https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 06:49:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-have-you-learned-about-yourself-while-ttc#post-751001 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 15:41:44 +0000 2PeasinaPod 751001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I learned quite a bit in our year and a half journey to get pregnant with our DS. </p> <p>1. I'm a whole lot stronger than I gave myself credit for.<br /> 2. One miscarriage after 8 months of TTC was really difficult to deal with...the second miscarriage was even harder.<br /> 3. I have the most amazing and supportive DH in the world.<br /> 4. More people miscarry than you think...and no one talks about it until you do.<br /> 5. Sometimes, you just can't plan for things to happen...they just have to happen. </p> <p>Wishing you all the luck in the world and hoping your TTC journey is no where near as long as mine was! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-have-you-learned-about-yourself-while-ttc#post-750966 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 15:25:32 +0000 Chillybear 750966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What will be will be....</p> <p>I am a worrier (not a warrior). I worried I would be incredibly uncomfortable off my meds, I worried my husband who was laid off would not find a job by my self imposed TTC deadline, I worried that my body wouldn't know what to do when i came off birth control. I worried that i wouldnt sleep enough to get an accurate temp reading. I worried it would take forever to get pregnant, then i worried i would get pregnant right away. </p> <p>But, it all worked out (at least for me) the way it was supposed to. Hubs found a great job, after 2 months off BC my body knew what it was doing. temping was an easy routine to start and i tried not to stress and look for the long term trends. when i finally got that BFP i was happy and excited and glad i went through 3 months of TTC, and i still asked myself "what have we done?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-have-you-learned-about-yourself-while-ttc#post-750902 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 14:56:55 +0000 LovelyPlum 750902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkpeony921: sending them back to you. Hoping for sane month for you, and good news at the end :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-have-you-learned-about-yourself-while-ttc#post-750239 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 10:42:14 +0000 pinkpeony921 750239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree....the out of your control part is so hard. I am sure it is meant to be this way for a reason!</p> <p>@lovelyplum: we are on the same page. Thank you for sharing your story as well. Sending many prayers your way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-have-you-learned-about-yourself-while-ttc#post-748090 Sat, 27 Apr 2013 13:07:19 +0000 LovelyPlum 748090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ooh, good post! Thanks so much for sharing your story. I can totally relate to so much that you wrote. This is month two for us, and I've learned a LOT. You are SPOT ON about being humbled. I was humbled in more ways than I could even imagine. </p> <p>Things I learned:</p> <p>1. I am not patient. End of story.<br /> 2. I worry endlessly about every worst-case scenario.<br /> 3. I am much more of a control freak than I want to admit.<br /> 4. TTC is emotional. So is miscarrying. And that's ok.<br /> 5. I have to give myself permission to feel.<br /> 6. I am allowed to ask for help. I am not perfect.<br /> 7. TTC is hard on guys, too. Be patient with DH.<br /> 8. I cannot control the future. Get. Over. It.<br /> 9. I have the best doctor in the entire world. Be thankful for that. They want to take care of me.<br /> 10. Good friends, family, and the grace of God are invaluable.</p> <p>More than anything, last month, I think I focused on the process, the TTC, the getting pregnant, the being pregnant. I lost sight of the fact that the end game here is a child, not being pregnant. And if a child is what we're waiting for, well, then that changes things. I need to stop focusing on trying to plan for the "perfect" TTC experience, a "perfect" pregnancy, a "perfect" birth. There is no such thing. And I haven't "ruined" anything by miscarrying our first. I have an obsession with the first time I do anything...I always want it to be perfect. And when our first BFP didn't turn out "perfectly," I was shattered. I thought it ruined everything. But it didn't. </p> <p>This process is personal, and it is hard. And it has affected me more on a spiritual level than I ever thought it would. And all of that is OK. </p> <p>This month, I am more nervous than last, but I am trying to let go of what I cannot control. I am trying to trust in my body, my husband, and God that it all will work exactly as it's meant to. I'm going to enjoy my runs, my coffee, and being outside as much as possible. I'm trying to listen more to my body and to my heart. And I'm going to try to avoid being the emotional disaster that I was last month.