https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 01:21:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation/page/2#post-2904893 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 18:55:50 +0000 wrkbrk 2904893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Purpledaisy: My wife and I both WOH full time. Not changing. We only have one LO so it’s manageable! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation/page/2#post-2904765 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 21:23:45 +0000 DillonLion 2904765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM! I've done both and MUCH prefer staying at home. I love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904667 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 13:38:26 +0000 gotkimchi 2904667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: thanks for the advice and info! I’ve pretty much decided working blows no matter what 😭 should’ve married rich </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904665 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 13:35:33 +0000 LCTBQE 2904665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: :meh: YEP. that's what I gave up. </p> <p>what I got in return was legit time with the babies which is irreplaceable and which I wasn't getting before, and the cessation of misery from my old job. I think if you're not unhappy then you just have to be pretty realistic about whether or not you can really create a situation where you get more time in your life, which if you can, more power to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904663 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 13:31:26 +0000 gotkimchi 2904663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: that’s the thing, I could def get a job but I think it would be less money/vacation and worse hours. Which is what’s kept me here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904662 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 13:27:49 +0000 LCTBQE 2904662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: ugh, I really don't know, truthfully, and it's uncomfortable to not know. I think ideally I'd really like a f/t job that isn't crazy stressful where I can work from home for a day or two--I live in the NJ suburbs but all my professional opportunity for f/t work would be in Manhattan with 3 hours a day of commuting, and it's the commute that was eating all the time I would have had with the babies. </p> <p>I quit f/t because my formerly-awesome job went rotten on me and I was there a loooonng time, so it felt like the right thing to do to leave--but I kind of walked into a vacuum. I have enough work that I'm working nights a lot post-baby-bedtime, so I'm *still* not getting the "break" that your earlier post talks about wanting. There is something really nice about having a full time job where you can just leave it at work and when it's MLK day and the office is closed, you're truly off. I know that's also about finding the right f/t job, but working from home I never feel like I'm done. Anyway, if you did quit, how easy could it be to get it back if you changed your mind? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904639 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 12:49:36 +0000 gotkimchi 2904639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: are you planing to return to work or keep freelancing?? I know I don’t want to stay at home but I was considering something more part time or work from home but I’m always worried I’ll miss this and want to get it back </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904521 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 19:56:12 +0000 pachamama 2904521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a high school Spanish teacher, going back to work full time in mid January. I've been off since October 2018 for leave and maternity leave. I'm looking forward to going back except for the fact it's full time; I wish it was like 25 hours a week. I do love teaching tho. I'm also getting my ENL certification now too, thinking I might stay home next year, finish that cert, and find a new job teaching English. Probably a terrible idea considering I hate being home with 2 kids 🙊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904518 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 19:39:01 +0000 petitenoisette 2904518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH full time, but I’m a teacher so I have the summer off and am finished early. I really like my job and the ability to temporarily be a SAHM during the fun summer months and then go back to normal in the fall. I wouldn’t like being a SAHM, I’m not good at getting out of the house on a daily basis which I think you need to do for your sanity! We also rely on my salary so it’s not an option anyway. I was able to take two longer maternity leaves which I loved. I do daydream about having a third only do that I could take another maternity leave. :silly: The one thing I don’t like about my job is the commute, it’s about 45 min in the am and unpredictable in the pm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904489 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 16:16:31 +0000 msredbeansandrice 2904489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Full time WOHM. I’m an attorney. I love my job and I work for a great organization. It’s hard right now at times but I have huge upside with my career and I make a substantial income that makes a big difference in our lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904461 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 13:51:48 +0000 SweetCaroline 2904461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH 50-55 hours/week. I wish it was more like 35-40. I have a pretty flexible schedule for doctor appointments, school events, etc. but taking an unexpected day off for a sick kid is hard because it puts me 10 hours behind at work. We're short staffed and growing quickly so it's a hamster wheel.