https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 06:37:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1516966 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:39:59 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1516966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I just add everyone. MIL comments on everything and it cracks me up. My grandma always gets confused and writes random comments for me on my cousins wall for example. Doesn't bother me, I think it's fun/funny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1516869 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:10:15 +0000 alohaorchid 1516869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is on FB and drives me crazy. She's one of those people who is on it All. The. Time. Out for dinner? On her phone on FB. Watching TV? On her phone on FB. Having a conversation with someone? On her phone on FB. You get the picture...</p> <p>I don't post on there a lot but when I do she either likes it or comments on it within minutes. She also creeps on my friend's pages. etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515801 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:10:53 +0000 Dandelion 1515801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just don't post that much so I just add anyone if I know them. There's nothing that exciting on my fb. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515800 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:10:01 +0000 indi 1515800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I only add relatives I talk to occasionally or more, not the random extendeds. I also use the fb filters, like others have said, and I'm just rather direct. I've told family members specifically "do not share photos anymore, please, or I will have to remove you from seeing them." And I've deleted my mom's comments when she gets a bit too excited and plasters my wall in posts. But maybe I'm just a bit forward (or mean). :-) </p> <p>@wonderstruck: I hope so! I had my grandpa and a semi-estranged-but-I-added-you-to-be-nice family member who shared TONS of photos we posted (friends only) to their walls and they were public shares because that was their setting. I sure hope it meant that just our joint friends (like, 3 people) could see them, but I wouldn't bank on that. There were people from their work that I have never met that were commenting on what they'd shared, which lead to the conversations I referenced above. They were nice and took them down. I think it was just a generational "I don't understand internet privacy/safety/etiquette" thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515793 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:06:14 +0000 daniellemybelle 1515793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I have come to terms with the fact that Facebook is how family keeps in touch these days. Twitter &amp; IG are my "safe space." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515790 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:00:46 +0000 regberadaisy 1515790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can always put them in a group and filter them out of certain things like status updates or pictures that don't include LO? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515785 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:59:22 +0000 SweetiePie 1515785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I friend them all because I don't post anything anyway. I'm not very active on FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515781 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:50:50 +0000 junebugmama 1515781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually helped MIL fix her computer the other day, and found a creepy file she had of tons of pics she downloaded from my fb of the kids and us, because she was "going to print them" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515771 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:44:06 +0000 Synchronicity 1515771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I deactivated my Facebook a while ago, but when I was on there, I added family freely and had very few issues come up. I didn't post anything on there that I wouldn't be willing to share face-to-face, so that was never an issue, and my family aren't big on leaving comments or anything like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515762 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:40:55 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1515762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TBH, I pick and choose. There are cousins and aunts/uncles I'm not close with who have sent me requests, and I've ignored some of them. However, that's less because of what they would post on my pages, and more because of what they would post on their own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515757 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:39:20 +0000 wonderstruck 1515757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsB2012: Just so you know, when they hit the share button your privacy features still apply. So if you have it setup so that only friends can see your photos, even if they hit share the only people that will see them are people on their list that you're also friends with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515663 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 16:53:10 +0000 MrsB2012 1515663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents don't have fb so no big deal there. I have my MIL, SFIL and one BIL on fb. I'm seriously considering deleting them all because it annoys the crap out of me when they share pictures of DD. My BIL's gf tried to add me but I ignored the request. I'm Ok with all my family on, but would delete my inlaws right now if I didn't think it would start a war. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515639 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 16:36:16 +0000 snowjewelz 1515639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is no policy - </p> <p>We don't have big families<br /> Some family members don't have FB<br /> We don't post that much or anything we don't want people to know </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515499 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 14:14:27 +0000 looch 1515499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really have a policy, I just manage my friends lists carefully. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515497 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 14:11:44 +0000 Boheme 1515497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have all my husband's family members on a filtered list, and they can't see anything, nor do I see their posts. I like it that way :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515167 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 09:55:59 +0000 .twist. 1515167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thankfully my parents don't want to be on Facebook. </p> <p>I do add all family, but I have a 'family' group and they stay there and get filtered if needed. I also hide certain people if I don't want to offend them by unfriending them but don't want to see their posts ever. I feel like people forget how to hide people from Facebook? They are so quick to just unfriend when a much more passive and unnoticeable thing would be to just hide their feed from your view. Maybe I'm wrong and people are just unfriend happy. </p> <p>My inlaws are different, they comment on everything and anything and although it can sometimes be annoying I do get along with them really well and they don't bug me so much. Some of their relatives on the other hand.