https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 17:39:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985374 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:42:46 +0000 rachiecakes 985374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I found out I was having a boy, soo many people said, "oh well, girl next time!" </p> <p>if you say so, idiot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985365 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:40:59 +0000 dagret 985365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@indi: darnit, that's a good one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985353 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:38:21 +0000 indi 985353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: "All the better to run you over with, my dear." ;-)</p> <p>I haven't had much yet, because we're still wrapping up the 1st tri. I have had a few people ask if it was planned or if we were trying. I usually smile and say, "yep, we had a great first year of marriage and felt it was a good time" when I really want to say "yeah, we know how these things happen and we both showed up naked one night." Bah! I don't ask about your sex life, so please don't ask about mine if you don't want a straight-forward answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985306 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:25:38 +0000 googly-eyes 985306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: That is obnoxious!! If we have another I kind of want another girl too!</p> <p>@Bookworm: I don't know why people even bother asking that about newborns... I mean seriously..if they had said "oh she could sleep through now, try x y z to get her to sleep" I'd have felt crappy, and if people said "she won't sleep through for a long time" I'd have felt crappy. Can't people just say "you're doing great, good job!" </p> <p>I have bit my tongue a lot but I don't have a ton of interesting examples off the top of my head... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985169 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:43:43 +0000 dagret 985169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: Forgot to answer your question. I have 2 coworkers who are mean girl-ing me about my minivan. Every time they harass me about it I say "It's what works best for our family" instead of "This is really none of your F-ing business." </p> <p>@Bookworm: @grizz: L is 6 months old and people STILL ask this question. My Mom asks me EVERY DAY how the baby slept the night before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985106 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:13:28 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 985106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This reminds me of the Mike Birbiglia bit "What I should have said was nothing, what I did say was..." </p> <p>A guy at a coffee shop asked if I was pregnant. I don't think I look pregnant, but he knows I got married last year so maybe he was assuming? I don't know. </p> <p>What I did say was, "Nope, not unless you know something I don't."<br /> What I wanted to say, "Didn't your mother tell you not to ask that question?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985093 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:08:09 +0000 Maysprout 985093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: douche canoe is great, it's a shame you can't really break that one out.<br /> @Andrea: I was really caught off guard and probably blinked a few times because it took a lot not to say 'no shit', maybe next time I'll have a bit more pointed but still socially acceptable response. I've had a few people say stuff like 'oh your DH needs a son' or how DH is just getting too outnumbered, but I haven't really taken those offensively. This was the first time I had someone seem like they were really offering condolences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985091 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:07:59 +0000 Bookish 985091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: lmao @ douche canoe. I can't believe how obsessed everyone with LO's sleep habits! Even the cashier at a restaurant last night asked how much sleep we are getting...</p> <p>Can people really not think of anything else to ask? :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985074 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:57:27 +0000 Boheme 985074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookworm: Same! </p> <p>We have a neighbor couple who asks every time I see them if DS is sleeping through the night... This is sometimes several times a week! What I say: 'Oh, not yet but we're managing.' What I want to say: 'I will punch you in the throat if you ask again, douche canoe.' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985061 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:53:54 +0000 Bookish 985061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had several people ask me if my four week old is sleeping through the night.</p> <p>What I said: No, but she's only waking up once or twice; it's not too bad!<br /> What I wanted to say: Are you f%#+ing kidding?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985048 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:49:01 +0000 Andrea 985048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had lots of people say that to me. I told them that I actually wanted 2 girls and thanks a lot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985044 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:46:32 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 985044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wouldn't it be lovely to say exactly what you want for a dark? You could get away with snarky remarks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-i-wanted-to-say-vs-what-i-said#post-985037 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:42:34 +0000 Maysprout 985037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I ran into someone I hadn't seen for a long while and she asked if I knew if I was having a boy or girl.<br /> Me: 'we're having another girl :happy: '<br /> Her: 'ohh...well, that's OK'</p> <p>What I wanted to say: 'no shit it's OK, I wasn't exactly looking to be comforted on the matter'<br /> What I said: 'yeah, not a lot of boys come out of our family but sisters are fun'.</p> <p>Any recent people make you want to say something different than what you actually said? </p>