +0000 MaisyMay 259146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish he'd understand that if I'm tired, I get emotional. Since I'm pregnant, I get emotional. Being tired AND pregnant means that there are times when all I want to do is lay on the bed and cry for a few. That doesn't mean he's done something wrong, just that I'm tired and emotional!</p> <p>Also, I understand that he's got the same libido he's always had, but mines changed. While I appreciate that he's got needs, bear in mind that there are times that I really don't care and just want to go to sleep. </p> <p>He really is a wonderful guy, but to best understand #2, see #1. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258974 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 06:19:26 +0000 Ree723 258974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like for him to realise that whilst I am a worrier by nature, I am NOT being overprotective when it comes to LO. We got into an argument this morning as he left our 8 week old on the change table in her nursery, not strapped in, as he ran back to our bedroom to get her blanket. I about lost my mind when he came back in the room but he thinks I'm being completely unreasonable. Yes, she was only left there for maybe 10 seconds but that is long enough for her to roll off!</p> <p>I just wish he would realise that accidents happen and the mentality of "oh, nothing's going to happen" is not an attitude we want to take with our LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258861 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:34:53 +0000 MrsBrewer 258861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love for him to know that the little comments he makes about not having "sexy time" enough kind of hurts my ego. I don't think he understands how much the BC pill really kills your mood. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258858 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:27:46 +0000 Red 258858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto to everything above...except the cleaning up after himself since SO is extremely neat and tidy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258642 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 19:36:57 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 258642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAGS: Ditto this.</p> <p>I want him to realize that I'm essentially going through an identity crisis, and some days I just need to cry, and there's not a lot he can do to "fix" things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258624 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 19:28:44 +0000 Boogs 258624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want him to realize how badly I need a break sometimes. I always feel bad because I know he works super hard, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258562 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 17:45:11 +0000 chopsuey 258562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: leave your LO with him for a few hours on Saturday. Get a mani/pedi and grab some lunch! That'll teach him ;) </p> <p>DH doesn't get why I don't take our LO out to the park more often. It's hot and humid and chasing after a 16 month old when you're 20+ weeks pregnant ain't fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258557 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 17:36:40 +0000 enjollah 258557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: @Mrsdaredevil: @artbee: Yes yes and yes! </p> <p>I wish he would realize that our priorities have changed and that baby's schedule and routine from an early age is important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258200 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:51:32 +0000 LAGS 258200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish he'd realize how far even the littlest affectionate or romantic gestures go and just how much they mean to me. I know he's capable of them and yet have to nag him to get a little TLC most of the time. Boo.</p> <p>@jessiejo17: I second the picking up after himself thing. My husband leaves a trail everywhere he goes. Its driving me nuts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258134 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:07:47 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 258134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that taking care of 2 kids is tough and i can't clean the house, do the laundry, cook all at the same time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258132 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:06:20 +0000 SugarplumsMom 258132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want him to realize that I detest feeling like I have to force someone to do something. I also want him to not faze out and actually pick up little nuances and social cues. When the baby has her appointment and it's like a sauna in the room, don't ask some ridiculous question (that I've already mentioned a dozen times) right when it's time for us to go. When I'm holding the baby and sweating like a pig, actually notice that I need his help picking up the baby bag and not just stand in the doorway until I remind him about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258112 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 11:53:32 +0000 Lozza 258112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That I've never had the time off from LO like he has. He works really hard at LO, but at least once every couple months he gets an LO-free weekend (either because he goes away or because I'm away but take LO). I've never done that. And while we generally take turns dealing with LO now, I think he forgets that for the YEAR when I was nursing LO in the mornings, I never ever got to sleep in past 6:30, whereas I'd let him sleep in every once in a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258105 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 11:50:07 +0000 heffalump 258105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want him to realize that I need a break when he gets home. Not just for a couple of seconds. And not just him being in the room and me still doing the work. I want to sit on my tush on the couch and do nothing for at least 10 minutes, and then I'll be good to go until LO goes to bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258104 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 11:49:21 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 258104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That being home for a baby is so much more work than he realizes. He is constantly questioning why I didn't weed the front yard, or why I forgot to put the chicken out to thaw, or why I didn't vacuum. He thinks I sit home and eat bon bons all day or something. Being home with a three-month old is hard!</p> <p>You would think he would realize this because when he is watching her he asks for help within 20 minutes. But alas, he does not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258099 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 11:47:21 +0000 LuLu Mom 258099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love for him to undersatnd that when he picks up after himself, it saves me about 20 minutes of cleaning when I get home in the evenings and I won't be as cranky. </p> <p>He is notorious for leaving things (shoes, clothes, papers, ect.) everywhere and dishes in the sink (biggest household pet peeve.) I would rather devote time to spending together than picking up after a big kid :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-want-your-dh-to-understand#post-258076 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 11:34:36 +0000 autumnlove 258076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want him to realize that it is hard for me to cook dinner with a clingy baby that is teething! :-) </p>