https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 05:47:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1527664 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 19:48:48 +0000 HLK208 1527664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I try so hard not to but we definitely slip up a few times a week (mostly while driving). We don't want our kids to swear so we need to clean it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1527456 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 19:12:16 +0000 fussygal 1527456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up in a cursing household and so did DH. That being said, they all try to tone it down around kids (except when we were little lol). I cuss very rarely (usually to emphasize something) and DH cusses a lot, but can control it. I don't think I'd ever want kids to cuss in front of me until they're adults. To this day I still don't think my mom has ever heard me say anything worse than 'crap'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1527386 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 18:53:00 +0000 regberadaisy 1527386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure. I have a potty mouth and so does DH. Doesn't mean either of us are class less or disrespectful. It depends on how it's used. I couldn't care less if my kids kids cursed in front of me when they're much older. I curse so it would be hypocritical to say they they can't. </p> <p>If they curse AT us or someone though? a different story.<br /> @Silva: yes! When DH and I are home or with like minded minded friends we swear a lot. But never in public and never in front of people that will be uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1527384 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 18:52:30 +0000 sunny 1527384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up in a no cussing household and I think we will try to be the same for our kids. My mom even considered "crap" to be a cuss word! I think maybe we'll be a little more relaxed but definitely no cussing AT anyone. I once said "shut up" to my brother and I got in huuuuuuuuuuuuuge trouble. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1527377 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 18:50:48 +0000 mrbee 1527377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Pretty sure labor gives you a free pass on the f bomb! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1527373 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 18:49:42 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1527373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: oh I could never curse in front of my mom! I did one- I yelled the f word during labor and I immediately felt bad since she was holding my hand! Haha. I had been holding it back my entire labor lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526971 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:01:06 +0000 Silva 1526971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I'm not sure how we're going to handle this yet! I heard an interesting interview with a guy on NPR who was talking about his new parenting book and one of the topics was swearing. He said he raised his kids so that they understood that we have public behavior and private behavior, and when we are with our family we can swear but its not a very effective way of expressing yourself. He said his kids have never sworn in public/at school, but that his son did go through a long "swearing at home" stage.<br /> I don't know. Thought it was interesting.<br /> Most likely they will be words the kids aren't allowed to say, but we'll loosen up on enforcement as they get older, and drill in the public behavior idea (which makes sense to me. you don't swear at work, but you can swear with your friends- its important to learn that distinction). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526925 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:52:23 +0000 .twist. 1526925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: 100% agreed. </p> <p>DH and I both swear a ton. I grew up in a no curse house, DH did not. I agree with cursing is a privilege, and needs to be earned. </p> <p>Currently, our children are not allowed to swear at all. The eldest says dang, and that's about as close as he gets to it. The only reason he's allowed to say that is because his mother uses (in casual speak and towards them) much worse, and if that's the only one he's going to use at this time, I am A-OK with that. </p> <p>It's a little hard for us to make any rule set in stone since their mother is quite loose with her vocabulary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526920 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:50:55 +0000 Tidybee 1526920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We still get reprimanded if we curse in front of my parents but my parents curse all the time (and when were growing up. Even though I curse (a lot), I'll encourage my children to find other words to describe how they're feeling or how they describe a person. I just pulled this with my sister who said someone was a F, and she couldn't explain why she thought that. I think it will be good for their overall communication and conflicts in life if they can communicate better or rely on things other than curse words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526890 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:41:59 +0000 mrs. bird 1526890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>swearing is a privilege, you earn it as an adult with adult responsibilities. i have earned the right to drop an eff bomb when i've had all my tires cut. it is something to be used with discretion, it's not to be used to belittle loved ones (the guy cutting in front of me in traffic is not a loved one, i reserve the right to mutter mean things about him under my breath), it is not used in public around others that might be made uncomfortable by it, it is not an excuse to give up on using language to express one's self in an articulate manner. that said, i swear like a sailor sometimes, but can shut it off without a problem. once they're 16+, i'll probably allow damn &amp; crap as long as they're used responsibly, 18+ they can speak to me like an adult, i do expect adults to be respectful though ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526863 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:35:51 +0000 Kimberlybee 1526863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate it with all my being! I grew up around a few loud, verbally abusive people who cursed and used bad language freely (not immediate family but relatives who visited often). It was scary at first but then I started getting annoyed by it and didn't want to be around them anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526788 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:16:43 +0000 avivoca 1526788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't curse that often, and when I do, I feel terrible. My husband, on the other hand, has a mouth that rivals a sailor. I prefer it when he doesn't curse around our daughter and I would like to get to being a no-cursing household. