https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 20:52:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-249006 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 20:32:43 +0000 ladyfingers 249006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me too!! But DH reminds me the same as what @MaisyMay said. He tells me all the time what a good mom I'll be. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248847 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 16:04:42 +0000 mrsjyw 248847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: :*) seriously tears.</p> <p>TY for the reassurance ladies!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248599 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 11:43:55 +0000 chopsuey 248599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's tough and definitely tests your patience, but you'll do great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248425 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 08:44:30 +0000 EloiseKE 248425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I constantly beat myself up about not being a good mother, more so than usual since my 6 week old screams non stop. I hate feeling this way. I have a 4 year old as well and everyone always says "She's so happy/smart/polite" and it makes me feel good, but then I have days like today where I just feel like a total failure. But like my mother tells me "It's the bad ones who don't give a crap." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248423 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 08:36:49 +0000 DillonLion 248423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lady, you are going to be an awesome mom. I just know it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248379 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 07:20:29 +0000 sorrycharlie 248379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am terrified of this! Also afraid that I won't like her, or will resent her for lack of sleep/less time with husband/people wanting to visit/etc. I am up all night, every night with anxiety now. I just want the next 7 weeks to fly so that I can sleep again..not that with a newborn I expect sleep, but I'm tired of being so upset and anxious every night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248352 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 05:59:08 +0000 Shimmer 248352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel this way every single day now that I'm approaching 36 weeks. I'm told the feeling subsides to a degree. And many people have said the same to me as @MaisyMay has to you. </p> <p>*hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248351 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 05:09:24 +0000 Beyond2 248351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 34 weeks I'm having the same fears cross my mind. I've always been a great caretaker of people but now I worry it won't translate into motherhood... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248343 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 03:01:07 +0000 BoogieBea 248343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure you'll be a great mom. That doesn't mean that there won't be days where you'll feel like a failure at mommyhood. We can only strive to try our best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248336 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 02:16:16 +0000 looch 248336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends how you define "good." Honestly, sometimes I suck as a mom, that's how it goes though. Other times I want to high five myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248286 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 23:06:00 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 248286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You'll be a great mom. Weve all had these thoughts/fears and so far we aren't doing so bad :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248282 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 22:38:54 +0000 MamaCate 248282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that worrying about it is a sign of how committed you are, which is a huge piece. Just like with any new job or role, there is a learning curve that can feel pretty steepp at the beginning and can be humbling. While i think it is important to strive to be a great mom, it is also important to be gentle with yourself, especially at the beginning... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-248278 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 22:28:25 +0000 Mrs. Blue 248278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm terrified that I won't be a good mom, and my mom still swears she wasn't as good of a mom as she should be/have been (even though everyone who knows her considers her the golden standard of motherhood). I think it's just mommy guilt and worry! </p> <p>You'll do great because you'll love your LO to pieces! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-246258 Thu, 02 Aug 2012 20:46:48 +0000 MamaMoose 246258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaisyMay: this exactly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-246239 Thu, 02 Aug 2012 20:43:23 +0000 MaisyMay 246239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that the moms who worry about whether they will be good moms are the ones who are good moms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-if-im-not-a-good-mom#post-246228 Thu, 02 Aug 2012 20:40:56 +0000 mrsjyw 246228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been the giver and caretaker in all of my relationships (friends, ex's, DH, parents).... and so naturally thought that being a mom (before getting pregnant) would be like a sixth sense for me.</p> <p>The past week or so though, I've had random thoughts like "well no, just because you're good at taking care of adults in your life, doesn't mean you'll be good at taking care of a baby/child."</p> <p>Just the preggo hormones... but def keeps coming up in my mind.</p> <p>Anyone with me? </p>