https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 07:37:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-764967 Tue, 07 May 2013 08:49:48 +0000 littlebittyhouse 764967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are both FT WOH. It varies depending on schedules and busy season but for the most part it is about 50/50. LO is still nursing so I should tip the scales but at night when I am feeding LO, DH washes all the pump parts and bottles. On weekends we trade off. I feel so blessed to have such an involved DH! </p> <p>The flip side is during his busy season (Jan-April) it is 100% me M-F and then 80/20 (me) on the weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-764963 Tue, 07 May 2013 08:47:41 +0000 winniebee 764963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my husband is working - 70/30</p> <p>When he's not working - 50/50</p> <p>His schedule just doesn't afford him the opportunity to pick up more slack since he's simply not around. When he's home, he's very very hands on. Regardless, he always gives T his nightly bath and feeds him dinner/plays with him after work and before bed. I usually am cleaning up or prepping our meal during that time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-764955 Tue, 07 May 2013 08:43:17 +0000 swurlygurl 764955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm... during the work week it's probably 50/50. I EP, so he has to take care of her while I'm pumping. On the weekends, it's more like 90 me/10 DH. He's always working on house projects at our house of his parents' house, so I have to take care of her even when I'm pumping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-764806 Tue, 07 May 2013 07:47:23 +0000 kml636 764806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sera_87: your DH's response just made me LOL. It's so funny how much credit they want for things moms regularly do. My DH does help a lot but certain things he won't do unless explicitly asked, and that's annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-764749 Tue, 07 May 2013 06:18:12 +0000 ValentineMommy 764749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we FIRST had him and I was recovering from my csection - it was 75% HIM, 25% me. He got up with him at night so I could sleep and everything. It was great.</p> <p>Now that the "honeymoon" is over (lol), it's something like<br /> 90% me/ 10% him ...and that might be generous. We both work full time, but he also goes to school at night. Sigh - I can't wait for that to be over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-759594 Fri, 03 May 2013 11:29:12 +0000 dagret 759594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>80/20 but only b/c i EBF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-759591 Fri, 03 May 2013 11:27:19 +0000 sunshineandsushi 759591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say 60/40 only because DH works longer hours than I do. But when we're both home, it's 50/50. Before they started STTN, he would get up with me to do feedings and change diapers. He's the one who packs my pump bag in the morning and most of the time he is the one who is washing bottles. At bathtime, one of us washes them, the other gets them dried off, lotioned up and dressed. </p> <p>I think it's different with twins though, I am insistent that he be hands on. :) There's two babies, two of us, so it evens out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751834 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 08:25:36 +0000 MsLipGloss 751834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Sorry doll. I'm a WOHM, I BF at night/early mornings/weekends, and the ratio is still 90% me and 10% DH. Basically, unless I ask him to feed her (puree), or hold/play with her so that I can go to the bathroom/ shower, etc., it all falls to me. Not that he doesn't want to help, but . . . for example, when I get up at 5:30-6:00 on the weekends (her usual wakeup time), he hasn't ever volunteered to let me sleep in while he watches her, I do bedtime, I prep her bottles for the day, etc. On the other hand, every once in a while he will come in and say something silly like "gimme mah babeh!" and just take her away for a while. So, maybe I was a bit unfair and should say 85/15. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751830 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 08:20:51 +0000 Sammyfab 751830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say it's 60/40 even though I'm a SAHM and we were nursing up until 2 months ago. DH gets LO every morning and he does bedtime every night. On the weekends he puts LO down for his nap, feeds him most meals and still does bedtime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751822 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 08:16:08 +0000 crunch 751822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>85/15 with me being 85. We both work and have flexible schedules, but I always do middle of the night wakings, mornings and evenings. I feel like I'm being generous with the 15 (only because he makes his food) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751820 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 08:12:46 +0000 MamaMoose 751820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say 75/25 with me being the 75. But it's not his fault... LO is EBF and is going through a phase of only wanting mama to put her to sleep so hubs has no real option to help more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751678 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 05:26:01 +0000 Lozza 751678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably 60% DH / 40% me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751648 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 00:17:00 +0000 MsMini 751648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH said that before this weekend when I went back to work it has been 90% me, 10% him. He thinks that now that I am back it will be 70% me, 30% him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751638 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 23:58:15 +0000 MaisyMay 751638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably 45/55 with DH getting the 60. He leaves before she gets up, so I do the 3-5 hours before daycare. He picks her up from daycare at gets 3-4 hours alone with her awake. When I get home, I feed her solids while we eat. We do her bath together, and then he does the final bottle and puts her to bed. He cleans the bottles while I