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515162 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 09:54:19 +0000 catlady 1515162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To be honest, most of my friends don't even use Facebook anymore, so I use it primarily for family! I don't share too much, just photos of the baby every now and then so everyone in the family can see her. No one in my family gets weird about it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515131 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 09:32:46 +0000 Applesandbananas 1515131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I friended everyone and then wound up just not posting anymore. I use the chat feature more than anything. I suppose I could just email but using chat is so much easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515070 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 08:25:48 +0000 twodoghouse 1515070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is all up in my grill on Facebook. As soon I post anything she has liked and commented. Sometimes my dad does too. I don't mind because I'm close to my mom and half the time I've already sent her the pic to look at via text already, haha. It was a little different when I was younger and my pics/statuses were us in bars, etc. My family doesn't care about stuff like that but my husband's is a little more easy to offend.</p> <p>I basically will friend any family member (except the crazies from my dads fam that we have no relationship with) but I'm quick to block their updates if they annoy me (with games, political posts). I don't care if they see my stuff though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1515056 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 08:18:11 +0000 MrsH 1515056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pick and choose. If people start over sharing on my page I either unfriend them or lock the page down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514955 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 06:48:05 +0000 fussygal 1514955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Filter, filter, filter. It's the only way. My family isn't too bad about FB, but it does drive me nuts that some family members comment on everything I post just because I posted it. The key is creating groups so you can easily filter their crap out of your feed AND you can choose which posts of yours they can see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514911 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 04:08:35 +0000 anonysquire 1514911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents don't have Facebook, too mature for such nonsense. And I've blocked all my inlaws. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514909 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 03:53:54 +0000 wonderstruck 1514909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother has a no family on FB rule, with an exception for relatives in his age range that he's actually friends with. OMG, I wish I had taken his lead on that!!!! Instead I felt bad and added everyone. Now I am stuck with a FIL who posts political memes that are usually quite offensive, an aunt who is all up in everyone's business trying to start dumbass drama like a high schooler, a grandma and aunt who hit the share button on EVERYTHING so that I am inundated with 'like if you love your daughter/son/Jesus/God/whatever' crap, a MIL who drives me nuts by commenting on everything with atrocious spelling and grammar (that may sound snobby, but it drives me CRAZY - mixes up too/too and their/they're/there, capitalizes random words but never the first letter of the sentence, puts a space before her period or exclamation point, etc.), and two cousins who are gun crazy and go batshit insane if anyone dares suggest that no, we do not agree that anyone who wants an assault rifle should be able to have one...</p> <p>I could go on, but I think you get the idea. Thank god the drama starting aunt just quit FB - she said it was causing too much drama and hurt feelings in her life (which really should be a clue that you take FB way too seriously, right??) The other people listed are now setup so that they do not pop up on my newsfeed, and I have to approve it when people tag me in posts (which became necessary after my aunt tagged me in some dumbass post about the vaccine/autism 'conspiracy' and how I need to stop vaccinating my kid NOW.) Even with these fixes, I still hate that I feel censored on my own FB. Like, my state just legalized gay marriage, and if I dare show my support for that on my FB I'll have people posting insulting comments that I would never want my LGBT friends to have to see.</p> <p>So basically...yes, I REALLY miss the days when you had to be in college to sign up for an account. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514820 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 23:37:41 +0000 Elderberrygin 1514820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Ughh. If I don't immediately respond to comments my parents leave on facebook they will ring me up and be all "DID YOU SEE OUR COMMENT ON FACEBOOK? WHY HAVEN"T YOU REPLIED? WE CAN SEE YOU"RE ONLINE!" So, I feel you. I have no good advice. I barely engage in facebook anymore because having my extended family on there, bless them, is just too much. And don't even get me started on my MIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514783 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 23:02:29 +0000 birdofafeather 1514783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I add all family but hide people I don't need to hear from. I have one cousin that's crazy and posts all the time, likes every status update, link etc, but I hide her from my feed otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514780 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 22:57:29 +0000 Torchwood 1514780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretty much add all family, but I do the custom list thing too, and limit what some people can see. I felt pretty obligated to add some of my mom's church friends (long story), but when I came out as an atheist I didn't feel comfortable having them find out that way (felt like they were her friends so it was her call on when/what to tell people), so that's when I started really monitoring who saw what. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514779 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 22:57:11 +0000 Mae 1514779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: omg that sounds so annoying. </p> <p>@Elderberrygin: I guess I could do that, but I couldn't just put the over-commenters on a list. I think I'd have to put ALL my inlaws on it so they couldn't compare notes. I actually took my FIL off my chat list first bc he kept trying to chat with me, and then when he came to our house the next time he was like "so I was on Facebook and didn't see you online but then I signed onto [his wife]'s Facebook and you WERE online. Why is that?" I'm like ummmmmmmm weird. (then blocked step-MIL from chat too… lol). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514773 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 22:52:06 +0000 Elderberrygin 1514773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty relaxed about adding people, but anyone I don't know that well (including family) gets put on my acquaintance list and basically gets major announcements and nothing else, and I use custom lists heavily. One of my custom lists is All Friends except my mother and MIL. I use it a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514772 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 22:51:41 +0000 Mae 1514772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Glitter: It isn't that I'm posting anything I don't want them to see. I'm pretty limited on what I post on Facebook, generally just funny/happy stuff or pics of the pets or my husband and I doing fun/funny stuff. So it's not that anything is too personal. It's just that I feel sort of… stalked. Like they sit around waiting for me to post something and then it's a contest to see who can comment on it the fastest. It just takes some of the fun of fb out of it for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-facebook-family-policy#post-1514770 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 22:50:00 +0000 lilteacherbee 1514770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't friends with my mom until recently for this reason. She comments on everything and then gets seriously offended if I don't "like" her stuff. Drives. Me. Nuts. </p> <p>I added her a month or so after my son was born because I was tired of fighting her on it. I've just come to the conclusion that she will comment on every single picture I post and she will take everything she sees posted literally. I remind myself that even though it annoys the crap out of me, it's just Facebook and it's not worth the fight.</p> <p>Good luck! </p>