</p> <p>ETA: I used to work more like 60+ hours a week but I stopped doing that as it was unstainable and I was very unhappy. Same company, same position, I justputthe brakes on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904459 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 13:42:09 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2904459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work out of home a traditional 8-4 M-F schedule. I do research in a biochemistry lab so some experiments take extra planning to make the timing work. In staying at the bench there is really no work at home alternative but so far I don't want to, I really love what I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904454 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 13:35:33 +0000 MrsSCB 2904454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work full time, four days in the office, one from home (Fridays usually). I would not make a good stay at home mom, but if I could choose my ideal work schedule, it would be 30 hours a week (six hours a day), with two WFH days. Not likely unless my husband gets a big raise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904449 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 13:25:47 +0000 Rocker2014 2904449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH full time and then some - I'm the one with the crazy unpredictable schedule and late nights in our family. I love my career and job and am lucky enough that DH works a very stable, predictable 9-5 job that allows him to do daycare drop offs and pickups. We only have 1 LO and while there are many reasons we are one and done, my commitment to my career is a part of it. I feel like I can give one child enough attention to feel as though I'm balancing things well for our family, I'm not sure I could do that with two or more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904435 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 12:20:11 +0000 LemonJack 2904435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH FT as a teacher. In an ideal world I would work part time because the school year is so hectic and busy, but there are few part time teaching positions. I am incredibly fortunate that I get summers at home with my kids though, and I do not take that for granted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904434 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 12:18:38 +0000 LCTBQE 2904434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Purpledaisy: this fall I quit my full time WOH job and am freelancing from my house part time while my kids (15 months and 3y3m) are in daycare/preschool. I drop them off at 8:45am and pick them up around 3/3:30pm. Love getting the extra time with them--this feels like the "right" amount of time for me to be spending with them while they're so young. </p> <p>But, I do not love freelancing and really miss the stability, responsibility, interaction, and paycheck that came with my full time job. Ideally I'd like to get another full time job where I can work from home 1-2 days a week, I think that would be a perfect situation, like what @purplepumps: has. I will say having the afternoon/evening with them is giving me a little taste of what it must be like to be a legit SAHM and it is *not* for me and I have SO MUCH respect for SAHM's. And I'm a real suzy-homemaker type, I love cooking and cleaning and babies. But I'm finding I love the ego trip of working and making money more ;) Have you ever had a break from work that would give you an idea of what it would be like to SAH, besides your mat leaves? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904430 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 11:57:01 +0000 JennyPenny 2904430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH full time at a family friendly company with flexibility and great benefits. I don't think I'd enjoy SAH so I'm really grateful to have a job that doesn't even leave me thinking it might be a better option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904423 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 11:13:30 +0000 PurplePumps 2904423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work out of the house part time 3 days/week (mon-wed) and i think it's perfect for me. Just enough time to get out of the house to interact with other adults in a professional setting, take my mind off child care for a little, but still a day or 2 off (do works every other Friday) just to myself with our son and to run errands while my husband is at work. And having the income is nice too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904415 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 10:12:55 +0000 josina 2904415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WOHM full time, I don't think I could do SAH because I need adult interaction, and time away from my kids, even though I love them to pieces, lol. It's nice to think I could SAH if we had another (which we most likely won't) but financially we can't afford it. I could potentially WAH for myself as a designer/photographer, but at this point I don't think the added stress of that is worth it. I like that I can leave work at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904402 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 09:47:10 +0000 graceandjoy 2904402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Currently and will forever be WOHM because I am the breadwinner. I def used to wish I could even consider SAH, but since I can't, I've learned to embrace my life the way it is and make the best of it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904383 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 08:49:43 +0000 LadyDi 2904383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SAH primarily because I was very miserable in my last position while I was pregnant with DS2. It seemed like a good time to step away and spend more time with my kids. Since then I had a surprise #3 and I probably would have ended up leaving anyway. I have mixed feelings about it! I miss critical thinking and feeling like I am good at something (I might have been unhappy in my job, but I was still good at it). I do some freelance work from home on a very part time basis. I'd love to do more but haven't figured out how to or