do the pumping. If she wakes during the night, he feeds her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751611 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 23:19:02 +0000 Mrs. Blue 751611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since I'm still on maternity leave probably 75/25, but when I go back it will be pretty much 50/50. When he's home, we pretty much divide and conquer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751608 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 23:16:29 +0000 googly-eyes 751608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>80/20 me/dh? I SAH so that's why.. If I worked it would probably be around 50/50 because I am utterly insistent that he helps out. Call it nagging but he'll just have to deal with that, she's his responsibility too. And he likes to be hands on so usually I don't have to say much. It's more the background things (cleaning bottles, packing diaper bag, making baby food, etc) that he has nothing to do with, but he and dd have a great relationship so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751600 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 23:03:49 +0000 twoofeverything 751600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: I could have written your post! I'm in the exact same boat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751588 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 22:49:15 +0000 Penny Lane 751588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably 90/10. I BF and SAH while DH works 50 hour weeks + has a lot of responsibilities through our church at the moment. </p> <p>He changes the occasional diaper, does evening wake ups (which are only giving a dummy and patting LOs back), hangs out while I cook dinner and does things for me while I'm occupied (fetching water for me, towels at bath time, etc.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751570 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 22:34:42 +0000 skibobrown 751570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Until March it was probably<br /> Him: 80%<br /> Me: 20%<br /> DH went back to work in March, and his commuting schedule means that I spend more time w/ DD now, so I think now it's more like<br /> Him: 35%<br /> Me: 65% </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751563 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 22:31:06 +0000 keiki_mama 751563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say 60% me and 40% DH... some days DH will take on more than 40%. I give most of the baths, cook all the meals, and I feed LO at night. DH is really great at playing with LO and keeping him entertained. We both work outside of home full time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751557 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 22:24:29 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 751557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty close to 50/50.<br /> Dh watches Dd while I'm at work, and I watch her while he's at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751548 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 22:17:20 +0000 yoursilverlining 751548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to say 50/50. We both work 40++ outside of the home. I do 100% of baths, dinner feeding (solids), and putting LO to bed; but DH cooks dinner while I do bathtime and takes LO and gets her dressed in the am because I am *not* a morning person. He takes her downstairs on the weekends and let's me sleep as long as I like; so frankly, I'm fine doing whatever else! Even if I do more child duties in the pm, DH does other household necessary duties, so I think it evens out to 50/50 across the board. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751531 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 21:54:39 +0000 sera_87 751531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just asked DH what he thought it was - and he said 70/30 him!</p> <p>Excuse me while I go check him for the ability to lactate. </p> <p>And bang my head against the wall. &gt;_&lt; </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so/page/2#post-751515 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 21:33:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 751515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me 40%<br /> Him 60% </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so#post-751513 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 21:30:54 +0000 78h2o 751513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad I'm not alone! I'd say 95% me, 5% DH. It used to be 100% me but he's trying. He now takes her to daycare 2-3 times per week and will watch her for 1-2 hrs on a Sat or Sun.</p> <p>We both work, but I am EBFing, so I am the only one that gets up with her at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so#post-751501 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 21:21:28 +0000 Weagle 751501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>70/30. I'm a SAHM, so I obviously do more with her. But, DH is very, very hands on and does a lot with her in the evenings and weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so#post-751496 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 21:19:50 +0000 littlek 751496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm WOHM but DH works more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so#post-751422 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 20:28:15 +0000 Mrsjets 751422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mon-Fri 80% me 20% DH as I'm a SAHM<br /> Sat-Sun 50/50</p> <p>DH is very hands on but I always bathe DS as well as make/prep meals. I consider myself very lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so#post-751420 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 20:27:49 +0000 pinkcupcake 751420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>90-10 (I do the 90) but that's bc I'm a sahm. On his days off though he probably does about 60. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-ratio-of-child-care-between-you-and-your-so#post-751415 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 20:25:28 +0000 matador84 751415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>at least 90/10...borderline 95/5 or nearly 100/0. i solo parent all week, if/when DH does make it home DS is already asleep. weekends he watches him when he can so i can get a break if i'm lucky.</p> <p>plus i work full time. </p>