https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 20:47:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12559 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:48:50 +0000 themcmom 12559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiekc - no, you're not alone. Remember that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12549 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:38:18 +0000 mrskc 12549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone. It's great to have support and know that I'm not alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12536 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:32:08 +0000 winniebee 12536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing that really helped for me was Time. Yes, I talked about it and cried about it and that sometimes made me feel better but the only thing that really helped was the passage of time.</p> <p>I'm sorry for everyone's losses... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12494 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:02:14 +0000 heffalump 12494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss!</p> <p>I also miscarried. What helped me was to talk to others who have been through it also (I'm always happy to talk!) and I just needed to take my own time to grieve. </p> <p>I'm Jewish, and instead of putting flowers on graves we put rocks. I found a nice big rock that I wrote a message on for my baby and it's sitting in our front yard. I have a 3 1/2 month old baby girl now, but I still always think about the baby that I lost. I'm still grieving my baby every day. It's not something that you just get over. I think it does help that I have that physical thing though, sort of a closure for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12484 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 12:49:02 +0000 Mrs. Bee 12484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiekc - i'm so sorry for your loss. i think what helped most for me was hearing other women's stories and knowing that i wasn't alone. so many women had multiple miscarriages and went on to have successful pregnancies. talking about it with a therapist was very helpful, and for awhile i was on lexapro, which also helped a great deal. i was able to get off of it without any problems because as with most things, time healed a lot of the wounds. i hope you can bond with women that have been through similar experiences here on hellobee. you're not alone!</p> <p>@themcmom - i just can't imagine going through what you must have gone through. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12470 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 12:32:36 +0000 tequiero21 12470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiekc - well, i think the answer is that you'll never really get over it. and you'll always think about your baby angels...but it'll hurt less as time passes. </p> <p>@themcmom - i'm so so sorry for your loss. =( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12457 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 12:23:04 +0000 mrskc 12457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mr Bee- Thank you. I've read Mrs Bee's posts and it's nice to hear other people's stories. That has definitely helped me. It's nice to see a husband's perspective as well.</p> <p>@Tequiero21 - that poem brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing.</p> <p>@Themcmom - I'm so sorry for your loss. That must have been really hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12435 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 12:12:25 +0000 mrbee 12435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@themcmom - I can't imagine how hard that must have been... :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12425 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 12:07:05 +0000 themcmom 12425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gave birth to a stillborn baby almost 2 years ago. The only got me throughg the immediate was talking about all of my feelings to my husband. He'd reassure me whatever my insecurity or just hold me if I was missing Moose. Like I said, it's been two years almost, but sometimes, I just cry. It's something that will always hurt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12404 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 11:55:43 +0000 tequiero21 12404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>for awhile, all i did was read other people's stories. made me feel better that i wasn't alone. i also read poems that related to miscarriage and cried my eyes out. one that the hospital that did my d&amp;c gave me that still makes me tear up:</p> <p>footprints:<br /> how very softly you tiptoed into my world.<br /> almost silently, only a moment you stayed.<br /> but what an imprint your footsteps have left upon my heart.</p> <p>i think after that, it starts to hurt less - crying your heart out. i'm pregnant with 2 now and i still think of my baby angel. i still add baby L to my prayers and pray that god takes good care of her until i see her. and every so often (like now) i tear up thinking about her. i'm assuming it's a her for now. i guess we'll see when i meet her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12403 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 11:55:40 +0000 mrbee 12403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mrs. Bee had two miscarriages as well. She wrote about them here:</p> <p>* <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2011/09/12/the-journey-to-charlie-part-1/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2011/09/12/the-journey-to-charlie-part-1/</a><br /> * <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2011/09/23/the-journey-to-charlie-part-3/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2011/09/23/the-journey-to-charlie-part-3/</a></p> <p>The second miscarriage was especially devastating, because we had gotten our hopes up after we heard the heartbeat. The fallout from that lasted a long time... I didn't dare get my hopes up for either of our two subsequent successful pregnancies, in case something bad were to happen again. I think I acquired a fatalism about life that continues to this day.</p> <p>It definitely got better with time though! Wishing for nothing but the very best for you!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-has-helped-you-cope-with-a-loss#post-12389 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 11:48:08 +0000 mrskc 12389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've now had two miscarriages. I can't help but think about it at least once a day. I'm definitely doing better with time, and I'm a happy person and thankful for everything good in my life. But I can't help but get a little down sometimes. I think about how far along I would be now, and I get a little sad when I see pregnant ladies.</p> <p>What has helped me cope, is knowing that I will meet my babies someday in heaven. Attending church has also helped, and trying to stay busy keeps my mind off it.</p> <p>What has helped you cope with a loss? </p>