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526772 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:10:24 +0000 blackbird 1526772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I curse. In fact, I notice I'm one of the few that will actually spell out curse words, lol. Dh does, too. We'll just deal with it as it comes, I suppose. Damn/crap aren't really bad words. Fuck is not a good word for a kid to say, ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526769 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:09:05 +0000 Happygal 1526769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a certain age in mind as to when I might start allowing here and there--it will depend on the child.</p> <p>By example, my parents taught us that swearing could be okay in certain context. It's something you can do in your home or around friends, but not loudly in public or with strangers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526726 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 14:57:34 +0000 Lindsay05 1526726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a bad mouth and so does DH. We will not allow it but it won't be a huge disciplining area. Unless it's meant in a really disrespectful way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526684 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 14:45:41 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1526684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would imagine my kids would use it the way I use it- very rare and usually when I hurt myself. Well, at least I hope that's the only time they hear me say curse words. I happen to like curse words and find the language colorful and playful when telling a story or joke. Just speaking like a sailor for no reason other than shock value or lack of vocabulary will not be acceptable ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526631 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 14:30:30 +0000 mlm2934 1526631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure! DH and I both came from non-cursing households, but we both do curse quite often in our home and with friends, but never in general public or mixed company. Something we need to think about... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526570 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 14:18:55 +0000 pui 1526570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will be a no cursing household.</p> <p>I don't curse often and when I do I apologize. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526538 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 14:11:00 +0000 mrsjazz 1526538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I grew up in no cursing households. LO will not be allowed to curse in our home. We both curse now but have been restricting it a lot since LO came along. I still don't curse in front of my mom, when I have slipped I always apologize! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526535 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 14:09:49 +0000 cheert16 1526535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: agreed~ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526531 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 14:08:59 +0000 fancyfunction 1526531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband curses but I don't. He's very conscious about not doing it around M though so we will be a curse-free house, esp when she's older. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526364 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:37:58 +0000 artsyfartsy 1526364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not in public and not to use to be disrespectful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526322 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:28:50 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1526322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We won't allow cussing. Neither of us cuss at home now. DH says work is a different story. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526316 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:27:59 +0000 swurlygurl 1526316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up with 0 cussing, and DH grew up with a LOT of cussing (kids and adults). We're around his family a lot, and they are all loose lipped with curse words, even though there is a 4 y.o. and a 2 y.o. ahead of L. I will not allow my children to cuss in the house, and will likely have to explain to them why it's okay that Daddy and Uncle and Grandpa do... (although I am working on everyone toning it down!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526311 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:26:24 +0000 Mae 1526311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both curse a lot, although it's sort of a habit my husband picked up from me because he didn't so much when we were first together. When our LO is young we will definitely try to avoid it. When they're older I'm not sure. My husband's parents just never did (still don't). My parents do a lot, and did when we were kids, but we still weren't allowed to until we were in high school. And at that point we couldn't cuss AT them or other people (i.e. no "she's a bitch"), but could cuss in general (I.e. "I just need to bitch about this for a minute…"). If we aren't naturally broken of the habit of cursing just from avoiding when our kids are young… I imagine we'll sort of follow my parents' rules. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526302 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:24:04 +0000 Greentea 1526302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do! :) I'll have to wait and see. Right now to me cussing is impolite, a matter of social graces but I do it in my home to blow off steam or express myself instead of yelling. Not in public however! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526301 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:23:42 +0000 Dandelion 1526301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They've got to be at least teenagers and know how to use it appropriately. Never towards me or DH (or really anyone else).</p> <p>I don't cuss hardly at all but DH does often. We refer it to "grown up talk" for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526299 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:23:23 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1526299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it distasteful and often disrespectful. I won't encourage it in our household. We don't curse... well, I slip up here and there, but I try not to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526278 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:18:57 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1526278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not ok. Neither one of us cusses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-stance-on-cussing-when-your-kids-are-older#post-1526273 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 13:17:23 +0000 autumnlove 1526273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up in a no cussing allowed household and DH didn't have any restrictions.</p> <p>We try to avoid it around the kids but we aren't always successful. I'm not sure what our policy will be when the kids are older...what about you? </p>