</p> <p>TWW began yesterday. Here goes nothing... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-have-you-learned-about-yourself-while-ttc#post-748079 Sat, 27 Apr 2013 12:46:47 +0000 babycanuck 748079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All of the above. I felt very frustrated last month, our first month ttc, and this month I've tossed every charting item into a drawer and plan on just going with the flow. I am trying to get my brain to focus on other things that are important in the here and now and not on trying to make my body do things that I can't control. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-have-you-learned-about-yourself-while-ttc#post-748072 Sat, 27 Apr 2013 12:32:19 +0000 illumina 748072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I learned that I really struggle with things that are outside of my control and the not knowing when it might happen for us was stressful too. I just wanted to have an idea whether it would be a month, 6 months, a year etc. so I could plan my life around when a child would arrive. </p> <p>Looking back, I should have just enjoyed it! Good luck with your journey :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-have-you-learned-about-yourself-while-ttc#post-747690 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 22:01:26 +0000 pinkpeony921 747690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last month was my first month actively TTC....you would have thought it was my umpteenth month TTC. I should have known better. I love to plan to plan, yet I'm your typical libra and middle child. Is it possible to PLAN to have balance and routine in your life? Maybe so, but this past month was such a humbling experience for me.</p> <p>I threw my birth control in the trash as soon as I could after our wedding. I have been drawn to babies and kids my whole life and I've always known I want kids. Being a nursery nurse and Auntie (times two beautiful girls) only solidifies my desire. Hubby is the oldest of 7(!!) and I am the middle of 3. We talk about our future kids often and he is so in tune with this whole process. Just the other day, he asked me- "Soooo, when do you ovulate again?" Hold the phone- since when did this kind of stuff make me melt?!?! Since last month it made me melt. Since last month when he dealt with my crazy meltdowns about "we must take our vitamins, please use the smaller cup on the keurig if you must have coffee, make sure you wear boxers and not boxer briefs, what do you mean you're tired and don't want to do it for the 7th day in a row, and are you sure you want to drink another beer tonight?! Oh great, our kid is going to end up having 3 eyes."</p> <p>Fast forward to CD 38- spotting. Spotting?! What could this mean. Oh this could mean two things. Implantation or AF. Implantation...ha. I had a positive OPK on CD 25&amp;26 (I have longer cycles- regularly 38-40 days.) It was AF, for sure. I had planned to test 3 days after that. I had planned to miss my period, of course. I had planned to see that glorious BFP the very first time we tried. That is exactly what I had planned.</p> <p>Instead, I was humbled. I didn't even get to pee on a stick, but it was exactly what I needed. I went from feeling liberated and excited after throwing my BC in the trash, to feeling hopeful and fairly patient while my cycle regulated a bit, to being a crazed control freak the first month of trying, to feeling sad/disappointed/angry with myself. </p> <p>I googled everything and anything I felt/smelled/heard...yadda yadda. By the end of last month, this is what I had concluded:<br /> 1. I google way too much...I have now self diagnosed myself with everything under the sun.<br /> 2. I ain't preggers.<br /> 3. I am terrified of temping- more freak for the control freak? errr thanks, but no thanks...I just honestly don't think I could survive.<br /> 4. OPK's suck...until you get that cute little smiley staring back at you.<br /> 5. My husband has more patience than I could fathom...and a heart of gold.<br /> 6. I can't wait to be pregnant.<br /> 7. I can't wait to hold my sweet little angel in my arms.<br /> 8. I can't control things that are out of my control. i.e: the unknown.<br /> 9. I love wine. And coffee.<br /> 10. No matter how long this journey takes, this baby will be worth it. Worth every little bit.</p> <p>I gave up so many things last month because I read so many different articles/views on ttc, the tww, and pregnancy itself. I gave up coffee, I gave up wine, I gave up my favorite high intensity workouts, I gave up "making love," I gave up having balance in my life, I gave up my sanity. And I was humbled. </p> <p>This month (and hopefully from here on out,) I am trying to be more relaxed. For everybody's sake. I am enjoying my one cup of coffee, my one glass of wine, my favorite workouts, my time with my husband, and the adventures we share together. I learned so much in one short month.</p> <p>I thought I'd share with all of you and ask you what you have learned during your journey of TTC? </p>