https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 15:11:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-happened-to-the-sleep#post-1961512 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 13:03:39 +0000 catomd00 1961512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: The vast majority of babies are not sleeping through the night at 8 weeks or 12, or even 9 months. My daughter is 9 months and wakes up at least once, but usually twice (sometimes more!) a night. I consider her to be a very good sleeper compared to a lot of people I know with similar aged babies. It's very normal for babies to wake up at night in the first year of life (and beyond!) Don't torture yourself listening to everyone else's stories. I have found that other people seem to have a very different definition of STTN. (Medically, it is 5 hours - you're not that far off!) You're doing a great job! Keep attending to her needs and do your best to rest when you can. And go heavy on the coffee! :) The sleep deprivation gets easier to deal with over time. Even when my daughter gives me a 10 hour stretch, I can't enjoy it because I still wake up (wondering why she hasn't woke up yet, or from painful engorgement that I have to pump!) Someday, they will sleep. Try to enjoy the extra snuggles for now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-happened-to-the-sleep#post-1961495 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 12:57:57 +0000 MenagerieMama 1961495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@edelweiss: @catomdoo: Thanks! I think I've just heard about too many babies at her age STTN and feel like we should be closer to it! And it seems like everyone talks about 8 weeks being the magical turning point. I think I just need to stop comparing my LO to where I think she should be! Her little cries just break my heart though and she actually got a small cut on her face from flailing so much at night (she also cannot be swaddled until she is deep deep asleep and usually breaks out...another issues!) so it's making it hard this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-happened-to-the-sleep#post-1961458 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 12:44:05 +0000 catomd00 1961458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's newborn sleep for you. It's constantly changing. The second you get used to her "schedule", it changes and you need a whole new game plan. It sucks and it's exhausting, but it will pass. You just have to be ready to constantly change up what you're doing, figure out a new plan and adapt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-happened-to-the-sleep#post-1961455 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 12:40:40 +0000 edelweiss 1961455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it's fairly common for newborns to get particularly fussy around this time. you are not alone and this is normal. i think that: (1) their little brains are becoming more active and it gets harder for them to sleep; and (2) digestive issues start to show up, particularly reflux and gas. </p> <p>could you try having her sleep on an incline? that can help if it's digestive issues (although honestly it didn't help us). </p> <p>so sorry this is happening, i know how exhausting and bewildering it is. it will pass, but man you still have to get through the day and night, you know? sending hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-happened-to-the-sleep#post-1961392 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 12:12:39 +0000 MenagerieMama 1961392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 8.5 weeks now and I feel like everything with her sleep is one step forward and two steps backwards. Her usual sleep situation has been 3-4 naps per day, almost all in the Moby wrap while I'm wearing her, unless we're out and about and she gets a carseat nap in there. I try to have the first morning one in her crib but I have about a 75% success rate of getting her to stay asleep once I put her down (rock to sleep first), and usually she only sleeps for 15 more minutes, although we did have a 30 and 45 min nap in the past week.</p> <p>At night she sleeps in the PnP bassinet next to our bed, and so I nurse/rock her to sleep and put her down asleep usually by 8-9pm depending on how quickly she goes down or when DH gets home from work and when we eat! Then usually she sleeps 3 hrs (twice it's been 4 hrs!), wakes to eat, then 2 hrs, and then 2 or 1 hrs after that. So usually more MOTN wakes then I would like, but usually I just pick her up, nurse her in bed, and then wake a minute for her to fall asleep and put her back in her PnP and she either stays asleep or settles herself back to sleep on her own. So pretty low maintenance.</p> <p>The past 24 hours though she's had a really hard time linking her sleep cycles, waiting up before getting into her deep sleep - over and over again. I couldn't get her down for her morning nap because she just kept waking up before I could put her down. So we went straight to her wrap naps and her first was less than an hour and she usually does at least 2 hr wrap naps. Then at night it took a while to get her down - due to the said awakenings, but then slept 3 hrs. After that though we went into a 3 hour cycle of her waking, me rocking her back to sleep, then her either waking up before I put her down and repeating the process, or waking up soon after I put her down. I tried nursing her to sleep, which got her asleep but then she woke up 20 min later. I finally pulled her into bed with me at 3am so I could settle her more quickly and hopefully keep her asleep. She still woke up every hour fussy/hungry. </p> <p>Then today for her wrap nap she is crying out every 10 min or so and stirring, and it's taking a lot more effort to keep her asleep! Is this a growth spurt? Is there something I can do to help her link her sleep cycles better like she had before? Of course this is timed for my first day back to work tomorrow from mat leave - gah. I think it's so hard too because most of the time when she's doing these wakenings she just seems so upset like she is having horrible dreams (like can't get to the boob?!) and it makes me feel terrible for her.</p> <p>Please tell me this is normal and will get better soon... </p>