https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 17:48:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1541038 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 19:54:56 +0000 googly-eyes 1541038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Time. We want LO to have a sibling but we would feel too stressed/drained/busy after two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1541012 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 19:47:14 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1541012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always wanted two so they would have a sibling. We could have had three (I was a couple weeks from turning 32 before Olive was born). But we both agree three is too hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1540952 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 19:26:27 +0000 MrsH 1540952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Desire and time. DH was in the two camp but I think he is now in the one and done camp. I have a demanding job and don't feel like I have time to be a good mom to multiple children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1540929 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 19:18:31 +0000 MummaColston 1540929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3. I come from a family of 3 kids and we're all great friends. 3 is the most I can have while still fitting in a standard sedan. I've never wanted an only child and my first is so cute it'd be a shame not to have more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1539231 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 09:33:59 +0000 LovelyPlum 1539231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.Pumpkin: so happy for you! I agree, I'd love a bigger family, but if I can only have one, then I'm so grateful that I just get that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1539227 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 09:30:45 +0000 MrsKoala 1539227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Finances. We're planning on two with an option for a third depending on how we feel financially. My parents couldn't afford the number of children they had and it was tough growing up. I don't want to do the same to my kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1539143 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 09:05:44 +0000 yellowbird 1539143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Desire. We will have as many as we want, but I'm leaning toward 3 and so is dh. I have one sibling and he is one of 4. 3 seems like a good fit for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1539113 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 08:52:44 +0000 LuLu Mom 1539113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm more 2 and through, DH is more 2 with the option of a 3rd. </p> <p>I'm most worried about space, financials, &amp; putting my body through 3 c-sections which is why I would be thrilled with 2. DH wuold really like to try for a boy (if #2 is a boy I think we would be done, but if we have a 2nd girl he would like to go for #3, I would for sure by tying those tubes up after 3 no matter what!) :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538951 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 07:53:33 +0000 Pumuckl 1538951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Desire. We want at least 2 and an option for #3. We'll see how it plays out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538901 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 07:29:45 +0000 heartonastring 1538901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Desire. We don't feel the burning need to have more than one.</p> <p>Marital happiness. We're happy now, but I'm not sure we would be if we added more children and responsibility, and therefore had less time for one another.</p> <p>Personal goals. There are things we want to do that wouldn't be as attainable if we had more children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538883 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 07:18:24 +0000 bisous 1538883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money. I would love 4 kids but I don't think that will ever be a wise decision financially. Also, I love my career too much to be able to handle 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538783 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 06:03:00 +0000 Ms.Pumpkin 1538783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Age! We didn't meet until later in life, so I'm having my first at 36! We both grew up with siblings, and would love for our LO to have a brother or sister, but the timing might not work out. As it is, we're going to have to go into Irish twin territory to make the spacing work out. :silly: </p> <p>But if we end up being one and done for whatever reason, I think we'll be fine with that. I'm still in such disbelief that we're actually pregnant, and feel like even one LO is just such an incredible gift, when we both had just about resigned ourselves to being single and childless forever! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538612 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 22:44:17 +0000 ALV91711 1538612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in the fence. We always wanted two but right now are loving being a family of three. </p> <p>I'd really like DS to have a sibling though. We will reevaluate next year and hopefully by then we will have gotten some sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538603 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 22:37:18 +0000 lovehoneybee 1538603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rocker2014: I can totally empathize. I was one of 7 (although 3 of them were step, but from an early age), and I got the least amount of attention (my siblings had...problems). It definitely impacted my decisions about family planning. </p> <p>Right now we're between 1-2. I think I would (someday) like a second LO. D is increasingly open to it, but it's not his first choice. For us the driving forces are money and attention. We can give E a decent life, financially, and he can be the center of our world. Having a second could impact everything from how much we pay for college to how much attention we can give each (something I didn't have) to what sort of vacations we take to...etc etc. I know those aren't so important to everyone, but they are to us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538600 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 22:30:20 +0000 Ree723 1538600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Logistics and practicality are our main reasons. We're going to be travelling internationally a lot (between DH and I, we have immediate family on three continents) and doing it with two children as opposed to three, is just so much more feasible. </p> <p>Really though, we'd love to have three kids so we may just go for a third in a few years time anyway and adapt as best we can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538553 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 21:58:16 +0000 blackbird 1538553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs chocolate, that's a factor for us. When I was 22, my 19 yo brother passed away. It's no guarantee my kids are friends, but I can't help but still want more than 2. I suppose like everything in our lives, our experiences color our future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538503 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 21:26:18 +0000 Rocker2014 1538503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Chocolate:Fortunately, I currently have 14 nieces and nephews, with more on the way, so our only won't be lonely! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538467 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 21:05:38 +0000 NavyRN2012 1538467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Desire. I always wanted 2, and now that I have 2 I just don't feel like we're done. So after we PCS next summer we will start trying for #3. I imagine we will be done then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538322 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 20:06:11 +0000 yin 1538322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two and through. I can't handle more than two kids, and my mental health would suffer greatly. Another reason is that I don't want to be pregnant again and deal with doctors. I had bad experiences both times, and I know I would have to face maternal fetal again over GD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538294 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:57:43 +0000 Lindsay05 1538294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Chocolate: Weird. I feel the same way with having two. Sucks so much for your cousins and families :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538206 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:34:52 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1538206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Infertility. In the beginning we imagined having 3 kids. That definitely won't be happening now. We have two embryos left. From them we may have twins, or one, or none. I'll be happy just to have one now. If neither of the embryos take we will adopt one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538202 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:33:46 +0000 Cole 1538202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want 2 with the slight possibility of 3. I have been a nanny for a long time and the dynamic I have always enjoyed the most is with two kids, I am very grateful to have had the chance to "test drive" several options and I think it is probably what we will stick with. I also feel like a family of four is the most practical, four fits in almost all cars, things come in even numbers, hotels usually fit four people etc. Growing up in a bigger family it felt like we were constantly trying to find ways to accommodate our larger group. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538159 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:24:36 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 1538159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rocker2014: Tell your husband coming from an only child the grass isnt always greener. As an only you get all the attention, good or bad. Every mistake, bad grade, accident in the house its on you. No one to share or attempt to shift the blame on. Its also very lonely on rainy days or vacations when there is no one to play with. I always wanted a big family, we all want what we dont have I guess :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538147 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:20:23 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 1538147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im an only child. All my life I dreamed of a large home with chaos and noise. I wanted to have nine kids at one point Clearly I was brought down to reality as I got older. I am open to 4-5 kids, I want to adopt but dont know if it will happen but I want a large family. DH was adamant for a long time on only wanting 2, I wouldnt budge on at least 3. He got on board and we have planned our lives around the idea of 3, 4 bedroom house, bigger car to seat 3 carseats etc. I know 3 is a far cry from 9 or even 5 but Im ok with 3 so 3 it is. I think age wise and money wise this is about where we can manage and be happy still. </p> <p>On a side note I also knew I wanted more than 2 because 2 of my cousins passed away young, one was 11 when a car struck her in her neighborhood and one was 21 and was sick with a rare disease. Both of their siblings (my other cousins) were left as only children all of a sudden at much later stages in their lives. I felt so bad for them to all of a sudden be alone and not have the sibling they knew all their lives gone like that. I dont want to imagine something happening to any of my children but these experiences also are the reason I just want to have more than 2 just in case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538129 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:13:03 +0000 winniebee 1538129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want 2, maybe 3. Will stop at 2 if I am on bed rest fort second pregnancy again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538126 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:11:14 +0000 Canoli 1538126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our sanity and time. Ideally my husband would like 4 children which I have never even thought of but he is 40 and I'm 35 and we will be having our second in a few weeks. I think we'll have 3. We'll have 2 boys and maybe be lucky to add a little girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538043 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 18:31:01 +0000 DillonLion 1538043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Selfishness? Lol. I dont want to deal with more children. Plus the cost </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1538039 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 18:29:25 +0000 Bookish 1538039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: @Elderberrygin: :happy: Yeah, I thought having one (and enjoying her!) would make me want more, but surprisingly, the more fun she is, the more I just want to have one. Weird! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1537983 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 17:59:16 +0000 Rubies 1537983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're two and through.</p> <p>- Don't want to be outnumbered<br /> - I have been blessed with two healthy kids<br /> - My life is soooooo full </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-1-driving-force-behind-the-of-los-youll-have/page/2#post-1537971 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 17:54:38 +0000 Andrea 1537971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mental health! I am alone all week with the kids. I can't do more than 2! </p>