when it would fit into my life. Being a SAHM is harder work than I anticipated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904382 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 08:48:09 +0000 Becky 2904382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH FT. I really like where I work, and for now the commute is about 3 minutes (office is moving in a few years and will be 15-20 minutes). It is so convenient living and working in the same town, where my children also go to school/daycare. My employer is pretty family friendly. I was really stressed when I first had DD2 and really didn’t want to work FT, but I switched to a less stressful position and now we’re pregnant with #3 (And the first two are a little older) and I’m really not stressed about the FT work. I also have a lot of family around which is very helpful. Ultimately after my student loans are forgiven I will work PT, likely with the same employer. I was just realizing today that we are efficient AF, but it took a few years (and Lexapro 😂) for us to get here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904381 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 08:44:38 +0000 skinnycow 2904381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a full-time WOHM. I consider SAH sometimes but I'm not sure if it's something I'll ever commit to. even though we can afford it I like the idea in theory, but I'm so worried that I'd hate it. I really enjoy my job, it pays well, and I have pretty good work-life balance for my industry. I just wish there was an option for me to work 50-60%.</p> <p>My husband travels a lot for work, so we've discussed me possibly quitting my job if we have a third kid. For now I'm mostly satisfied working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904378 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 08:17:15 +0000 Ajsmommy 2904378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH, with a one hr+ commute each way. I do not enjoy my job, well I guess I should say I dont' like it but there are aspects that I do like and enjoy. I AM good at it. I do not see anything changing until I can retire, which I HOPE to do early. My mom retired early and it's a goal of mine to do so as well. I want to be able to enjoy retirement... DH and I work hard to plan for this. But ultimately it might not happen, all depends. </p> <p>For me I think I would most enjoy a part time job bc I do crave the adult interaction and some cash flow is nice.</p> <p>I think what will happen is that we'll get to the point where I can leave my job (good pay, good benefits, stable) so I'll "retire" from this career and then i'll pick up something part time or that I enjoy... hopefully...… </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904376 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 07:21:57 +0000 gotkimchi 2904376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work modified full time which is 31/wk. it’s every other weekend and 2 x 11hr days per week. It can be a struggle. I like the money and adult interaction and I’m good at my job but I feel like I’m always either working or with the kids and I really need some alone time or time with my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904375 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 07:15:43 +0000 Pumuckl 2904375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WAHM and WOHM at the same time. I used to fully WAHM but have recently started to also work in another setting just so that I can get out of the house some. So far I am really enjoying being among other grown ups some more :) I am lucky enough to have full flexibilty on where I work so when one of the kids is sick, I need to do laundry or we expect a package or the like I can just work from home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904374 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 07:00:03 +0000 mamabolt 2904374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WAHM full time (with kids in FT school/care). There are still never enough hours in the day but it lets me squeeze in chores, errands, and workouts in the middle of the day so works for us. In a perfect world I’d drop to 75% but with structural changes at work it’s not likely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904371 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 01:47:07 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2904371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh sometimes I feel like I have the bad parts of both worlds as someone who WOHM part time. I think that’s because the stay at home parenting I do for most of the week .is intense since my husband works evenings 1-10pm. I work two day’s a week and would like to pick up another day or two but I find the grind of picking up the kids and dinner and bedtime and prepping for the following day with lunches etc way too exhausting for more days. I don’t know how parents who work normal schedules do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904369 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 01:36:25 +0000 Kemma 2904369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Back to being a SAHM since having baby #3 in April 2018 but I worked three days a week between #2 and #3. I would go back to work for the right role and salary package but it would need to be a position with flexibility as my husband is in the military and it would need to pay enough to offset any loss in family benefits that we currently receive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-current-work-situation#post-2904368 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 00:23:45 +0000 crazydoglady 2904368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH. My husband and I are both teachers, so it works out well for us to have very similar vacations and days off. I work throughout my lunch and prep so I don't have to bring work home, and I pretty much pick up my daughter from. daycare at 3 (DS comes home at 4 with DH.) It works well for us! Sometimes I do wonder what it would be like to be a SAHM, but I didn't really like the monotony of maternity leave, and missed adult interaction. </p>